40 Plymouth, United Kingdom
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My self-summary
Having to describe yourself is one of the hardest things to do. Should I be witty? Exuberant? Lie my damn ass off? Hire some psychologist to guide me through who I am? Bleh.

I'd consider myself an atypical guy. Although I can be loud and opinionated at times, I'm willing to listen to reasoned argument. I care a lot about friends, and am happy to show that.

I trust my instincts and trust other people far too easily. I like a drink with mates, and am happy to laugh at myself. I also mix fantastic cocktails and can cook a great meal if called upon to do so.

For the last few years I've been developing a taste for films... all films, and have a collection that's appproaching 500 dvd' everything in there from animations, to trashy action films to the more serious psychological thrillers.

I read books at a horrific rate, generally getting through at least 2 per week, although I must admit a lot of them are sci-fi or fantasy novels, or even a mix of the two.

I'm useless at making the first move. Absolutely terrible at it. I'm usually articulate, sometimes witty and once I get to know the company I'm in I'm fairly confident. My problem is that I prefer initially to sit and watch, to listen and learn what makes people tick. Only once I'm confident that my sense of humour, attitudes towards life and my personality won't be found offensive, upsetting or antagonistic do I truly relax. Once I do the problem is then getting me to shut up!

On any given day I can be exuberant, reclusive, happy, sad, irritable, forgiving etc etc. Labels don't work for me, nor for anyone I know.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a qualified Environmental Health Officer who then decided to go into IT and has since started up his own business as a Photographer.

I hated Environmental health, Enjoyed IT and am loving photography.

If you don't believe me check the website:
I’m really good at
Talking. Listening. Talking some more. Making cocktails. Cooking. Singing badly, fixing computers.

Oh, and taking photographs
The first things people usually notice about me
the fact I will talk utter and complete crap rather than sit in silence. generally gets a discussion going though!

That and the fact that I really do have very few limits if dared to do something...

I have also been informed by someone I care a great deal for that my sense of humour and gentleness are also evident from first moments

Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
(A) I read a lot of sci fi and fantasy, but generally like those with a good spattering of intrigue thrown in as well. The best trilogy I've ever seen do this is the: Daughter of the Empire, Servant of the Empire, Mistress of the Empire by Janny Wurts and Raymond E Feist, though the Kushiel's Legacy triligy by Jacqueline Carey is superb. Oh, and of course there's the ubiquitous Game of Thrones and my personal favourite author - Jim Butcher. I love the Dresden files!
However, I'm also a huge fan of Tolkien and Steven Erikson. Good, solid reads, with a phenomenally well thought out world. The Tales of the Malazan Book of the Fallen are excellent reads full of complex characters, and the series just seems to get better with every book. Can also recommend the classics of Brave New World, Farenheit 451, Catch 22 and Nineteen Eighty Four. All thought provoking modern classics that are well worth a read.

(B) The Usual Suspects. Hands down winner of my fave movie. Other than that it depends on my mood. I can enjoy a bt of just about everything if I'm in the right mood. I have too many films to list here, but they cover pretty much every genre out there. Only qualifier for that is that I prefer modern films to the 'classics'.

(C) Music depends so much on mood. At times I like some metal, others cheese is what I want to listen to. Overall though, very fond of cheesy rock. Guns & Roses, Aerosmith, Gun, Thunder, that kind of thing. Also quite like Blackmore's Night and The Tea Party, I've recently rediscoverd Ocean Colour Scene, The Manic Street Preachers and Carter USM.
Also found Default, whom I love. And Disturbed, and... well, the list goes on and on. Currently have around 9 full days worth of music saved on my hard drive...

(D) Jambalaya, Cajun foods in general, italian, chinese and the humble british roast beef and yorkshire puds. Oh, and rare fillet steak with green peppercorn sauce. mmmmmmm. And pretty much anything else out there that tastes good. I tend to go for 'fusion' cooking, taking the flavours I like from all over the world and combining them into something of my own

The six things I could never do without
My pc; my car - though maybe I should remove this. I did spend 18 months unable to drive... hence the next choice: oxygen ; friends ; red meat ; people to introduce to that wonderful form of speech known as derision

and for the record.. being without a car really, really, really sucked. Meant I kind of retreated into my own little world, and getting me out the house was a little like prying a barnacle from a rock.
Right now an offer to go out for a drink and just meet some new people in the area is more pleasant than you could imagine.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What to cook tonight/this week. How to promote my business. Staying calm in the face of adversity. The nature of reality and lots of random stuff... Does God wear underwear?
On a typical Friday night I am
At the moment...very, very bored and wanting to do something of interest Or talking to friends online and being kept entertained in a true geeky fashion :P
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Dorset Naga Chillies are the spawn of satan and should only be handled with gloves... especially if there's any chance at all of an itch below the belt. Wasn't pretty

Taste good though.
You should message me if
you have a new theory of life, you are a witty, clever conversationalist...

or if you're just bored and want a chat with someone who'll listen... and talk. and talk some more. about pretty much anything