39 Bellevue, United States
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My self-summary
Is this where I'm supposed to talk about my tattoos and all the other conformist, er, non-comformist shit I'm into?

Oh, no, that's in the books/movies section.

At the moment I'm not looking for much of a romantic connection; a bit saturated at the moment.

I'm an atheist ex-programmer who likes mind-altering experiences: rock concerts, dancing, drinking, and other chemicals. I have moved over in my old age to camping, hiking, and backpacking, although I do infrequently mix these things up, and I can still party all night if the occasion calls for it. Or if velvetgloves asks me to nicely.

I try not to take anything seriously, and will probably mock you if you do.

If you're squeamish about dating someone in an open relationship, just turn around now. (You don't have to be friends with my fiance or anything, though.) I don't have the patience to hold your hand through it.

I'm a bit tired of guys who think they're entitled to hang out with a pretty girl just because they buy her a couple drinks WITHOUT being interesting and/or seductive as well.

And of course, if you want to go on any sort of adventure, I'll probably be game. Joined the NSPP for that reason.
What I’m doing with my life
Quality Assurance with the Windows Test team, and relearning C# (last time I programmed was

I have moved on from watching Sherlock over and over to watching Peep Show and That Mitchell and Webb Look over and over.

Lots of camping and road trips in there too. I love driving on the 101 except when there are people there.

In the winter I lerve the skiing season.

I rather enjoy giving "the eye" to cute guys that can't seem to give a look back.
I’m really good at
getting people to tell me secrets. Writing.
The first things people usually notice about me
that i look 12.

When I was 25, in Amsterdam, this professor was hitting on me, he was like 32 and I asked how old he thought I was. He said 16. I was weirded out, but later I realized he only said 16 because he really thought I looked 14. Which really creeped me out, man.

And, ha, just at the beginning of March here, some older gentleman with thick white eyebrows and a small Sikh turban carded me buying a lighter. I mean, apparently that's a thing now, if they think you look younger than 30, you can't buy a lighter without an ID. Although I'll admit that having purple hair probably has something to do with it to. That's probably the first thing people notice about me right now, honestly.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
CATCH 22, the Illuminatus! trilogy, Terry Pratchett, Philip K Dick and Orson Scott Card. I became obsessed with Infinite Jest and am trying to read as much David Foster Wallace as I can. Hunter S. Thompson is great too. I also have read all of Malcolm Gladwell's books and think they aren't technical enough.

The most recent movie to catch my eye is Stoker, not just because of the incest and serial killer themes, although I will admit that's a large part of my interest.

Robert Downey Jr. has caught my eye for many reasons, I love all the new Marvel movies to death, especially Thor and The Avengers.

I still think Trent Reznor is an amazing musician if you want it loud and fast and hard.. Other bands I listen to a lot include Spiritualized, M83, Sigur Rós, Spacemen 3, Depeche Mode, New Order, and Black Rebel Motorcycle Club. I also like Orbital and Matthew Dear, two recent shows I've seen.

Mogwai and Explosions in the Sky are alltime favorites, but I'm super excited about My Bloody Valentine again.

My yin/yang nature means that I love sushi but hate seafood. Also I'm a total 2-star at most Asian restaurants. I try not to be a wimp about spicy food, but I'm out of practice. I enjoy making my own bread.
The six things I could never do without
I have been able to do without lots of things, but I get pretty mopey without a) making people laugh, b) hugs from my boyfriend, c) interesting food, d) my medication, e) music.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The fact that emotions influence thoughts far more than thoughts influence emotions.

Gay subtext on Sherlock.

Ben Whishaw.

The futility of the drug war, and other things that are futile and won't matter once all the Boomers die off.

How nice some Explosions in the Sky songs are to fall asleep to.

Things that make me want to have sex. Or is it the other way around.

The roles that biology and evolution play in how humans act/interact.

Various ways to cook pork.

How weird religion is. Look up "Mortification of the Flesh" on Wikipedia sometime.

The nature of comedy and which things work and which things don't.

Why people don't dance at concerts. Not that I've come up with a good reason.

The lack of good public transport in America.
On a typical Friday night I am
Hanging out with friends either at someone's cozy place or a bar. Sometimes, night skiing at Snoqualmie pass. In warmer weather, camping or backpacking.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've only JUST started reading HP Lovecraft even though I want to get an Elder God tattoo.
You should message me if
you see the flaws in laissez-faire capitalism AND in communism.

Or if you're short and thin and dark-haired.

I guess I could go for a second boyfriend, but it's not necessary.

I find there's not enough sensuality in dating but would loved to be proved wrong.