39Leuven, Belgium
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My self-summary
Let's see: I'm quite calm (as in: not usually found dancing on tables, not as in you'll never hear my voice), utterly reliable and almost never in a bad mood. I have an open mind and broad interests, and like to learn new things and be surprised. I cultivate my inner child, which is why I’m easily thrilled by small things.
Rest assured that cultivating my inner child does not mean I tend to behave like one ;) I generally have my feet on the ground, and if I really want something I can be quite ambitious.
I like being able to know and talk about diverse topics, but I'm also comfortable as an interested listener. While content is important to me, a sense of involvement is equally important: what I do (my work not in the least) must be something that I like and want to be good at; if I don't care, I'll lose interest soon.
This doesn't mean I'm very serious, though. Things should regularly be put in perspective, and what better way of doing that than teasing or being teased in return (which I love even more)? For me, the best remedy against life's routines getting you down is laughing with myself and not taking myself too seriously. Enjoying every day comes quite naturally to me.
What I’m doing with my life
I tend to take things as they come, and saying yes to things that came my way has served me well thus far.
I have a varied job that I like a lot, but which also takes up quite some time. As I divide the rest of the time between reading, seeing my friends and family, going to the theater and to concerts, and also have to run my single person household, I sometimes regret that there are only 24 hours in a day. However, I'm not complaining, as I wouldn't want to miss out on my hobbies or on a nice time with friends. It means that my dishes are not always done and I don't mop the floors every week, but above all, it means that I'm happy with my life, as I'm never bored. (Seriously, I don't understand people who say they're bored. There's so much you can do to enjoy yourself, and yes: doing nothing or staying lazy in bed can be an enjoyable activity too).

I've enjoyed single life for a couple of years now, and recently I feel that it would be good to be with two again. Not because I'm unhappy now, but because some things are nicer with two. And don't worry, it's not because my life is very busy right now, that I wouldn't be able to free time for you ;-)
I’m really good at
...explaining things (or so I'd like to think, but students I teach seem quite happy)
...writing letters (it's a lost art with the advent of e-mail, and I don't do it often anymore, but when I take the time to sit down and write to someone, I'm usually happy with the result. More happy than with this profile, anyway, it doesn't feel right to write to no-one in particular)
The first things people usually notice about me
Hmm, I've never asked. Since I look quite inconspicuous, many people won't notice me at first.
But people I only recently met (acquaintances, new colleagues etc.) tend to come quite soon with questions (or requests for help), because either "you'll know" or "you'll be willing to help me out". Often, it's true, but whether that is what they noticed or whether it's just my reputation, I don't know.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Oh, so many to choose from! Let's see (I'll list authors rather than books, and order is alphabetic rather than preference): I've read most books written by Douglas Adams, Margaret Atwood, Alessandro Baricco, Julian Barnes, J.M. Coetzee, Amitav Ghosh, Dave Eggers, Jeffrey Eugenides, Gabriel Garcia Marquez, John Irving, David Mitchell, Amélie Nothomb, Haruki Murakami, Salman Rushdie, Jonathan Safran Foer, Shaun Tan and they all have written at least one book (and often more) that I would recommend everyone to read. I'm forgetting many more, and I limited the list to fiction, but it gives already an idea. Yes, you probably guessed, I have a major reading addiction. As addictions go, that is quite harmless and has relatively little impact on daily life, but I will get uneasy if I need to wait somewhere and don’t have access to a book.

Movies: Nowadays, I don't go as often to the cinema as I used to, but I still enjoy it a lot. I prefer movies with some intelligent conversation / strong characters / decent plot over movies that are essentially special effect reels / have a 2-3-4-… added to their title. I’d hate to pick a favorite movie, as it changes a lot, so let’s just say that the chance is high my next favorite will be screened in an arthouse cinema.

