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My self-summary
Primarily gay, with occasional leanings towards the agender and/or asexual ends of the spectrum. Open-minded and kink-friendly. Probably not marriage material.

I'm not necessarily here for a lover; not sure I want one at present. New friends, either with or without benefits, are usually a better starting place for me.
What I’m doing with my life
This is all very old:

I was made redundant early this year, and frankly it's the best that could have happened. Even aside from it being, shall we say, not my favourite workplace, life became interesting again. A little more chaotic, a little more prone to chance. I haven't felt so human in years.

Things are taking an interesting and unexpected turn at present, and much of the next 12 months looks like being divided between London, Barcelona and Berlin, with some time in Melbourne too.

As such, one of my passions has become learning Spanish (although I also need a serious refresher course on my German, too).

Not interested in the self-delusion of being Sorted, Stable and Solvent. I have no idea where I'll be or what I'll be doing this time next year. To me, that's the most exciting thing in the world.

At the time of writing, I'm manically preparing a drag show. I've never done one, and initially declined. Then I realised it was such an absurd thing to be asked to do out of the blue and was never likely to be asked again, so I accepted the challenge.

Some will be surprised that I'm doing drag at all, some will shocked that I'm not wearing black, others alarmed that it's more torch songs than Throbbing Gristle. And I'll be surprised if I pull it off, frankly. But I do love a ridiculous challenge.

I'm done with being boring. It's boring.
The first things people usually notice about me
Apparently it's my laugh. People are split on whether it's Hammer horror evil or just pure filth. Either way, the darker the humour, the better.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
If you haven't read Tales of the City, please do. It's entertaining, engrossing and a regular point of reference for me. Anything by Kurt Vonnegut, but especially his accidental memoirs. If you don't get Douglas Adams, you may not get me. Fear And Loathing In Las Vegas was the first trip I ever had. Shall we skip the pretentious box-ticking? Yes? Good. I'm not much good at that either. I also occasionally read books that dance about architecture.

I don't watch a lot of movies. I've just started getting them by post, so am open to recommendations. The only ones that spring to mind are Withnail and I, Milk, Shortbus and The Muppet Movie. No, seriously. I'll kick myself tomorrow and think of lots more.

I don't own a TV, but always make sure to find a way to watch Doctor Who and QI. Recent box set addictions have been The Wire, Mad Men and (still going on) The Sopranos.

As for music, you're probably better off asking - I enjoy a fairly broad spectrum of music that I think is pop and nobody else seems to (with occasional exceptions). Have a look at if you think that might be something you'd like to do.

I generally tend to try to eat healthily and quite often fail. I often think I should be vegetarian, but I'm not.
Six things I could never do without
Music. I go really go a bit bonkers without it. Whether it be listening, tweaking or making, it's my number one vice. It can calm me in a storm and storm me from a calm.

Learning. I'm a naturally curious person. I compulsively google or wiki seemingly random things on a whim. Whether trivial or challenging, it's a poor day when I haven't learned anything new.

My logical family. My biological family live in Australia, so over the years I've gathered together an unlikely and chaotic collection of people I care deeply about - and if that's not family, I don't know what is. They've all started moving abroad though, so I'm torn between gathering more waifs and strays in the city I love, or starting on a new international adventure.

Laughter. A life without laughter hardly bears thinking about. Not necessarily at jokes, but just at life. Life is wonderful; life is absurd; life is cruel. All of these demand laughter to survive.

Time alone. No offence, but I'm lost without some time to myself. It's not you, it's me. I enjoy socialising but, as a natural introvert, I do need solo time to get myself charged and balanced, to think and read and unwind and learn and absorb.

That's only five. I had to delete the one about Sunday lunches at my local, The Montague Arms, because the elderly owners died and it closed. It was a weekly social event, and whether rowdy or sedate it was always in good spirits and open to random friends past, present and future.
On a typical Friday night I am
available for pints, chats or carnal etceteras
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
One of my nipples is on the left side of my chest. The other one isn't. I'm not telling which, though.
You should message me if
you can make me smile
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