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My self-summary
I am an ENTJ, bellydancer, sommeliere, historical fiction writer, and artist herder. If it's ensemble improvised anything, I'm down. I am a rational anarchist and a foodie-centric hippie. I am a consensual non-monogamist, gender non-conforming, and other pithy abbreviations.

Recently, I've become particularly interested in appreciating things outside my comfort zone and empathising with people who are substantially different than me.

Thou art god and I am god and all that groks is god.
What I’m doing with my life
Herding writers, running a bnb, bellydancing and doing environmental theatre with the Night Circus. Recently I also seem to be lifting weights a lot and getting more tattoos. I'm working on doing things I'm afraid of and appreciating things I'm prejudiced against.

I make a habit of living abroad for several months at a time and trying to suck less at other languages. Sometimes I dabble in my former lives as a somm and a musician by teaching wine classes or doing reunion tours with my old a capella troupe.

I want to learn to sail a tall ship.

Non-mono disclosure: I do not presently have a primary. I have multiple infrequent secondaries. I'm cool (and experienced) with being casual but I would eventually like to find a new primary. I am also thrilled for nonsexual new friends.
I’m really good at
Attempting to usurp space-time coordinates already inhabited by furniture. Being snarky on the internet: How To Write To Women On Okcupid
The first things people usually notice about me
I have a social gravitational force approaching that of a singularity. For nerds, anyway.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Social manifestos disguised as scifi. (Joan Vinge, Robert Heinlein.) Anthropology, ecology, and history nonfic. (Jared Diamond, Michael Pollan.) Historical fiction (Sharon Kay Penman.)

Food: I've got my veggie and meat CSAs set up in New York, but still need to find foodie bars and a favoured specialty shop.

Former Chicago answer: I get the majority of my food from Farmer Tom's, Cedar Valley Sustainable, and Provenance. Honorable mention: Jam, Rootstock, Owen&Engine, Longman&Eagle, Telegraph, The Bristol, the Barrelhouse Flat, and oyster happy hour at Shaw's.
The six things I could never do without
People to communicate with by any medium (verbal, visual, physical, or musical.) The kick comes from people, buddy boy.

That's the only thing.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have a giant crush on Zevran. What, it's too much to ask for a smartass bisexual elf assassin philanderer?
You should message me if
I am interested in bonding as humans with all intelligent, daring, kind-spirited people who are attempting to stay vulnerable and humble. This is irrelevant to gender-presentation and may not involve a sexual component. I'd love people who are not trying to have sex with me to dance with, cook with, jog with, knit with, eat with, and torment the cat with.

I take very few sexual partners. The ones I do take are usually male-presenting individuals who fit the following descriptions:

* Slim, fit, and pretty with angular features, a full compliment of hair on top of your head and minimal-to-none on your body. See: bltoaster, foolishfromspace, the Warwick University Rowing Team Calendar
* Smart, well-socialized, and not shy. Professional performers usually fit this bill.
*Possessing a disciplined, purposeful vocabulary of movement. Physical actors, circus performers, ballerinos. Bonus points for musical fluency: I brake for collegiate a capella, tenors, and marching percussion.

I've realized recently I am a "Manhattan type" as far as working artists go. It takes a certain minimum level of hustle, drive, and commercialism to make it as a professional artist in the city, as well as a high level of competence in your discipline. I'm finding I have a lot in common with others who've been sorted by this mechanism, and it's kind of a relief to not have to explain things to each other.

I used to be a "Brooklyn type" in my early 20s, when I ran a big ol' DIY art collective/hippie commune, and I still hold affection for that life... but if you're swinging to be my next primary, full time performing artists managing to stay afloat in the city please step to the front of the line.