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My self-summary
I am Funny, Smart, and Handsome
That's what women always say in their break-up e-mails, anyway. I'm also trustworthy, loyal, clean and reverent. I get the funny and handsome thing pretty regularly. (One woman said that I look like a Polish ax murderer in one of my pictures, but most everyone tells me I look better in person. Absurd. I'm not Polish.) Was told a while back that I have a great jaw crease. Imagine that. What IS that?
Fitness used to come from the dojo but now it's from the gym mostly. And work. Also hike, backpack, bike. I smell good and taste good. I don't smoke, do drugs, drink to excess or beat people up. I have all my hair. You should, too. No, seriously. I'm pretty strong, but I’ve studied bonsai and brush painting. I was a Registered Nurse, but have changed careers to landscape design/construction after even more education. I’m a big guy—6', 195 lbs.—and I practice Aikido, the martial art of peace. I spend a lot of time outdoors even when I'm not at work. My music tastes go from classical Indian to classical European to jazz to electronica.
A recent acquaintance called me "all man." I have no idea what that means, exactly, but I've been told that this is in short supply these days and that many were heading down to "Man Jose" to find someone. That's pretty funny. Another said that I was a geeky stud. Their words, not mine.
I like to cook, especially with and/or for someone. Seriously, is there anything more sensual than than cooking and eating together? Well, there's THAT, but I mean with your clothes on.
An old friend said that I was a "sensate". He meant that I take in the world visually and tactilely.
What is this thing about long walks on the beach. Doesn't anybody like a short walk on the beach or a medium walk in the hills? I do like being out in the rain, even if I don't get caught there. But I hate Pina Coladas. Seriously, what red-blooded guy likes Pina Coladas frcryinoutloud
I'm pretty left-leaning, politically. As in: I think Big Pharma should be nationalized and Ann Coulter institutionalized.
I don't know what to do about this age thing. People tell me I think and act like someone 20 years younger. Someone recently said they thought I was in my 40's. Point is, there are a lot of people with these rigid ideas of what this or that age means. I'm Iooking for the woman that isn't that limited in her thinking. Those who aren't, I've found, are the most interesting.
I'm looking for a companion and a lover. I've met a lot of women who are too busy for the former and too scared of the latter. I don't push the latter. In fact, I'm monk-like in my patience. But you need to have worked through your stuff: parental, previous relationships, fearful weltanschaung, whatever.
What I’m doing with my life
Working hard to create sustainable, beautiful outdoor spaces. Following a Buddhist practice. Trying to improve my Italian cooking. Continuing to learn.
Trying to find groups to move me forward. Am a co-leader of a sketching Meetup.
I've been working way too much because I don't have someone to do things with. I need an intervention to get me out of the hamster wheel.
I’m really good at
Building beautiful outdoor wood structures. I raised a wonderful son. He's my foreman, now.
I make a mean puttanesca. Wait . . . what does that make ME? (Hint: you have to know what puttanesca means. The word, not the ingredients, silly.)
The first things people usually notice about me
{The hot new glasses.} That sentence was from a couple of years ago. I've had two new pair since. When I picked up my latest pair (which have been called fashionable, thank you) I realized they're the same glasses I wore in my high school graduation picture. Every thing old is new again. Even me:-)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I read everything from Irving to Rushdie to Robbins and a lot of biography. Read Grapes of Wrath for the first time, recently. Incredible. Paul Simon is a national treasure. Couldn't name a favorite movie, because I really like movies and can find something good in a lot of them. Dwell, The Atlantic, Fine Woodworking and Cooks
Six things I could never do without
I really enjoy the art that I have--photos, woodwork, block prints, pottery, basketry.
Kind of Blue, The Brandenburgs
Gabby the Wonder Dog (Alas, at 18, she passed on Christmas Eve. One of the sweetest, most curious, most grounded beings ever. I so miss her.)
My S6 (it's a business thing)
Crusty bread, olives and cheese(What? No.That's only one thing!)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The state of the world. (See Friday night).
Why isn't the Spanish version of People magazine called Gente?
A lot of people on here are talking about some glass and whether it's half full or half empty. I think they have the wrong glass.
Why do so many women think that men, or anyone, are so familiar with the Meyers-Briggs codes that they put them in their profile? Might as well tell me your blood type.
Why are there so many folks on here who haven't answered the questions? That's what makes OKC different. Step up or lean in or whatever you're doing these days and answer the questions. I'm going to assume it's a fake profile if you don't.
On a typical Friday night I am
The same thing we do every Friday night, Pinky! Try to take over the world!!!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I use all natural cleaning products and I recycle twice as much as I throw away. And I do this thing with my . . . . oh, right, not now.
You should message me if
You're someone strong, intelligent, curious, creative, fit, adventuresome, sensual, well read, and open minded. You are not suffering from some disorder that makes you have e-mail conversations for several days or weeks and then panic when someone actually asks you out. Also, if you only have one picture, my experience is that that you're a fake. And those pictures of you scuba diving? Do you know who looks exactly like you when they're diving? Everyone. Step up to the plate, be honest, show yourself.
I don't trust people with no self doubt.
In short, I want a woman who wants to date, now, and expresses herself clearly on this site about that.
If your smart enough two no that their is not a word alot.
If, like Little Esther, you like your men like you like your whiskey . . .
The two of us