38Portland, United States
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My self-summary
I'm a musician. For work and for life purpose and for joy.
I've been self-employed for ten years, performing, recording, touring, teaching.

I'm in a fantastic partnership with a great man. We practice non-hierarchical ethical non-monogamy. Sounds academic, but really it's juicy and rich. I find that it shines a light on all the challenging stuff and makes you work on your shit. Which is it's own payoff (personal growth). Plus freedom, profound intimacy, sexual variety, and so so much love.

I'm a life-long vegetarian.
I miss my family - they live far away.
I'm a Quaker.
I believe in direct action as a crucial way to make change.
I love trees. Like, a lot.
"I willingly confess to so great a partiality for trees as tempts me to respect a man in exact proportion to his respect for them." - James Russell Lowell
I'm queer - attracted mostly to masculine gender expression, but not exclusively.
I'm an introverted person whose job often requires her to be extroverted.
I have a lot of long-standing, emotionally intimate friendships.
I resent technology's takeover of my life, but can't seem to break my addiction.
I'm excited to finally be growing some food again.
I'm a high school dropout. Well, riseout.
I enjoy drinking alcohol.
Integrity is hugely important to me.
I'm good at baking pies.
I miss taking long walks with my dog. She was pretty great.
I love riding my bike, but end up driving a lot because cello.
Language is important to me. I'm attracted to well-spoken people and really appreciate a clever turn of phrase.
I like to swim, but the things that live in natural bodies of water freak me out, even though I really WANT to be ok with them.
I go to a fair number of public hearings. They're boring as fuck, but it's important to show up and speak up.
I read fiction, mostly. And The Sun Magazine. And articles that smart people send me.
I'm really organized. Especially for a musician.
I like taking care of my friends' kids. And then going home where it's quiet.
I pay more attention to plants than buildings.
I like to play ping pong.
Also, smelling smells is awesome.
What I’m doing with my life
Working on a music video that can also be an organizing tool for climate activists. Making heroic amounts of vegetarian chili. Re-committing to my daily prayer / meditation practice. Teaching cello lessons. Taking long walks to say what's up to trees and move my body, which stills my mind. Writing letters. Healing wounds. Love love loving my amazing friends. Contacting my elected officials. Helping crows open walnuts. Writing new songs.
I’m really good at
parallel parking.
holding space / listening.
doing dishes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Barbara Kingsolver, Pema Chodron, Naomi Shihab Nye, John Steinbeck, Zadie Smith, Anne Lamott, Derrick Jensen (though his defense of transphobia is breaking my heart), Leslie Feinberg, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Joanna Macy, Leslie Marmon Silko, Jeffrey Eugenides, Alice Walker, Maggie Anton, Diana Gabaldon.

I try with the nonfiction. I really do! But it is sloooow going.

Music - I'm sticking to things I've actually listened to in the last few months:
Lyle Lovett, David Bromberg, The Meters, Holly Near, Woody Guthrie, Billy Bragg, Tom Waits, Nina Simone, Darol Anger, Norman Blake, Blue Cranes, Peter Mulvey, Gregory Alan Isakov, Pancake Breakfast, Emily Wells, Grateful Dead, Indigo Girls, Bruce Springsteen, Cat Stevens, Miriam Makeba, Nick Drake, Paul Curreri, Van Morrison, The Two Man Gentleman Band, JD Souther, Chet Baker, and holy shit you gotta listen to this new Karl Blau record!!!

TV and movies:
There's stuff I enjoy, but I would also be ok with never looking at moving pictures on a screen ever again. I think.
House of Cards. Frank Capra. Zootopia. Harold and Maude. Call the Midwife. Cohen Brothers. Happy People. Grace and Frankie. Anything with Jimmy Stewart. Jean-Pierre Jeunet. Jonathan Strange & Mr. Norrell.

I'm a vegetarian. Haven't eaten gluten in 10 years. Which means I haven't had a donut in ten years. Fucked. Up.
But I'm a good cook and we live in the mecca of dietary restrictions, so I can eat out most places. Favorites are Mexican, Thai, and pizza.
I cook a lot with fresh veggies, beans, nuts, cheese, whole grains.
And I think I mentioned pie.
You should message me if
You want to get a drink and talk and flirt hard.

You're curious to see if we have the kind of chemistry that ignites an electrical sexual relationship.

You're not afraid to communicate openly and vulnerably (ok, maybe you're afraid, but you do it anyway)!

Your version of polyamory doesn't try to keep people from experiencing discomfort by legislating what depth of feeling is acceptable in one relationship vs. another. (If you're not sure what I mean, I'd love to talk about it!)
The two of us