45 Edinburgh, United Kingdom
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My self-summary
wry nerd; thoughtful, caring and understanding; thought-full, cares about understanding; pragmatic romantic about everything; distractable and easily led; serial monogamist who previously wandered into longish contented relationships but reckons at this stage of life a more pro-active approach is required; barely dated back in the day, so kind of intrigued to meet you in that context, and to learn who you are and what you think.
What I’m doing with my life
I work for in a software development team. I like it lots.

My long term "plan" is to take what I learn/earn and do something less corporate with it. Something humanitarian, and playfully disruptive... I hope to know it when I see it.

I love to support (donating time, thought and passion to) the projects and schemes of those close to me - if you have some, let me help!
The first things people usually notice about me
There: an eccentric coat, blue eyes

Here: he's using his real name... what's that about?

I know anonymous would be less anomalous - especially on a dating site, where I see the point of indirection shields. But I've always valued reality online. My contact details are at and you are welcome to use them.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
* Prose, sliding from fiction to non: Kurt Vonnegut, Jeanette Winterson, Neal Stephenson, Robert Pirsig, Douglas Hofstadster, Daniel Dennett, Kent Beck.
* Comics, from web to paper: Andrew Hussie, Randall Munroe, Scott McCloud, Neil Gaiman.
* TV, alliteratively: Buffy, Babylon 5, and Bojack Horseman; Curb and Community; Green Wing and Gilmore Girls; West Wing and the Wire.
* Film, a single feature: Wings Of Desire.
* Music, progressively obscure: Hendrix, Pulp, My Bloody Valentine, Cocteau Twins, Throwing Muses, Ulrich Schnauss, Bark Psychosis.
* Games: Portal, SpaceChem, Darwinia, chess.
* Food: potatoes, cumin, pickles, dolma, lime, ginger

Omitted: the other 90% of the great 10%, especially that one you know about and I don't yet. If you're stuck for an opening angle, I love to discuss all that we consume.
The six things I could never do without
ideas, insulin; puzzles, puns; evidence, velvet
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Whatever fascinated me today - every subject gets its chance to be overthought. Feed me.

Themes I return to: people, thinking itself, what art we like and why, and the digital future.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Er, no. I am very public by default. Let's not explore the limits on this page.
You should message me if meet the "I'm looking for" criteria above (exception: age ranges are always arbitrary.)

A guess as to whether we'll work well: you like to think and to share ideas; your sense of humor is dry and dark, but you have a huge heart and zero hatred; and to balance my calm, maybe you have energy and aims and adventures. But my theories often miss: surprise me with a completely different fit.

I'm not on any A-list, so I probably won't know if you just click 'Like'. Say "hello" instead.

What I want from a message: just a note of potential interest, there is no need to audition or essay. I treat a dating site as a useful first filter, not as a courtship platform. If we read each other's profiles (and explained answers - I value those) and swap "yeah, maybe" messages, then my preferred next step is to meet up and talk for real over coffee, a meal, et cetera.