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My self-summary
(First and foremost - I quit smoking cigarettes, again about 3 years ago (without a single slip-up) - but the last time before that was for 3 1/2 years - I expect this last effort to be permanent)

Hi. How are you? My name is Steven Mitchell. I am an ex-Manhattanite, ex-Jerseyite (I even lived on Staten Island when Manhattan became too expensive, and I publicly admit it) who is open, attractive, liberal, affectionately expressive male, in good shape, seeking a sensitive woman that is not afraid of emotional intimacy, trusts herself and her opinions, possesses a healthy sexual appetite, maybe has a spiritual understanding and even thinks that sex can be spiritual if or when it is shared with someone else (I am open-minded about our formation as a species and as an organism colony on a moving body of mass in a Solar System (which has no official name by the way) in a galaxy within a star cluster within a galaxy cluster in our Universe within other larger Universes, but essentially I am an atheist, thinking of the Universe(s) as so complex, we as simple humans cannot possibly fathom the ultimate complexity since humanity has only just begun to develop intelligible consciousness within the Scheme of Things), and she is inquisitive and inquiring of the world around her and is capable of and likes to communicate. Hopefully that enjoyment of communication can manifest itself in a swath of the physical, verbal and loving senses. I am both introspective and outwardly expressive and I am seeking a woman who has similar qualities (public shyness also has an intangible appeal). I like people and socializing, I can be outgoing (but I like my privacy) and yet I like to take time for deep thought, art, writing, reading, film, exchanging ideas and of course, loving. I have done a lot of things in the past and I am currently returning to college at Stony Brook University and I am seeking someone that is OK with that (I include this because a lot of women, especially over 40 are not). I am looking to meet someone between 25 - 45 years old (or so), that is like-minded. Life is also about experiencing the physical side of things. Maybe older people have forgot that, or punish themselves for their apparent past transgressions [it could simply be from having an introspective side, and regrets colliding with memories of the past]. I will probably never know the true reason for that loss. I like younger people and have younger friends. Although age differences do have some validity because there is a broad spread between experiences, I have learned “through experience” that it is more important for two people to have common interests than it is for both people to simply have similar lengths of life experience, so commonality of age is much less important than similar likes and dislikes to develop a lasting eternal friendship. I really think that you need to be able to enjoy each other at face value, for who each other is without the need (or maybe its a compulsion) to change or modify the other. I do think that you need similar goals and interests, but not necessarily similar pathways. I think that it is all about connecting and that connections are sustainable. It is about being open. ... It is about listening... It is about genuinely listening... That being said...

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Essentially, I am open, affectionate, and intellectual seeking someone who is the same.
What I’m doing with my life

I am a History and Psychology major at Stony Brook University with a minor in Anthropology. I also try to take a lot of archaeology and Women's Study courses. (Hey, if women are half of the human equation, why are they barely mentioned in "human" history?) I have already completed the psychology major and anthropology minor (one course shy of a 3rd major, which I will not finish). My objective is to become an expert on the evolution of human consciousness by integrating human history and "mythology" with biology, ecology, anthropology, archaeology, psychology, sociology, geology/geography, biophysics, linguistics and chronobiology (photoperiodism) with human source materials (what I call the architectonics of human behavior). My next step is start my Masters by the Spring of 2012 with the ultimate objective of getting a PhD. Does anyone know of any good interdisciplinary graduate schools in the social sciences? I am having trouble finding any.

I enjoy partying on occasion, love the country and the city (you can keep the suburbs).

Writing papers, writing articles, maybe doing voiceovers, probably doing a radio show for WUSB.FM that combines poetry, music and politics... I am politically left of center - whatever that means - and believe that a more cooperative, more collaborative, less viperous world is to everyone's advantage and benefit... I think win-win is a better strategy than win-lose, which obviously pits me against the Republican, free-market (chaos), dogma. (What company would run itself based on a free, lets-see-what-happens approach?) While I may read The Economist, you should by no means infer that I agree with their daft, semi-religious conclusions... I agree with Noam Chomsky that the most informative newspaper in the world is the Financial Times for largely the same reasons; that it gives you all of the information allowing you to make your own decisions about what is going on, rather than summarizing/filtering it (as does the Economist) through underlying dogmatic assumptions... However, they are both largely and actually owned by the same people (the Rothschilds, etc.). I hope that we can reshape the world's polity from its current nefarious governance through the adoption of Richard Dawkins' The Selfish Gene (a reincarnation of survival-of-the-fittest I suppose), to one that encompasses a collaborative win-win design.

I am waiting for more than Godot...
I’m really good at
sharing my feelings, being open, kissing (girls only - sorry fellas), sexually pleasing my partner, massages, having an interesting and unusual perspective...

