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My self-summary
I love looking through windows, especially old windows. The way glass ages and starts to warp, sag a little, the slight distortion making it a more mediated view. Looking through windows is like a film that is happening in real-time. I guess that's why I love film so much: the mediated experience of some other view. One of my favorite things to do is watch people while sitting in a cafe... I do love those cafes with the huge windows and hardwood floors, especially as I sip on some delicious coffee.

I like looking at the world around me as an observer and try to soak up things as much as possible, but the filmmaker in me tries to observe and not interact (not much of a showman)... not quite a voyeur... more like a Flâneur. That's why I love cities so much-- people fascinate me and I love being surrounded by people.

Lately I've noticed how much I like to hear wind rustling through trees. It's the small things in life that really get you in the end!
(and that is totally worth an exclamation, even if it is better to be whispered than shouted)
What I’m doing with my life
Working and dreaming, plus a whole lot of thinking!

Trying to think of something to add to the world that might be more useful than... hmmm... well, something positive...

I try to do one new thing a day, but some days one should stay in bed...
I’m really good at

People say I have the nicest handwriting... I can't say I believe it, but it is certainly shoulders above most everyone. (My sister has the nicest handwriting that I have seen) ... I have been practicing my handwriting since I picked up a crayon when I was just a wee lad...

I'm good at assembling small bits of film, splicing them together and generating some kind of meaning out of them.

I can load a Bolex in complete darkness in less than a minute! Okay, so it's not that impressive, but you try to do it quickly.
The first things people usually notice about me
my dashing bravado & commanding presence?

(maybe not)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
As far as media goes: anything charming, or intellectual-- if it's both than I'm usually in heaven and will spend a great deal of energy on it again (I love to watch/read/ listen to things over and over again. I believe that anything worth a gander is worth at least two...)

I re-read 'The Great Gatsby' every-year, and have been doing this over ten years! Like to collect and surround myself with books! Especially epics like Homer, Arabian Nights, 'Paterson' and all the rest. I just love to read! I almost forgot Borges; I love JLB!, perhaps the most important writer in the late 20th Century.

Movies are a tough thing-- I love moving images, and have spent the better portion of my adult life studying the ways in which things generate meaning by being placed in space and time.

Music and Food is a catch-all-- Love all good things, and am always looking to advance my palette... I spent ten years learning to like tomatoes, and it was totally worth it!
Six things I could never do without
I suppose I could re-list all of those things that I-must-have-to-live, but I feel as though it is hard for me not take these essentials seriously (and this part is begging for a little humor, right?)... so, I'll focus on those six things that I could 100% do without! And focus on the selfish side of myself, so I won't bore you with lists of awful things like poverty, war, pestilence, etc... which are awful, by the way...

1. Losing my patience! I hate when I start to feel as though I'm going to kill someone, or something if ________ [insert activity, person, event, mood] continues.... It also points out to me my short-comings as a human. I like to think of myself as a patient person, but... arrghh... that really steams my glasses!

2. People who are never happy with the weather. It's fine to be a winter-man, spring-vixen, summer-lover or fall-gal. Everyone can't be happy about the weather all the time, but once in a while a day is so glorious that it just makes you excited to be alive! Some people like cool rainy days, others like a gentle snow fall, or a brisk fall day... I used to interact with this grouch of a man who was never satisfied with the weather outside: it's always too cold, too windy, too hot, too wet, too dry, too colorful; the one time he couldn't complain he told me it wouldn't last... come one!

3. Ordering the wrong food at a Thai restaurant. I am ever hungering for the order that other people get... I love Thai food, but never order the right thing. My food is never as good as the company I'm with. I yearn for the others pad-thai, or that succulent coconut-peanut thing... One order away from being in heaven...

4. The _____ [insert movie, book, song, game, meal etc.] that is almost worth the time, but falls short and you finish it anyway because the beginning was so promising... This happens to me all the time. Monty Python realized that endings are the hardest part to write, so they changed their whole strategy and discovered the perfect ending to a comedy sketch is the middle. Yes, it is difficult to end something, but spend the extra time to find a nice way to end something. It is the most important part of anything... It is like saying that you had the perfect date that ended with a slap in the face, but you're only going to focus on the good parts and see the person again... I could go on... but I won't...

5. Thinking about what to say when it's too late. Pretty much a universal thing here. It is so memorable when you do say the right thing at the right time that you have a story for life (although, can't say that I have any of these 'life-long' stories)...

6. Trying to open up an initial conversation. What do I say? It is soooo much easier to talk with people I already know. Why does meeting people have to be sooo hard? Why do I have to whine about it? Geez, can't I get over it!?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
... Honey bees! their apparent interconnectedness makes me think about larger connections between all things. This leads me into the ways in which people are dependent on large systems (Nature, governments, corporations, family, etc...) often outside of their control...

Plus 'boring' mundane stuff like, should I change my hair? What do I want to eat? What should I read? How often do I need to change my towels?

What was that question again?
On a typical Friday night I am
dreaming about:
capturing the perfect image, meeting a nice girl, becoming a poet, writing a novel... and all manner of wonderful stuff, for example:
Remembering how nice it is to take a bath at night, because the extra time is totally worth it.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
...hmmm.... I'm an open book
You should message me if
... you like to walk around Niagara Falls in the middle of the winter late at night!


... you are good at convincing people to take random road trips, or other fun adventures, and by 'people' I mean me!


... you want to find out if it's really me writing all this stuff (as opposed to some weird fake me {muahahaha}).

OR like the idea that I can't be summed up in less time than it takes to watch a sitcom and/or appreciate someone who tries his very best not to do it.

OR're convinced that the future is worth looking towards despite real emergencies (global warming, nuclear holocaust) or imagined ones (evil robots enslaving our race, alien colonization), but are not so rosy that you don't have at least a little concern for our future plight (like stocking up stun guns to disable the robot armies, as one example)
The two of us