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My self-summary
I am still working on putting it all together.

I want to date somebody similar, and I want us to encourage/inspire/push each other to keep growing and improving in all the areas we find important to our self-development (initially) and couple-development (if it comes to that).

My sun sign is in Dorothy, and I have a Blanche rising.
What I’m doing with my life
What I do for money: I am the communications manager for a non-profit organization dedicated to protecting workers' rights across the global supply chain.

Other things I do: I ride a bike. I try to always be taking some kind of class. I take long, long walks in the city I live in, in cities I visit, and outside of cities. I shun television. But I succumb to Saturday Night Live online. I go to the theater. I look for rush and half-price tickets so I can go to as much theater as possible. I go kayaking in the summer. I pickle beets in the fall. I hang mistletoe in my house in the winter, but otherwise try to ignore the big commercial/Christian wintertime holiday. I look forward to the farmer's markets reopening in the spring. I stop drinking every year during Lent. I tend a worm-compost bin. I shop in thrift stores. I think about living in cities other than DC. I feel happy when I have a creative project going, either solo or partnering with a friend/collaborator. I feel anxious when I think about money. I feel inspired when I read books or see plays that I admire. I enjoy time to myself. I contemplate how to better develop a personal meditation practice. I go dancing to live house music around once a month. I think I need to dance even more.
I’m really good at
... not crying on Sundays.
The first things people usually notice about me
How would I know this?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Let's save the favorites for comparing over a cup of tea or glass of wine. Here's a cumulative list since my joining OKC, most recent first:

LAST BOOKS I READ: Catching the Big Fish, by David Lynch; The Secret History of Twin Peaks, by Mark Frost; The Amazing Adventures of Kavalier and Clay, by Michael Chabon; No is Not Enough, by Naomi Klein; Theft By Finding, by David Sedaris; Moonglow, by Michael Chabon; Sweet Lamb of Heaven, by Lydia Millet; The Vegetarian, by Han Kang; The Sellout, by Paul Beatty; The Tsar of Love and Techno, by Anthony Marra; Splinterlands, by John Feffer; Breathing Lessons, by Anne Tyler; John Crow's Devil, by Marlon James; Tinkers, by Paul Harding; The Underground Railroad, by Colson Whitehead; The Road, by Cormac McCarthy; The Birth of Satan, by T.J. Wray and Gregory Mobley; Long Division, by Kiese Laymon; All Aunt Hagar's Children; Edward P. Jones; A Spool of Blue Thread, by Anne Tyler; The Whites, by Richard Price; Thirteen Ways of Looking, by Colum McCann; Lost in the City, by Edward P. Jones; The Turner House, by Angela Fluornoy; The Known World, by Edward P. Jones; The Good Lord Bird, by James McBride; The Paying Guests, by Sarah Waters; American Pastoral, by Philip Roth; The Devil's Company, by David Liss; A Prayer for the Dying, by Stewart O'Nan; The New World, by Eli Horowitz and Chris Adrian; Fates and Furies, by Lauren Groff; A Brief History of Seven Killings, by Marlon James; The Sympathizer, by Viet Thanh Nguyen; My Name is Lucy Barton, by Elizabeth Strout; A Place in Time, by Wendell Berry; Hunger Makes Me a Modern Girl, by Carrie Brownstein; Breakfast at Tiffany's, by Truman Capote; A Brave Man Seven Storeys Tall, by Will Chancellor; Return to Sender: Unanswered Letters to the President, by Ralph Nader; M Train, by Patti Smith; Great House, by Nicole Krauss; Five-Star Billionaire, by Tash Aw; Sputnik Sweetheart, by Haruki Murakami; Wise Blood, by Flannery O'Connor; Hallucinations, by Oliver Sacks; The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle, by Haruki Murakami; Let the Great World Spin, by Colum McCann; She's Come Undone, by Wally Lamb; Slade House, by David