astarrfire
49 Oakland, United States
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My self-summary
RIP Prince...

I'm from California, and a long time Bay Area dweller, but people often think I'm from the East Coast for some reason. I love the ocean, hiking, deep conversations, music, hot springs, film, gardening, yoga, social entrepreneurship, making up silly songs, healthy-veggie food, new restaurants, hotels, campsites and road trips.

I am a proud mama of a smart and spunky five year old boy, who has been my biggest teacher about humility, patience, strength, flexibility, and unconditional love.

I am looking for a man who is wise, kind, generous, courageous, solid, humble and loves what he does & who he is. We don't have to have the same interests, but sharing some common values, and a collaborative sense of adventure is key.

Check out this inspiring piece - it says a lot about what I care about :) http://www.huffingtonpost.com/muhammad-ali/tribute-to-nelson-mandela_b_4340781.html
What I’m doing with my life
I am currently consulting with nonprofits, authors, and business leaders. I also just returned to grad school to get an MBA. Its either the smartest or craziest things I've done thus far - Hard work, but so great to be learning new things.

I am passionate about what I do, and enjoy connecting visionaries, game changers, and innovative thinkers.

I was a professional modern dancer and have produced many arts festivals and conferences for social betterment. I have worked at some of the Bay Area's frontlines nonprofit organizations, and I have a soft spot for socially responsible business.
I’m really good at
Living life fully; Bringing amazing people together; Making a great meal out of whatever I find; Organizing events; Finding solutions; Authentic communication; Raising a beautiful little boy; Getting everyone to sing; Finding great deals; Collaboration and team work; Picking out the perfect gift; Working hard, then seriously relaxing; Seeing the greatness in others; Noticing little things; Laughing at myself.
The first things people usually notice about me
Not sure, maybe my smile or open personality. (For what it's worth, most people think I'm younger than I am - mostly that's a compliment, but maybe I'm just immature for my age.)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I have wide-ranging musical tastes: Soul, Funk, Reggae, Jazz, Folk, old school Hip Hop, Rock. Sade, Nneke, Fela, The Roots, Michelle Ndege'Ocello, Erikah Badu, Marvin Gaye, Nina Simone, Prince, Kronos Quartet, Pentatonix, The Beatles, Joni Mitchell, India Arie, Tracy Chapman...(I saw Fela! the musical on Broadway in NYC - it was incredible).

I LOVE movies...too many to mention... Harry Potter, Beasts of the Southern Wild, Whale Rider, the Matrix, Y Tu Mama..., American Beauty, Fire by Deepa Mehta, The Unbearable Lightness of Being, Man Facing Southeast, Dead Man Walking, Do The Right Thing. I tend to like socially-conscious documentaries. Lately, the Lego Movie and Tinkerbell, of course!

Rilke, Rumi, Gibran, Barbara Kingsolver, Toni Morrison, Chinua Achebe, Gabriel García Márquez, Isabelle Allende, Howard Zinn. Books on mindful parenting...
The six things I could never do without
My son tops this list by a million :)
But, also...
Being around smart, compassionate people;
The sky, sun, stars, trees;
Soaking in hot water (would be tough to give up);
Clean air, water;
Music
Close friends
Lately, home made chai with fresh ginger and turmeric
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The people that matter to me; How to live a fun and balanced life; How to be of better service to both friends and strangers; How being a parent is so deeply transformational and relentless at the same time; Creating an outrageously beautiful life.
On a typical Friday night I am
Sometimes at home chilling out with Netflix, at an art event, a movie, a great restaurant, or walking around the lake...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I watched every season of Grey's Anatomy and Scandal. Deep down I wish I was Shonda Rhimes.

Also, I admit I find I am not compelled by OKC main profile pics where guys are wearing sunglasses - can't see their eyes, or are holding a drink at a bar. Sorry, but I won't respond to posts without photos, or to people who have zero interest in spelling or grammar.
You should message me if
You are a grown-up, who still knows how to have fun... someone who has been through a rite of passage, and come out on the other side. Someone who is strong enough to not have to be right, courageous enough to love, and lives with a spirit of abundance and grace.

A man who cares deeply for the plight of others, for the earth and for future generations - but not at the expense of his family. Great dads are hot! :)

Someone who brings the spiritual into every day life. (ie: taking a deep breath in traffic and smiling at the person in the car in the next lane.)

Someone who is solvent, has their ducks lined up, and is not in a state of anxiety about the basics...but, who also acknowledges their privilege and shares their good fortune when compelled, without reservation. The ability to travel, eat organic, and be generous is a wonderful thing.

Someone who knows they don't know everything, but has learned a few good things along the way, and knows that wisdom is sometimes knowing that we don't really know.

They say there are 5 ways people show and receive love. 1. Physical affection 2. Verbal affection 3. Gifts 4. Doing things for the other 5. Spending quality time. All of the above sounds good to me...but, I don't need all of it in spades, all the time. Just a nice sprinkle throughout the week - even if we have busy, independent lives.
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