Here's some truth about me: I like adventures. Not just crazy stunts like climbing the largest pyramid in Egypt at night—although I’ve done that. But also just getting lost on a Sunday drive and finding some out-of-the-way town that has a cool used bookstore and a café where someone plays blues guitar.
What else? Right-handed. Dogs love me. I can only talk about the presidential election under hypnosis..
In a 600-person college Intro to Psych class, we were told to break into groups according to our Myers-Briggs designations. Mine was INFP (Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Perceiving). I stood alone. This seemed to tell me all I needed to know about myself.
Due to a mid-career crisis, I started acting professionally and am now lucky to journey fairly successfully through two very different worlds: theater and journalism. I like storytelling as a form of self-expression, but I also like being around people who live out loud.
I am looking for someone smart, who appreciates learning in all its forms, someone witty and a little bold, curious enough to explore the essential questions but silly enough to laugh at them too. I am looking for someone with whom I share a fundamental chemistry and who is interested in growth and is ready to grow together with someone else.
You're someone who knows yourself. It’s good to have your shit together, but probably more important to have your shit together about the ways you don’t have your shit together. It's helpful not to have a "Thou Shalt Not" list longer than the average phonebook (Hey,even the Bible stopped at 10). Mindfulness, acceptance and compassion have grown in importance for me over time. You stand up for yourself, but don't have to fight every battle. I also like outside-the-box thinkers who can make connections among disparate fields (music and philosophy, meditation and psychology, peanut butter and chocolate.)
Other things I like: Straightforwardness (not being passive-aggressive), sensuality, affection for board games, ability to make me laugh. And kissing. Lots of kissing.
For a good part of my life, I have been asked by people if I was someone else (someone they knew in college, Skippy from “Family Ties” or someone who works in the accounting office.) I am emphatically NOT that guy. This trend hit its high watermark in 2005 in Italy when I discovered, through a translator, that someone had asked if I’d gone to college with him in Milan. I hadn’t.
Movies: The Secret in Their Eyes, The Lives of Others, Gandhi, The Godfather, Flirting, Tell No One, Midnight Run, The Big Lebowksi, Lone Star, Lawrence of Arabia, Amelie,Brazil, The Year of Living Dangerously, Blade Runner, The Shawshank Redemption, Crimes and Misdemeanors, Rushmore.
TV: The Wire is my all-time favorite show, but there are a lot of close seconds: Homeland, Firefly, Freaks and Geeks, Game of Thrones. And a lot of the BBC: Prime Suspect, The Misfits, Foyle’s War, Wallender and Downton Abbey.
Music: I love live music and make an annual mix for my friends that goes out around Christmas. My favorites are The Police, The Who, The Black Keys, The Super Furry Animals, The Jayhawks, The Be Good Tanyas, Jethro Tull, Bruce Springsteen, Hawksley Workman, Richard Thompson, The Fleet Foxes, Greg Brown, Sharon Jones, Rush, Chris Smither, The Waterboys, Paul Simon, Crowded House. I listen to radioparadise.com a lot.
Food: I like most anything. But my favorite local restaurant is Zatinya. And I have a crazy sweet-tooth for the macaroons from Whole Foods.
--friends who make me laugh.
--the ocean (but a Jacuzzi will do in a pinch)
Where I can find a good (Middle Eastern restaurant, foreign film, hike….)
Why, at least according to their OKCupid Photos, so many people in the DC area have jumped out of planes or joined th e circus (or if you're a woman, climbed to Machu Picchu--I used to think online dating was secretly controlled from a base in the Andes Mountains.)
If this combo causes no cognitive dissonance, we probably have a future.
After that: hang out with friends, read, catch a flick. Depends on the Friday.
Also: I've always been afraid of clowns.