Mitchell; Everything I Never Told You, by Celeste Ng; The People in the Trees, by Hanya Yanagihara; Americanah, by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie; Wild, by Cheryl Strayed; Sacred Time, by Ursula Hegi; All the Light We Cannot See, by Anthony Doerr; The Sense of an Ending, by Julian Barnes; Jayber Crow, by Wendell Berry; At Night We Walk in Circles, by Daniel Alarcon; Wittgenstein, Jr., by Lars Iyer; Hannah Coulter, by Wendell Berry; The Signature of All Things by Elizabeth Gilbert; Redeployment, by Phil Klay; All the Birds Singing, by Evie Wyld; The Luminaries, by Eleanor Catton; Adam, by Ariel Schrag; Acceptance, by Jeff VanderMeer; An Untamed State, by Roxane Gay; Authority, by Jeff VanderMeer; Annihilation, by Jeff VanderMeer; Department of Speculation, by Jenny Offill; Silence Once Begun, by Jesse Ball; Station Eleven, by Emily St. John Mandel; Factory Girls, by Leslie T. Chang; The Other, by David Guterson; Keziah Dane, by Sue Grafton; A Visit from the Goon Squad, by Jennifer Egan; The First Bad Man, by Miranda July; Mission in a Bottle, by Seth Goldman and Barry Nalebuff; The Master and Margarita, by Mikhail Bulgakov; Watch With Me, by Wendell Berry; Interpreter of Maladies, by Jhumpa Lahiri; After Dachau, by Daniel Quinn; City of Glass, by Paul Auster; Middlesex, by Jeffrey Eugenides; Lila, by Marilynne Robinson; Black Swan Green, by David Mitchell; Number Nine Dream, by David Mitchell; The Bone Clocks, by David Mitchell; The Travels of a T-Shirt in the Global Economy, by Pietra Rivoli; The Lowland, by Jhumpa Lahiri; Unaccustomed Earth, by Jhumpa Lahiri; My Year of Meats, by Ruth Ozeki; Life After Life, by Kate Atkinson; A Man, by Orianna Fallaci; How to Get Filthy Rich in Rising Asia, by Mohsin Hamid; The Goldfinch, by Donna Tartt; The Son, by Phillip Meyer; A Tale for the Time Being, by Ruth Ozeki; The Dinner, by Herman Koch; The Tuner of Silences; by Mia Couto; The Dispossessed, by Ursula K. LeGuin; The Circle, by Dave Eggers; Eat, Pray, Love, by Elizabeth Gilbert; Instruments of Darkness, by Imogen Robertson; A Confederacy of Dunces, by John Kennedy Toole; One Summer: America 1927, by Bill Bryson; Olive Kitteridge, by Elizabeth Strout; Pastrix, by Nadia Bolz-Weber; Sex at Dawn, by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha; Bodily Harm, by Margaret Atwood; We Are What We Pretend to Be: The First and Last Works, by Kurt Vonnegut; Lady Oracle, by Margaret Atwood; Cat's Cradle, by Kurt Vonnegut; State of Wonder, by Ann Patchett; Lavinia, by Ursula K. LeGuin; Virgil's Aeneid; Woody Allen: A Biography, by Eric Lax; Staring at the Sun, by Irvin Yalom; Marbles, by Ellen Forney; The Orphan Master's Son, by Adam Johnson; Blankets, by Craig Thompson; Absurdistan, by Gary Shteyngart; The Early History of God: Yahweh and the Other Deities in Ancient Israel, by Mark S. Smith; The Russian Debutante's Handbook, by Gary Shteyngart; Canaan and Israel in Antiquity, by K. L. Noll; When God Was a Woman, by Merlin Stone; Desert Solitaire, by Edward Abbey; Jerusalem: One City, Three Faiths, by Karen Armstrong; Talk, Talk, by T.C. Boyle; Drop City, by T.C. Boyle; Are Your My Mother?, by Allison Bechdel; Fun Home, by Allison Bechdel; The Burma Chronicles; by Guy Delisle; Jerusalem, by Guy Delisle; One Country, by Ali Abunimah; Mornings in Jenin, by Susan Abulhawa; The Death of Adam, by Marilynne Robinson; The Book of J, by Harold Bloom and David Rosenberg; Saturday, by Ian McEwan; 102 Minutes, by Jim Dwyer and Kevin Flynn; Yellow Dog, by Martin Amis; Atonement, by Ian McEwan; The Hours, by Michael Cunningham; The Celestine Prophesy, by James Redfield; Dry, by Augusten Burroughs; Revelations, by Elaine Pagels; The Girl With the Dragon Tattoo, by Stieg Larsson; A Curtain of Green and Other Stories, by Eudora Welty; The Optimist's Daughter, by Eudora Welty; The Story of Beautiful Girl, by Rachel Simon; Home, by Marilynne Robinson; Jitterbug Perfume by Tom Robbins; Cloudstreet, by Tim Winton; Answered Prayers, Truman Capote's