35 Hamden, United States
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My self-summary
This is not a summary, but a random list of facts. Because you're not my boss, OKC:

- I had open heart surgery a couple months ago, so I can't lift more that 20 lbs for awhile. Which is fine, because I don't really like lifting things.
- I've discovered recently that I don't like dogs. I feel like everyone should like dogs, but most have too much nervous energy. And I have too much nervous energy. And that is far too much nervous energy to go around.
- I don't cook. I've been told I should like to cook, because I'm "creative." But I do like to eat. So, I think I would be a good match for someone who likes to cook.
- I've been told I look *much* younger than I am. Recently at a restaurant I was ID'd getting a beer…with lunch. I don't know why the lunch part makes it worse. But it does.
- I used to work as a psychotherapist and I feel an obligation to tell people that, so they will know that I can (and will) read their minds.
- I'm very liberal. Like, super liberal.
- I used to draw and paint, but haven't made much time for it recently. I think I'm going to try and force myself.
- I can be quite jumpy and am easily embarrassed.
- I am much more comfortable one-on-one or in small groups.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm originally from CT, but fled to San Diego back in 2011. I came back a year or so ago due to a health scare. Don't worry. I'm fine. (See first bullet point.) I'm now trying to figure out how I can live a bi-costal life.

I currently work for a startup nonprofit and luckily have a pretty flexible schedule.
I’m really good at
- lip syncing
- protesting sleep
- making halloween costumes
- guessing people's weight (Ok, I only did that once.)
- hugs
The first things people usually notice about me
An odd number of people have commented on how much I smile...though I always believed that I smiled a normal amount. Unfortunately, many people misinterpret this as flirting, when just as often it is discomfort and/or awkwardness.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: I like books, but I don't read much. However, a few I've actually enjoyed reading include: I Was Told There'd Be Cake, Stumbling on Happiness, and My Life as an Experiment.

Movies and music: Yes to both.

Food: LOVE most food, particularly sweets and breakfast food. Bacon and chocolate make me happy, separately or together.
The six things I could never do without
- close friends
- sunshine
- desserts/sweets
- my phone/camera
- some sort of creative outlet
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to combine my random talents and passions in a way that positively impacts other people. And why it is the the Jetson's morning routine is not yet a reality. I think we, as a society, need to refocus our technological efforts and get on that.
On a typical Friday night I am
Watching standup comedy, having a drink (or several), dancing at a dive bar, or snuggling in jammies and watching a movie.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
If you send me a message that says 'hi' or 'hey,' I will not respond, 100% of the time. And I will probably hate you forever.

I mean, I get it. This whole thing is awkward. You could spend 5 min drafting a message and then the person might not reply. But if you want someone to respond, putting out a microscopic amount of effort usually helps. I mean, how is one supposed to respond to "hi" anyway?


See, it's just not good. The only other thing that might be worse is "what's up?"
You should message me if
You are quirky, kind and creative.
You are over 25, preferably over 30.
You are not vegan…unless you don't mind other people eating meat.
You are not an over-exerciser…unless you don't mind people who aren't.
You are not conservative or misogynistic…unless you want a karate chop to the neck.