61Eugene, United States
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My self-summary
I've been on this site too long....and my resolve in finding someone to enjoy being with wanes.

Tough/fragile woman, accustomed to solitude, but hoping it's not too entrenched! Reckoning with my age and how I want to spend the time that remains. Deeply concerned about the way our climate is going, so not always upbeat. Profoundly influenced by having lived a nomadic lifestyle of many years' duration while married--most of them off the grid and in the woods, in various US states as well as in rural Mexico; all--far away from people. It taught me the value of simplicity, but at great personal cost. I home-schooled my home-born children until I cracked and returned to society in 1997. A women's transition class led to college degrees that I worked part-time around while I finished raising my children.

Though still close to my family, I have sufficient time to consider finding pleasurable companionship. I'd like a serious relationship, but hope to base such on the baser nature of our species. I'm looking for that spark of attraction that makes enjoying the person I'm with possible. If the attraction and fun we generate are mutual, you can bet I'd like to see where it leads! Is passion possible? I'd like to think so but am concluding otherwise.
What I’m doing with my life
...After a year of major losses ending in 2014 that included the tragic death of my four kids' father, my life has substantially changed and mostly for the better. Although I loved my work as a college transcriptionist for students with disabilities, ever-increasing tuition/fees led to ever-lowering attendance and the end of my position. I had to start over, in more ways than one! I now divide my time between working for myself and for one other small business. Yes, that's right; I'm of the working class and not likely to retire any time soon!

Otherwise, my pastimes include reading, gardening, singing, walking, cycling, climbing trees, listening to public radio/music, frisbee, FB/Internet, and going to movies/plays/concerts. Dance is also becoming more important to me. I took part in Eugene's annual Thrill the World flash mob dance last October '14, performing Michael Jackson's Thriller in zombie costume, as I did the year before. Knee surgery recovery kept me out of this year's event, although I did get to dance it once with some of the Thriller zombies at the Sat Mkt on Halloween.
I’m really good at
a variety of things:
I'm told I have a wicked sense of humor; I love to sing and sang well enough to occasionally perform solo parts for the choir I was in for several years; I bake and made all my family's bread for many years--also worked as a vegan baker for a few years; I have a green thumb, worked seasonally at a multi-greenhouse operation for another few years, and still do gardening work for others on an occasional basis; I'm geared for nurturing and enjoy cuddling my grandchildren now that my kids are grown.

Finally, I'm pretty keen on figuring out where the real power is in a given situation as I don't tolerate being coerced or manipulated--a hard-won and essential part of my identity. But I do enjoy games between consenting adults! I'd love to have a playmate in my life!
The first things people usually notice about me
My smile, my curves, and if singing--my voice.
All right! I have to add my natural scent and my hair, since I do keep receiving compliments for them.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: The World Without Us, Into the Wild, Autobiography of Malcolm X, King Leopold's Ghost, Fast Food Nation, Sugar Blues--so, nonfiction works, biographies, and Tolkien's Lord of the Rings trilogy--fabulous story and such beautiful speech. I'd live in Middle Earth in a heartbeat!

Favorite movies: All kinds, especially quirky ones with a good story. Fight Club, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Inception, Jacob's Ladder, Harold and Maude, Thank You For Smoking, Fargo. I love the use of music in cinema, too, as in: Donnie Darko, Oh Brother Where Art Thou, Kill Bill, and Across the Universe. Romantic favorites: Ghost, Titanic, An Affair to Remember Family favorites: Princess Bride, In Search of the Holy Grail, & Star Wars Episodes IV-VI Favorite 3-D movies: Coraline, Hugo, and The Life of Pi More recently watched and enjoyed: Star Wars: The Force Awakens, Boyhood, and Captain Fantastic (love, love to see Viggo at work!)

Television: I don't watch it often, but there have been many good shows worthy of my time over the years. My daughters got me hooked on The Walking Dead--a rather sober/frightening allegory of our future--only with global warming doing the damage. Really enjoyed the short series Stranger Things. Just enough scare to handle! And of course, I always enjoy seeing Benedict Cumberbatch as Sherlock.

Music: Most genres--too many to list, but I make a point of seeing Bruce Cockburn when he comes to town. God, I love that man! And yes, I do like some rap. I'm an avid public radio fan, especially KRVM. David Bowie's Lazarus video made me weep; have always appreciated his immense artistry.

Food: Fresh-baked goods, Mexican, anything marinated and grilled, Thai, popcorn with butter/nutritional yeast, most anything that my daughters and I can come up with
Six things I could never do without
The tangible:
clean water and food
coffee with sugar and cream
meaningful work
a private, heatable bathroom
dirt and place(s) for gardening in it
the Internet

The intangible:
my connection to my family
my curiosity
the amazing power of music/singing/dancing
the bittersweet relief of humor
my sensuality in all its many permutations
my autonomy; I like being my own boss! I just don't like to play by myself all the time!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
the condition of the planet (climate change/habitat loss) and how the lack of justice otherwise enflames the world; and why I'd still like to be enjoying the moment with someone special while there's still time.
On a typical Friday night I am
Usually seeing someone or looking to see someone....
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Emotionally: "Now and then, especially at night, solitude loses its soft power and loneliness takes over. I am grateful when solitude returns."

Physiologically: Recent studies conclude that 85% of women do not reach orgasm via intercourse. I am not one of them.
You should message me if
You think we could be potential playmates.

Also, I do not own a SmartPhone--so, as much as I love the digital world, I'm not always connected (tethered) to the Internet.
The two of us