unfinished novel; God is Not Great, by Christopher Hitchens; Elizabeth Costello, by J.M. Coetzee; Slow Man, by J. M. Coetzee; No One Belongs Here More Than You, by Miranda July; Money, by Martin Amis; Squirrel Seeks Chipmunk, by David Sedaris; the script for the play Wit, by Margaret Edson; The Brief, Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao, by Junot Diaz; The Plague, by Albert Camus; Ecclesiastes: The Jewish Publication Society Commentary, by Michael V. Fox; Peter, Paul, and Mary Magdalene, by Bart Ehrman; Lost Christianities, by Bart Ehrman; Zeitoun, by Dave Eggers; Misquoting Jesus, by Bart Ehrman; Housekeeping, by Marilynne Robinson; Scripting Jesus, by L. Michael White; My Guru and His Disciple, by Christopher Isherwood; Jesus, Interrupted, by Bart Ehrman; Gilead, by Marilynne Robinson; Bright Lights, Big City, by Jay McInerney; The Thousand Autumns of Jacob de Zoet, by David Mitchell; Then We Came to the End, by Joshua Ferris; Ghostwritten, by David Mitchell; American Gods, by Neil Gaiman; The Year of the Flood, by Margaret Atwood; Commentary on the Lord's Sermon on the Mount by Saint Augustine; Alias Grace, by Margaret Atwood; Gentlemen of the Road, by Michael Chabon; Cat's Eye, by Margaret Atwood, Vacant Possession, by Hilary Mantel; Cloud Atlas, by David Mitchell; The Handmaid's Tale, by Margaret Atwood; The Robber Bridegroom, by Eudora Welty; Paul Was Not a Christian, by Pamela Eisenbaum; The Robber Bride, by Margaret Atwood; Payback, by Margaret Atwood; Oryx & Crake, by Margaret Atwood; The Blind Assassin, by Margaret Atwood; The Jew and the Lotus, by Rodger Kamenetz; Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close, by Jonathan Safran Foer

LAST LIVE THEATER I SAW: The Blind,, by Maurice Maeterlink at Gallaudet; The Realistic Jones, by Will Eno at NCTC in Seattle; The Legend of Georgia McBride, at ACT in Seattle; im(PULSE), at Seattle Rep Theater (along with readings of Cascadia and Gorgeous); Robert O'Hara's Barbecue, by Intiman in Seattle; Ulysses on Bottles at Mosaic; the inventive interpretation of Macbeth at Shakespeare Theater, not set in Scotland, but an unnamed Arab/African country with the witches as CIA agents; Cry It Out, at the Humana Festival; I Now Pronounce, at the Humana Festival; Recent Alien Abductions, at the Humana Festival; We're Going to Be Okay, at the Humana Festival in Louisville; Marx in Soho, by NuSass at Caos on F, with the amazing Mary Myers; Aaron Posner's No Sisters, at Studio; Anton in Show Business, at Silver Spring Stage; Three Sisters, at Studio; the splendid/cathartic Caroline, or Change, at Roundhouse; Baby Screams Miracle; at Woolly; Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf?, at Ford's; Lucas Hnath's The Christians at the JCC; the super-amazing Ride the Cyclone at the Lucille Lortel in NYC (and I don't like musicals!); The Humans at the Schoenfeld in NYC; Anna Deavere Smith's amazing Notes from the Field at Second Stage in NYC; Watershed, at the Centaur in Montreal; Stupid Fucking Bird, at Silver Spring Stage; Angels in America: Perestroika, at Roundhouse; Angels in America: Millennium Approaches, at Roundhouse; pen/man/ship, at CATF; Not Madea at CATF; The Wedding Gift at the Contemporary American Theater Festival; Kinky Boots at the Kennedy Center; Shakespeare Theater's exceptional all-male Taming of the Shrew; Hedda Gabler, at Studio; Branden Jacobs-Jenkins' An Octoroon, at Woolly; Aaron Posner's District Merchants, at Folger; Mosaic's When January Feels Like Summer, at the Atlas; Ayad Akthter's The Who and the What at Roundhouse; Alice Childress's Trouble in Mind at the Guthrie in Minneapolis; The Book of Mormon at the Orpheum in Minneapolis; Ayad Akhter's Disgraced at Arena; Cat on a Hot Tin Roof at Round House; Annie Baker's The Flick at Signature; This Random World by Steven Dietz at Actors in Louisville; The Residence by Laura Jacqmin at Actors in Louisville; Sarah Ruhl's For Peter Pan on her 70th Birthday at Actors in Louisville; The Pillowman, by