Also -
I like cooking (preferably for someone)
I like singing
I like camping
I like dancing
I like canoeing (really anything in the water)
I like the beach
I like the country
of course, I like the city

Hanging out with my nieces and nephews... (the biological ones are all between 9 and 14)...
The first things people usually notice about me
my shoes... Naw, I don't wear shoes normally...(not that I am barefoot); Probably my eyes - I have deep-blue or hazel eyes, depending on the light.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Not into TV as such but some favorites are... Stephen Colbert, Family Guy, the Simpson's, Adult Swim, Southpark, Science Channel, other than that more into films...
A) Books: These are just a few: Jared Diamond's Guns, Germs & Steel, To Kill a Mockingbird, Albert Camus’ The stranger, Franz Kafka’s Metamorphosis (or any other Kafka), Brave New World, George Orwell's 1984 and Animal Farm, Lord of the Flies (any book that is #68 on the most censored list is fine with me) -- Favorite Writers = Ann Tyler, Aldous Huxley, Henry Miller, Charles Bukowski, James Joyce, James Baldwin, any Steinbeck, Chekhov, Noam Chomsky, Umberto Eco, B.F. Skinner, Francois Villon, Pablo Neruda, Gabriel Garcia Marquez, Mario Vargas Llosa, Rainer Maria Rilke, Edgar Allen Poe (he was surprisingly cutting edge modern in his observations of the relations between men and women)... I like to read a lot of classics as well...

Non-Fiction: Thomas Kuhn, Lynn White, Leslie White, B.F. Skinner, Gauthier, Phelps, Charles Darwin, Ernst Mayr, Frans deWaal, De Mieroop, Postgate, Rizzolatti, Vidal-Naquet, Stephen Jay Gould, Amotz Zahavi, Thorstein Veblen, thomas Malthus, William McNeill, Richard Dawkins, Sarah Blaffer Hardy, Geoffrey Miller, Jared Diamond and more...

B) Films: The Lottery - still one of my favorites, Chasing Amy, The Fifth Element, The Breakfast Club, Blade Runner, Pay It Forward, La Femme Nikita, The Fourth Man, Tales of Ordinary Madness, Round Midnight, Aguirre: The Wrath of God, Rear Window, Slap Shot, Amelie, Mississippi Masala, Kama Sutra, Tuesday's With Morrie, Garden State, Fahrenheit 451, The Messenger: The Story of Joan of Arc, Mulholland Drive, any Monty Python, Tie Me Up! Tie Me Down!, Women on the Verge of a Nervous Breakdown, Shawshank Redemption, Breaker Morant, Gallipoli, (with Mel Gibson as a baby), My Big Fat Greek Wedding, Jean de Florette & less so, Manon of the Spring, also chick flicks, romantic comedies and classic world films last shown in movie theatres in the 1980's that are no longer available... I like a lot of the old classics as well... it is amazing how risque films were in the 19teens & 1920's before the "old moral majority" shut them down.
Some of my favorite directors are: Woody Allen, Pedro Almodóvar, Mira Nair, Luc Besson, David Lynch, Clint Eastwood, Nagisa Oshima, Kurosawa, Zhang Yimou, Robert Altman, Bertrand Tavernier, Werner Herzog, Wim Wenders, Spike Lee, Milos Forman, et al...

Some Favorite Classic Directors:
Alfred Hitchcock, Michelangelo Antonioni, Jean Luc Godard
Jean Renoir, Sidney Lumet, Elia Kazan, Fritz Lang, Ingmar Bergman, Billy Wilder, Orson Welles, Bernardo Bertolucci, Louis Malle, Eric Rohmer, Andrei Tarkovsky, Luis Bunuel, Andrej Wajda, and of course Stanley Kubrick...

I was a huge fan of Paul Newman, whom aside from his obvious talent as an actor has one of the most admirable legacies of any American... Most film and music stars seem to be as greedy as athletes and Wall Street financiers, yet Newman was a genuine exception who left humanity in a better way because of his own existence... I mean how many celebrities create a successful food company (using natural ingredients without preservatives) as an example of its plausibility with all of the proceeds to be donated to benefit humanity... What a preposterous idea... But it was done...

(C) Some punk, some hip-hop, Tool, 311, the Gorillaz, Red Hot Chili Peppers, Violent Femmes, Portishead, Black Eyed Peas, a lot of 80's pop (I like to dance) such as Depeche Mode, the Motels, Echo and the Bunnymen, the Clash, the Jam, Pixies, the B52's, the Doors, the Gypsy Kings, King Crimson - both the 60's & 80's versions, a lot of female singers such as PJ Harvey, Bjork, Alannis Morrisette, Avril Lavigne, Kate Bush, Tori Amos, Ani DiFranco, Fiona Apple, the Dixie Chicks, and the Cranberries, rock n' roll, Blues (I like to sing), Jazz such as John Coltrane, Miles Davis and Jean Luc Ponty, Édith Piaf, of course Odetta and Otis Redding, sometimes Classical, Romantic or Baroque music (everything from Bach, to Mahler, to Mozart) - I like almost all music...

