36Hamden, United States
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My self-summary
This is not a summary, but a random list of facts. Because I can do what I want.

- I had open heart surgery a year ago in February. I was prepping for a big gnarly scar, but fortunately (or unfortunately -depending on how you look at it) they made it freakishly small.
- I've discovered in recent years that I don't like dogs. I feel like everyone should like dogs, but most have too much nervous energy. And I have too much nervous energy. And that is far too much nervous energy to go around.
- I don't cook. I've been told I should like to cook, because I'm "creative." But I do like to eat. So, I think I would be a good match for someone who likes to cook.
- I've been told I look *much* younger than I am. Recently at a restaurant I was ID'd getting a beer…with lunch. I don't know why the lunch part makes it worse. But it does.
- I used to work as a psychotherapist and I feel an obligation to tell people that, so they will know that I can (and will) read their minds.
- I'm very liberal. Like, super liberal.
- I used to draw and paint, but haven't made much time for it recently. I think I'm going to try and force myself.
- I can be quite jumpy and am easily embarrassed.
- I am much more comfortable one-on-one or in small groups.
- I lived in San Diego for a few years, a few years ago. I miss it and I don't know if I'll ever go back (to live). But it will always be my second home.
What I’m doing with my life
I founded a nonprofit a few years back and run that full-time. However, starting a business is pretty effing grueling. So, I'm contemplating restructuring it and doing it more as a side thing.
I’m really good at
- lip syncing
- protesting sleep
- making halloween costumes
- guessing people's weight (Ok, I only did that once.)
- hugs
The first things people usually notice about me
An odd number of people have commented on how much I smile...though I always believed that I smiled a normal amount. Unfortunately, many people misinterpret this as flirting, when just as often it is discomfort and/or awkwardness.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: I like books, but I don't read much. However, a few I've actually enjoyed reading include: I Was Told There'd Be Cake, Stumbling on Happiness, and My Life as an Experiment.

Movies and music: Yes to both.

Food: LOVE most food, particularly sweets and breakfast food. Bacon and chocolate make me happy, separately or together.
Six things I could never do without
Recently I lost someone I loved more than life itself. And I think something like that alters the way you read this prompt. I no longer have an answer that feels right. So, instead, here are some people and things I'd like to not have to be without:

- close friends
- sunshine
- desserts/sweets
- my phone/camera
- some sort of creative outlet
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to combine my random talents and passions in a way that positively impacts other people. And why it is the the Jetson's morning routine is not yet a reality. I think we, as a society, need to refocus our technological efforts and get on that.
On a typical Friday night I am
Lately sweats and wine have been my go-to. I used to blame it on the winter, but I guess that excuse is no longer valid. Perhaps I'll transition to real pants soon. Baby steps.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
If you send me a message that says 'hi' or 'hey,' I will not respond, 100% of the time. And I will probably hate you forever.

I mean, I get it. This whole thing is awkward. You could spend 5 min drafting a message and then the person might not reply. But if you want someone to respond, putting out a microscopic amount of effort usually helps. I mean, how is one supposed to respond to "hi" anyway?


See, it's just not good. The only other thing that might be worse is "what's up?"
You should message me if
You are quirky, kind and creative.
You are over 25, preferably over 30.
You are not vegan…unless you don't mind other people eating meat.
You are not an over-exerciser…unless you don't mind people who aren't.
You are not conservative or misogynistic…unless you want a karate chop to the neck.
The two of us