Forum Theatre in Silver Spring (so good!); Guards at the Taj, at Woolly; Lydia Diamond's Smart People at Second Stage in NYC; Equus, by Constellation, at the Source; Harvey, at First Stage in Tysons; Winners and Losers, at Woolly; Avenue Q, produced by Constellation Theater at the Source; Tracy Letts' Bug produced by SeeNoSun at the Anacostia Art Center; Women Laughing Alone With Salad, at Woolly; Annie Baker's The Flick, at Barrow Street in NYC; Hand to God, at the Booth Theater in NYC; On Clover Road, at CATF; World Builders, by Johnna Adams at the Contemporary American Theater Festival (CATF) in Shpherdstown, WV; Tartuffe, at Shakespeare Theatre; Avant Bard's performance of The Madwoman of Chaillot; Paula Vogel's The Oldest Profession, by Rainbow Theater Project, Vanya, Sonia, Masha, & Spike, at Arena; Annie Baker's adaptation of Uncle Vanya, at Round House; Murder Ballad, at Studio; Dot, at the Humana Festival of New American Plays in Louisville; The Roommate, at the Humana Festival; I Will Be Gone, at the Humana Festival; Beth Henley's Laugh, at Studio; Blithe Spirit with Angela Lansbury at the National Theater; Every Brilliant Thing at Barrow Street in NYC; Annie Baker's Circle Mirror Transformation at Rep Stage; Cherokee, at Woolly; August Wilson's King Hedley II, at Arena; Tony Kushner's The Intelligent Homosexual's Guide to Capitalism and Socialism with a Key to the Scriptures at the JCC; Visual Language, at Gallaudet; The Wolfe Twins, at Studio; She Kills Monsters, by Rorschach; Uncanny Valley in Shepherdstown, WV; Dead and Breathing by Chisa Hutchinson at the Contemporary American Theater Festival in Shepherdstown, WV; Sideshow, at the Kennedy Center; Noel Coward's Private Lives at Shakespeare Theater; Terrence McNally's Mothers and Sons at the Golden in NYC; The Totalitarians at Woolly; Ask Aunt Susan at The Goodman, in Chicago; Crimes of the Heart at The Guthrie, in Minneapolis; Detroit at The Jungle, in Minneapolis; Catherine Treischmann's The Most Deserving at City Center in NYC; Dorothy Fortenberry's Partners, at Actors Theater of Louisville; The Grown-Up, by Jordan Harrison, at Actors; Lucas Hnath's The Christians at Actors; workshop production of The Admission, at Theater J; Tribes, at Studio; The Importance of Being Earnest, at Shakespeare Theater; Glassheart, by Rorschach at Atlas; Appropriate, at Woolly; Underneath the Lintel at ACT in San Francisco; Tennessee Williams' Two-Character Play, by Spooky Action in DC; Lorenzo Pisoni's Humor Abuse at the Mark Taper Forum in Los Angeles; Velocity of Autumn, at Arena; Stupid Fucking Bird, at Woolly; Back to Back Theater's Ganesh vs. the Third Reich at the Museum of Contemporary Art in Chicago; Colm Toibin's Testament of Mary at the Walter Kerr in NYC; new adaptation of Orson Welles' Voodoo MacBeth at American Century; Branden Jacobs-Jenkins' Appropriate as part of Actors Theatre of Louisville's Humana Festival of New American Plays; Deafhood Monologues, directed by Monique Holt at Gallaudet; Edith Can Shoot Things and Hit Them, by Theatre Confetti in Philadelphia; Eugene O'Neill's Hughie at Shakespeare Theater; Restoration Comedy at the Flea in New York City; Tribes by Nina Raine at the Barrow Street Theater in New York City; Six Characters in Search of an Author at Artisphere; Merchant of Venice performed by Israel's Habima Theater in Jerusalem; August Wilson's Fences at Virginia Stage Company in Norfolk, VA; an amazing collaborative performance by actors from UMD and the National Academy of Chinese Theater Arts of Midsummer Night's Dream at the Clarice Smith Center; Neil LaBute's The Mercy Seat, at the Capitol Hill Arts Workshop; The Bacchae at Artisphere; The Servant of Two Masters, at Shakespeare Theater; The Animals and Children Took to the Streets, by 1927 at Studio; Suicide Incorporated at H St. Playhouse; Mr. Burns, a Post-electric Play, at Woolly; The Big Meal, at Studio; a reading of Edward Albee's The Goat, or Who is Sylvia? by the Actors' Center; Long Day's