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My self-summary
If I were to sum up myself and the type of guy I like, it would be this quote from Augusten Burroughs:

"I like flaws and feel more comfortable around people who have them. I myself am made entirely of flaws stitched together with good intentions."

Still with me? Ok, good. Lets start with some basics: I'm a laid back, low maintenance, world traveling, down to earth, passionate gamer-geek that's hoping to find his partner in crime. I'm typically a wallflower in any big social setting, but warm up pretty quickly. I'd probably prefer hanging with a few close friends at home to getting hammered at some gay club, but the latter can be fun once in a blue moon too.

I have moved around a bit over the last few years; from NYC to the Bay Area to a 6 month stint in Los Angeles and now I have just made it back to NY a year and some change ago. I finished college studying film production in SF and just really, really didn't like living in LA. The men of LA just look so perfectly sculpted and polished, constantly making me feel like a weed in a really gay rose garden, and those roses have some thorns! For the record, I'm not fishing for compliments. I do believe I'm a good looking guy with plenty of substance, but I feel like I'm no match against Chase Thornsmith (some generic white guy I just made up) with Jesus's abs and the chiseled face of a Greek God.

Also! For those out there who know their Jung or Myers-Briggs types, I'm a textbook "INFJ".
What I’m doing with my life
I just started a new job with a publisher doing Digital Media Operations. This wasn't my first pick for a career, but it has opened up some interesting new possibilities for me. I do hope that I can find a way to get back to finding a path to a career in film production. I absolutely enjoy working as a producer, directing as well as editing. In the meantime I'm scratching that creative itch by producing/directing a web series called "Gaymers", which is about... Gay gamers! It has been a lot of fun and we just put it up on YouTube recently and *clears throat* if you feel so inclined, give it a watch at
I’m really good at
Navigating - give me a map and I'll be able to find the most efficient way to get us from point A to point B in no time.

Conversation - I may be an introvert but you will learn quickly that I have a lot to say.

Understanding people - I love connecting with others, especially people from different cultures.

Tomato Basil Soup - I make it, it's delicious! I like to use it for dipping a delicious grilled chicken or turkey sandwich in. I know, #SoWhite

Kids - I love them, and I like to think I'm really good with them.

Video Games - I can probably kick your ass (yes you!). Oh and yes, I trash talk, a lot. Can't put a lid on me! Unless you're really sensitive, then I'll try to keep it to a minimum.

Telling Stories - I often wonder if it's because I have a tendency to over dramatize things or because I've just had a lot of crazy sh*t happen to me.
The first things people usually notice about me
Blerg...? I feel like this is my opportunity to talk about flattering comments I have received in the past but I'm not biting. Feel free to make your own assessment :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
**Disclaimer** If you are reading my profile in its entirety then you know that I'm an aspiring filmmaker. Although some of my favorite films aren't obscure art house flicks, I like to think that I still have good taste in movies ;)

Movies: Interstellar, Guardians of The Galaxy, It Follows, Star Wars (5, 4, 6, 7 in that order), The Dark Knight, All About Eve, Shaun of The Dead, Hot Fuzz, Scott Pilgrim vs The World (any Edgar Wright movie, really), Samsara, The Woman in The Dunes, Mean Girls, 500 Days of Summer, Children of Men, Momento, Inception, Kill Bill, Pulp Fiction, Moonrise Kingdom, Monsters Inc, Finding Nemo, Bridesmaids, The Strangers (I LOVE scary movies), Friday the 13th 1-4, A Nightmare on Elm Street 1, 3 & 4.

TV Shows: Bob's Burgers, Late Night With Stephen Colbert, Full Frontal With Samantha Bee, House of Cards, Jessica Jones, Strangers With Candy, Curb Your Enthusiasm, 30 Rock (forever my favorite), Parks and Rec, Game of Thrones, Fringe, Battlestar Galactica, Project Runway, Six Feet Under, Dexter, Chuck, Avatar: The Last Airbender, Legend of Korra, South Park (they have been really on the ball the last few seasons!), Ugly Betty, Arrested Development, Summer Heights High (Brownie points if you have seen this show)

Music: Just about everything! Not too big on metal or rap though. Temper Trap, Local Natives, Susanne Sundfør, Woodkid, Goldfrapp, Feist, Florence and The Machine, Muse, Vampire Weekend, Two Door Cinema Club, Coldplay, Bloc Party, Muse, Lykke Li, Adele, Lady Gaga, Radiohead, Sound of Arrows, John Legend.

Books: Not much of a reader but I'm in love with the "A Song of Ice and Fire" books, The Fault in Our Stars... I was going to throw in some more book titles to make myself appear like some interesting connoisseur of literary arts but, eh, who am I kidding?

Video Games: Overwatch (my current obsession), Fire Emblem, Smash Bros., Bayonetta, Kingdom Hearts, Pokemon (yep, I'm a 30 year old that just admitted to STILL play Pokemon), most 1st party Nintendo games, Final Fantasy XIV (along with a lot of the previous, non-MMO entries in the franchise), Metal Gear Solid, Mass Effect (2 was the best!), Shadow of The Colossus, Mortal Kombat (9 & X have been so good!).. You get the idea. Not too fond of sports or racing games unless "Mario" is somewhere in the title.
The six things I could never do without
This is a tough one, in no particular order:
1 - Music; fuels my imagination and creative process.
2 - Friends; since I don't have the best relationship with my family, my friends are very important to me.
3 - Traveling; Never let go of that child-like wonder you can only truly experience when traveling and exploring new and familiar places. I live for that sense of adventure.
4 - Cinema; I'm a natural born storyteller and have a genuine love for all kinds of ways film makers and artists tell theirs.
5 - Water; Yes, regular, unsweetened water. Can't get enough of it.
6 - Heart-to-hearts; I love losing myself in a really interesting conversation about anything; religion, politics, life, the moon, an episode of some trashy reality show, ANYTHING!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Everything. My brain is always working. If there's ever any outcome to anything, I probably have thought about it at one point or another. It's a double edged sword... Much like the one Mickey Rourke tried to kill me with. (bonus points if you get this reference!)
On a typical Friday night I am
Hanging out with friends, watching a movie at home or doing a game night with my room mates, maybe going to a dive bar. Nothing too crazy. I'm not a heavy drinker and certainly not a party "boy" (side-note: If you consider yourself any kind of "boy", we probably wouldn't mesh well in a romantic capacity)

In the dating that I have done, I have come to realize that I just don't have the desire to keep up with someone who is out clubbing regularly. I'd much rather watch a good movie, cuddle up after having a home cooked dinner. Blah blah blah, you get the idea.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm an open book, but I think that some stories are best reserved for a heart-to-heart ;)
You should message me if
... You're an intelligent, articulate, passionate, cultured guy who takes care of himself, knows which battles are worth fighting for and when to stand down, has a good sense of humor and doesn't take yourself too seriously AND believe monogamy is still a thing. If you think that sounds like you... Then step right up. I'm looking for the REAL deal, not another 1-2 year relationship to add to my dating history, I hope you are too.