(D) Foods - non-GM foods, Sushi, Sashimi, Seafood (hey, it's Long Island), Oysters (any shellfish for that matter), Italian, Thai, French, Greek, Mexican, Pizza (my fastfood), Indian, German, Turkish, Brazilian, Peruvian, Argentinian, Korean, Cuban, Puerto Rican... I am very open-minded about food flavors... but please no fast-food restaurants...
Six things I could never do without
food, showering, probably clothes, smiles, desire, hope (OK those are the cliches):

warmth both physical and emotional, showering and deodorant (cleanliness is important in personal relationships), a lot of laughter, a computer or a piece of paper with pen or pencil, interesting thoughts, feelings of consciousness, the desire to express them...

and most importantly (OK this is eight), the belief that the world can become (ahhhemmm...) kinder and gentler... maybe even collaborative and non-materialistic (OK, OK, it's not the 70's anymore... but it was worth the thought...)...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why was most of my OkCupid profile deleted? A. Because you proposed an edit (an anonymous poster).

The theory of evolution applied to human history and pre-history.

Why did humans go from 0 to 100 in only 10,000 years? Meaning why have humans progressed so rapidly in only the last 10,000-12,000 years - what propelled the change from sophisticated mammal to "human" in such a short duration? What is the "real" reason?

Is "progress" really an ebb and flow?

How is the world going to avoid World War III? I believe WWI & WWII happened for reasons way beyond the control of "free-will" (an economic contraction requiring a population adjustment) and I do not believe the world currently has a structure organized effectively enough to prevent or derail the consequences of where we are and where we are headed... I would love to be wrong...

When will humanity give up the widespread belief that it is acceptable to kill another human being? Whether it's offensive war or robbery, aren't they both homicide? When in the human scheme of things, do warriors become viewed as killers?

Developing a theory of history that incorporates ecology, the environment, psychology, physiology and chronobiology to explain human behavior... Yes, I do believe that we are part of the evolutionary process and have evolved from less developed primates...

How did America becomes so right-wing that many Americans think Ayn Rand is mainstream? (When I was a kid even conservatives thought she was an extremist.) So why did America after having come together as a population during the tough times of the Great Depression and World War II, choose selfishness and self-centeredness as its social and economic framework? How did America go from creating a noble global idea of the United Nations (whether it worked or not is immaterial here) of common and shared interests to one where it only matters what happens to the individual self?

I suppose the more pressing question is how could our education system be so deficient that Ayn Rand's comic strip reasoning be considered intelligent thought?
On a typical Friday night I am
At a film festival, going out with friends, working or writing history and historical theory, writing fiction, studying for school, sometimes working, possibly partying...

Lately, volunteering on behalf of Barack Obama and company.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
There is plenty that I will admit in person, but little of it that I will advertise... OK, a teaser - I use to get paid to please older women and in a lot of instances, to fulfill their fantasies, when I was in my 20's...

I use to be a geek, designing computer/telecommunications networks for major corporations on Wall Street until September 11th... After which the need for technology engineering seriously declined and has not returned (there are plenty of opportunities in India and China, however but obviously at their local rates of pay). Keep in mind, that Mumbai and Delhi were both just rated as in the 5 top cheapest places in the world to live, so I don't think global labor competition is going to change anytime soon.

Also, I designed and implemented the specific network at the American Stock Exchange that Mortgage-Backed Securities (the financial product that became so badly packaged that it destroyed America's banks & investment houses) are traded on between financial houses - ah, what an accomplishment... It's always good to know you have done something useful... (actually it was the unofficial, over-the-counter trades that did that but that's another story).

Sometimes I listen to "some" country music (sssshhhh - this is only between you and me...)

I am open and very affectionate (for a male) but not in a clingy sort of way... (what's with the mauling?)...

Anything else will have to be said in the privacy of our conversation... (Have I left anything out?)... ah, plenty actually...
You should message me if
You are personable and/or intellectual and would like to chat...

Just remember that if you contact me or want me to contact you that some of you have parameters that restrict my ability to do so that you have selected for your profile and prevent my contact with you (such as age limitations). In order for me to reply to you, you would have to change those parameters to give me permission.

You are not deeply bigoted... (please, hatred and racism are such a serious turnoff)

You have a lot of interests in the world around you...

From a dating perspective, you believe that sex is an important and necessary form of human communication and sustenance... and you enjoy it or would like to... Bottom Line = You believe that sharing with another person has at least as many rewards as it does risks...

You should definitely contact me if you like personal intimacy and understand what it is I am talking about. Have you ever had a relationship - romantic or personal - where you were open, vulnerable, kind, considerate? Where you shared what you knew about life, personally, intellectually, emotionally and wanted to continue sharing it? (this would preclude any alcoholics and drug addicts since they cannot spend any time getting to know themselves, let alone someone else).

You believe that we may have a bit in common... That should mean that either we are at least 80% friends or an 80% match or better. (Somehow that precludes most of Long Island's membership.)

You want to "save" the world... but not necessarily doing something about it...

You like to have a good time...

You like to laugh... (hopefully not at me, but that's OK too)...
The two of us