Journey Into Night at Arena; Gore Vidal's The Best Man at the Schoenfeld in New York; Eugene O'Neill's Complete and Condensed Stage Directions by the neo-Futurists at Arena; Eat Your Heart Out at Actors Theater of Louisville's Humana Festival of New American Plays; Rorschach's Klecksography as part of Intersections at Atlas; Lorca's Blood Wedding by Constellation Theater at the Source; Civilization (All You Can Eat), at Woolly; Two Gentlemen of Verona at Shakespeare Theater; Jules Feiffer's Little Murders at American Century in Arlington; Naomi's Flight by Mara Neimanis, at Creative Alliance in Baltimore; The Religion Thing at Theater J; Golden Dragon at Studio; Not Getting Any Younger by Marga Gomez at the Marsh; David Mamet's Race at ACT in San Francisco; a staged reading of Pat Davis' Alternative Methods at JCC; A Bright New Boise at Woolly; the fascinating Lungs at Studio; Stop Kiss at H St.; the spectacular Venus in Fur at Studio; lots of 2011 Fringe: Stanley Ann, Losing My Religion, Good Girls Don't: but Indian Girls Do, UPheaval, the totally fun That's What She Sang, The Bird, Please Don't Beat Me Up, Pandora: A Tragicomic Romp, But Love Is My Middle Name; The Glass Menagerie and The Menagerie Project at Arena; some lesser-known Tennessee Williams one-acts at Washington Shakespeare Company in Arlington (Portrait of a Madonna and the amazing Gnadiges Fraulein); Robert O'Hara's awesome Bootycandy at Woolly; The History of Kisses by David Cale at Studio; Fabulous Prizes by the Satori Group in Seattle; Stage Door at the American Century in Arlington; The Neo-Futurists' Too Much Light makes the Baby Go Blind at Woolly; Gustavo Ott's Divorciadas, Evangelicas y Vegetarianas at GALA Hispanic Theater; Kim Collier's inventive adaptation of No Exit at ACT in SF; Mike Daisey's Agony and Ecstacy of Steve Jobs at Woolly; Rosemary Jenkinson's Basra Boy at Keegan Theater; Jenifer Alonzo's Mary Anning: Girl Fossil Hunter at ODU in Norfolk, VA; Tom Stoppard's On the Razzle at the Source on 14th; Toni Press-Coffman's Touch at H St. Playhouse (phenomenal!); Dan Hoyle's The Real Americans at the Painted Bride in Philadelphia; Young Jean Lee's Songs of the Dragons Flying to Heaven, at Studio; Sarah Ruhl's Next Room/Vibrator Play at Woolly; Twelfth Night, the Free-for-All production at Shakespeare Theater; lots of 2010 Fringe: The Water Plays, 7 Lessons of Suicide, UnCONTENTed Love, Showcase Showdown, Logic/Luck/Love, Give Them Vagina, and Edible Rex. Before all that: Lypsynka's version of Legends at Studio in DC; Sophocles' Oedipus Cycle at Balagan in Seattle; Mike Leigh's Abigail's Party at A Red Orchid Theater in Chicago; Neil Labute's Reasons to be Pretty at Studio in DC; the musical title of show at Signature in Shirlington; August Strindberg's A Dream Play at ODU in Norfolk, VA; Morris Panych's Vigil at American Conservatory Theater in San Francisco; Matthew R. Wilson's Great One-Man Commedia del Arte at Shakespeare Theater in DC; Taffety Punk's here in DC; Mike Daisey's The Last Cargo Cult at Woolly; Itamar Moses's The Four of Us at Theater J.
Six things I could never do without
1. Teachers/collaborators/creative-peers
2. Traveling
3. My bicycle
4. Spice/heat
5. Books
6. Maps
7. Boys for Pele
I spend a lot of time thinking about
On a typical Friday night I am
1. At a theater
2. At home working on a project, reading a book, or sleeping
3. Out with a friend
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I will believe until my dying day that Bernie would have beaten the Orange Menace that we're stuck with. Why on earth did the DNC, the super-delegates, and a majority of Democratic primary voters insist on running the least popular candidate in the entire Democratic party????

(I've changed this "private thing" section quite a lot. My original answer wasn't an answer at all; it was just an assertion that I'll literally tell you anything you want to know. That's still true. Radical honesty, okay.)
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