apedestrian
29 Tacoma, United States
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My self-summary
Greets! Here are a few facts about me (because I'm honestly not sure how else to go about this and I like lists):

- I'm a vagabond at heart but am currently in a dormant, education-gaining stage of my life.
- Borderline INFP (1% I, 1% F; I seem to bork the test EVERY TIME)
- Polymath fantasies
- Part-time & active writer, palmist, & ukulele aficionado
- Minimalist tendencies
- Pronouns are they/them
- Proud feminist & trans activist

Also a super-awkward, easily amused dork, which I suppose is my most defining characteristic. An example of this would be that I often flub over my words conversationally, or might want to play some silly word game with you on the bus, or sing because what you said reminded me of a song. I like to be silly, and tend to gravitate towards silly/dorky/awkward folk. If you're a silly/dorky/awkward folk, I want to hear from you! :D

I appreciate people/things/places far better than your average person, I wager. I suppose an apt way to explain me is the fact that I've always been damn excited about the universe and my life is an ongoing mission to indulge/explore in it as well as make sure that everyone else around me does the same.

By the by, I am long-term committed to two wonderful people: kittytristy & adamthealien. I don't prefer or even care much for the word "primary" personally, but I do live with the former, if you were wondering. Unmarried, and don't think I ever plan to. Mind: I will never enter into anything I do not feel like I have time for. These days, particularly since one of my relationships is a LDR at the moment, I do find that I have a bit of time for dating and may be interested an a LTR as well.
What I’m doing with my life
Ultimately, I never want to be tied down. In the (hopefully) not-too-distant future, I picture myself owning a home somewhere in the northwest where I may occasionally stay whenever I need to recuperate, but will mostly want to be out there, seeing the world! :D

My plan right now, however, involves acquiring a degree in massage therapy this coming spring, finding regular work, and building a nest egg.
I’m really good at
Getting lost
Being easily impressed (I even have a tumblr devoted to this: easilyimpressedhuman.tumblr.com)
Being objective
Keeping myself busy
Keeping myself company
Being the "reluctant leader." Never jump at the chance, but I do inadvertently plan well and have no problem taking the reins.
Making lists
Memorizing lyrics and melody (folks have dubbed me a musical encyclopedia)
Writing
Plotting out impromptu stories
Editing
Word games
Playing the ukulele
Accommodating
Doting
Palmistry
Giving massages (I actually do this rather compulsively around good friends)
The first things people usually notice about me
People tell me, particularly because I'm short/stubby and love wearing vests/suspenders, that I look rather like a hobbit. In many ways, this extends to my overall personality as well.

I suppose people also quasi-immediately understand how generous I am. If I'm meeting someone for the first time and happen to be in a position where I can offer them something (food, advice, etc) I typically jump at the chance. Also very forward where praise is due. You're gorgeous, you're gonna hear it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: A Hundred Years of Solitude, Jonathon Livingston Seagull, The Fortunate Pilgrim, 1984, Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy, The Family, Pride & Prejudice, The Phantom Tollbooth, Passions & Impressions, The Hands of Day, Leaves of Grass, Anne of Green Gables, LOTR series, The Hobbit, Save the Cat

Movies: Pirates of Penzance, Chocolat, Adaptation, Pride and Prejudice (the older version), Knockin' on Heaven's Door, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, pretty much every Miyazaki film I've ever seen, The Terminal, LOTR, Anne of Green Gables, A Little Princess, Ghost in the Shell, Breakfast at Tiffany's, Chicago, Amelie, Big Fish

Shows: The West Wing, Doctor Who, The Newsroom, Community, Space Dandy, Legend of Korra, Adventure Time, Orphan Black, A Bit of Fry and Laurie, Orange is the New Black, Parks & Rec, The IT Crowd, Fullmetal Alchemist, Terror in Resonance, Kids on the Slope, Firefly, Whose Line is it Anyway?, Twin Peaks, One Piece, Cowboy Bebop, Sherlock, Durarara!!, Avatar: The Last Airbender

Music: Pink Floyd, Supertramp, Queen, The Seatbelts, The Real Tuesday Weld, The Beatles, Thievery Corporation, Hole, Zero 7, Led Zeppelin, The Distillers, Amanda Palmer, Air, Deftones, Royksopp, Beirut, Yann Tierson, Beats Antique, Sneaker Pimps, Flogging Molly, Audioslave, Yoko Kanno, Rush, Soundgarden, Radiohead, Sigur Ros, Splendora, The Muffs

Food: Sushi, curry, stir-fry, pot roast, pasta salad, potato salad, casseroles, rice, macadamias, curry, raspberries, chow-mein, fried rice, phad thai. I love mixing things together and just throwing it into a bowl. All the different flavors hitting my mouth at once is a guilty pleasure.
The six things I could never do without
None of these count as "could never do without", but they ARE things that keep me the happiest when they do happen:

- Writing fiction, particularly when I have a really good idea and am depicting it well
- Long solitary walks
- Getting lost in a damn good book
- Belting out a damn good song
- Workouts so intense that they leave me breathless
- ...same goes with sex.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how I can make the most of my time, hands (I have a huge fascination with them), music (I ALWAYS seem to have a song stuck in my head), and figuring people/myself out. Sometimes it's fun to create super elaborate background stories about people, and I'm often surprised to find that a lot of the things I make up about them aren't so far from the truth.
On a typical Friday night I am
probably trying to chase after something new. I like to put myself in places or situations I'm unfamiliar or uncomfortable with, whatever that may be in a given week. If I'm not challenging myself on a regular basis, I feel that I'm not properly being "me."

What I find most enjoyable *these* particular days includes playing the ukulele, exploring Tacoma (relatively new town for me, and freaking gorgeous, at that), hiking, improv with friends (my best friend and I have a long-term "game" running in which she and I act out a wide range of characters sailing together for a quest of gold), contributing to a long-term collaborative story-blog, studying a million palmistry books, figuring out how to set up a mini garden in my apartment, designing decoupage projects, perfecting my bucket list, and learning new recipes.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have been taking a low dose of testosterone injections every week for about a year now, with the ultimate goal of androgyny.
You should message me if
you wanna date or friend a dorky, awkward queer. Doesn't matter where you are or what your background is. Speak up, and I'll listen. I want to build connections! Explore your brain!
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