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My self-summary
*Note: I am finding myself quite polysaturated these days and it is often difficult for me to find time to keep up with the awesome people already in my life. I'm not currently looking for new romantic partners, and scheduling anything with me socially, especially if you're a 9-5er, can be very challenging. However, like-minded individuals and those interested, feel free to get in touch, who knows what could happen.

I'm a happily married lady (with Jacksuhn), living the dream, you know. I'm pansexual and embracing my own queerness. My husband and I are in an open relationship and exploring the poly lifestyle and alternative relationship structures generally. We've been dating outside our relationship for more than 3 years now. I've been lucky to meet some wonderful like-minded poly folks and I'm flowing with the possibilities and challenges of this new way of being. I've been sticking my toes in the pool of the kink community in Madison and having a really good time meeting new people and trying fun new things.

I describe myself as a lazy overachiever. I have an on again/off again relationship with fitness/working out. Former runner, sometimes yogi and weight lifter, currently in an off again phase but really want to get more into biking. I enjoy the outdoors and doing stuff like hiking, camping, and canoeing. In the summer I go to music festivals and let loose with the crazy hippies. I love coffee, the change of seasons, and going on little adventures. Former high school band geek, choir freak, and theater nerd. Radical socialist, feminist, and hater of oppression and injustice.

Myers-Briggs Type Indicator
Introvert(11%) iNtuitive(38%) Feeling(12%) Judging(22%)
Slight preference of Introversion over Extraversion (11%)
Moderate preference of Intuition over Sensing (38%)
Slight preference of Feeling over Thinking (12%)
Slight preference of Judging over Perceiving (22%)
What I’m doing with my life
Living my values and speaking my truth, doing the best I can. I graduated from college (again!) about three years ago, and I'm getting my bearings in my second career as a nurse. I'm finding this path much better suited for me than the 9-5 desk jockey route, never a dull day (or night) and always so much more to learn.

I occasionally spend time on other worthy pursuits, like learning to play the ukulele, spending time with friends and family, reading books for fun, and meeting new people.
I’m really good at
Vegan baking and cooking
Hippie dancing
Organic chemistry
Drinking beer
Staying up too late and sleeping in
The first things people usually notice about me
My "pretty blue eyes" have been noted before.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I like Tom Robbins novels, biographies, classics, nonfiction, haven't read much fantasy in a while but I did read all the Harry Potter books and enjoyed them.

I enjoy many kinds of movies, but tend to go for lots of indie stuff, sci fi, comedy, horror. I love every Christopher Guest movie, but Waiting for Guffman is perhaps my favorite.

Podcasts! Some favorites are Radiolab, This American Life, Sex Nerd Sandra (go team fun!), Our Hen House, Godless Bitches, Citizen Radio, Savage Love, and Big Fat Vegan Radio.

I like too many TV shows, but don't have much time to watch them. I enjoy 30 Rock, Modern Family, Parks and Rec, Big Bang Theory, Breaking Bad, Mad Men, American Horror Story, Portlandia, I could go on and on, but I won't. I watched all 7 seasons of TNG on Netflix, just as great as I remembered.

Music! I have eclectic musical tastes. I enjoy folk, jam, funk, jazz, classic rock, classical, only thing I really dislike is pop country. My Pandora rotation includes Regina Spektor, moe., Adele, The Wailin' Jennys, The White Stripes, Mates of State, Eddie From Ohio, Dar Williams, Yonder Mountain String Band, Trampled By Turtles, The Infamous Stringdusters, Kelly Clarkson, Florence + The Machine, The Talking Heads, Old Crow Medicine Show, Garfunkel and Oates, Simon & Garfunkel, George Clinton, The Ragbirds, Grateful Dead, Phish, The Beatles, The Who, The Doors, Björk, Blind Melon, Fugees, Erykah Badu, Puccini, Verdi, Schubert...I love me some music!

I like to cook and eat all kinds of foods, especially Indian and Thai. I'm vegan, but I enjoy creating both vegetable-centric and "meat-and-potatoes" type dishes at home, comfort foods can be plant-based too! Things I commonly make at home are vegan mac n cheeze (n beans, broccoli, kale, whatever I feel like tossing in), mashed potatoes and mushroom gravy, chili and cornbread, veggie stirfry, chana masala, squash curry, anything with peanut sauce, soups of all kinds, lots of kale!
Six things I could never do without
Lip balm, nooch, coffee, books, music, cuddling/kissing/spanky/sexy times. :)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The curious human condition, the nature of being, what I'm going to make for dinner.
On a typical Friday night I am
My place of work is a 24/7/365 operation, so days of the week become a little meaningless. When I have a free night I might be out at a bar listening to live music and drinking beer, on a date, or just chilling at home with the husband and dog, cooking dinner and watching netflix.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I like to think I'm a non-judgmental type, but catch myself judging people all the time. Guess I'm admitting to being human or something?
You should message me if
You're looking for someone to share good times and conversation with.
You do interesting stuff.
You describe yourself as liberal.
You love animals.
You want to get together for coffee, a bike ride, a hike, a show, some drinks, Thai food, or anything else that sounds fun.
You are interested in or currently participating in alternative relationship structures.
You want to discuss kinky play.

You shouldn't message me if
You're a guy looking for a quick hookup, I'm not interested.
You can't come up with anything better than "Hi, how are you?" as an opening message.
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