TV shows: I don’t have a Netflix or Amazon Prime account, nor direct access to HBO series – which probably is a good thing, as I would be tempted to binge-watch some series. And then some more. Shows I have watched and liked include Breaking Bad, Game of Thrones, The Killing, and Six Feet Under (a while ago, but still great).As for comedy, I still like the British series the best: Green Wing, League of Gentlemen, Smack the pony, and of course classics like Monty Python and Blackadder.
Shows high on my ‘still to see’ list include Fargo, True Detective, The Handmaid’s Tale, Better Call Saul, The Bridge, American Gods, Black Mirror, The Wire, and the lists keep growing faster than I tend to watch. Yes, a long list, but no, no fear of missing out: if I don’t watch TV, it’s probably because I have other fun stuff to do.

Music: here also, I have an eclectic taste: the more variety the better. I like contemporary bands (such as Eels, Mumford & Sons, Elbow, The National, Sigur Ros, Fleet Foxes, alt-J, Muse, ...) as well as more classic rock and singer-songwriters (the Beatles, the Stones, Bob Dylan, Randy Newman, Bruce Springsteen, Nick Drake, Daniel Lanois, Dire Straits, Tom McRae), world music, folk or cross-overs (Manu Chao, Gotan project, Goran Bregovic, Beirut, Loreena McKennitt, Madre Deus, and many obscure folk bands) but also enjoy classical and even contemporary classical music (Arvo Part, Ludovico Einaudi, Wim Mertens, Johann Johannson, Nils Frahm, Olafur Arnalds), and - to a lesser extent - jazz.

Food: I eat anything, but have a preference for the Asian (particularly sushi and Thai curries) and Italian cuisine. I really like spicy food; and if not spicy, I prefer it seasoned otherwise (coriander, nutmeg, cumin, oregano, ...), life's too short to eat bland food. Particularly when eating out, I like a glass of good beer or wine with dinner as well. As for other drinks, I have a minor coffee addiction.
I'm not a great chef, but I like cooking and experimenting in the kitchen - and yes, the results are edible :-)
Six things I could never do without
Aside from the obvious essentials (air, water, food, drinks,...) and family and friends (whom I could not do without, but are not things), these are six things that make my life considerably more pleasant:
- books (and lots of them! Fiction, non-fiction, poetry, ... the lot. I can't bear to be without something to read, and it's the first thing I pack when going on a holiday)
- music (this encompasses both music listening and playing. Although I'm not much of a musician, I really like to have a piano or guitar nearby to fool around with)
- internet (for obvious reasons; everything you need (and much more you don't need but might be fun anyway) just a few clicks away)
- games (board games mostly, the perfect excuse for an evening with friends. And I'm not talking about Monopoly, most games are much more fun)
- tablet (I waited a long time before buying one, but haven't regretted a single second. Not least since it combines the four previous things. Since I have a tablet, books suddenly don't take up half my luggage for travel anymore :-)
- car/motorbike (I hate to admit this, since I'm an avid user of public transport and often use my bike to go places. But I could not do without the freedom of mobility to visit far-away friends or go places when I feel like it, without having to check how you get there, or worry if and when you get back when you have a good time)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
these questions. No, seriously, I rarely dwell on one topic for long (most of the time this leads to worrying, and I believe worrying is an abuse of the imagination).
I like to think of creative surprises when an occasion calls for it, though, and can spend quite some time doing that (finding or making the right present, writing some rhymes to go with it, ...). And I can completely lose myself in intellectual exercises of the "what if..." type, from the serious to the completely ridiculous.
On a typical Friday night I am
changing into my superhero clothes to combat crime over the weekend.

Well ok, lame joke, but it's a lame question. I'm actually either at home, reading or watching tv. Or out to dinner, hanging out with friends, at the theater, the cinema, ... .
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm a terrible procrastinator, but I will improve that. Starting tomorrow.

(of course there's more, but I'm not willing to admit that here)
You should message me if like to tease (since I like being teased) like what you've read (it's a bit longer than I intended, but hey, I believe in knowing a bit about people before you meet) want to know more about me're serious about a long-term relationship (it's not that I will definitely not reply to possible new friends or people looking for fun, but I'm actually looking for something more) have a twinkle in your eyes (either of naughtiness or enthusiasm, but that's a definite turn-on for me) don't take yourself too seriously want a shared future with two, but don't want to lose your own identity or independence completely feel like it!
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