48Portland, United States
Join today
Find great matches with our advanced matching system!
Join today
Find great matches with our advanced matching system!
My self-summary
Hi there, I'm Brenda, a fat chik (bbw....voluminous....extraordinary...whichever u prefer) that is looking for a life long companion, i am easy going, laid back, very little drama, don't take life too seriously and hard to offend. drinking an ice cold beer in some dive is just as fun as cuddling on the couch watching whatever catches our fancy. sarcastic, biting humor that makes me think (louis c.k., george carlin, eddie izzard ) is a huge turn on. being an atheist/humanist/freethinker, i appreciate people who are left of center with a huge sense of humor. This would be where I wax philosophic on the virtues of balance and self awareness; of the silly paradoxes of being human, vulnerable vs. unflappable, playful vs. responsible…you know…all that. Perhaps there’s more to it though… moments unfold and each of us gets to choose who we want to be… I am easy going but not a pushover by any means. I am not demanding, however, I do know what I want and understand that communication and compromise are a part of being in a healthy relationship. I also value honesty and trust. Those two elements are critical in establishing a long lasting relationship. I am willing to take chances and meet new people. I have a serious desire to find the right person to meet, grow to know, and hopefully start an amazing life together with. I'm a work in progress, but I've already accomplished a lot. I don’t have it all figured out, and I'm not done working on myself, but I know myself pretty well. I find it easy to relate to people, so I'm not very set on my partners background. I can be bossy at times but I prefer sharing responsibility with my partner. I prefer that they are decent and caring "good" people. They don't need to be philanthropic, but they should know that giving is its own gift. They should be open minded on many subjects, but still be true to, and know, themselves. I prefer having intimacy with my partner on many levels. Having personal space once in a while is an important part of life, but I always like to cuddle, and I'm not afraid of PDA. I am happy with who I am, so I have no need to put on an act in an attempt to impress others.
What I’m doing with my life
bettering myself one day at a time...very much a work in progress, working, enjoying living by myself, meeting new friends
I’m really good at
- making people feel comfortable
- karaoke
The first things people usually notice about me
My smile
my curly hair
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
books: non fiction mostly (anything by hitchens, dawkins, harris) but occasionally take a romp in paranormal romance
music: 80's hairbands, country, heavy metal, hip/hop and rap
shows: documentaries on just about any subject, walking dead, grimm, american horror story, breaking bad, south park, true csi stuff, dexter, vikings, bates motel, the killing, the shield, justified, last week tonight with john oliver, game of thrones, sopranos, daily show, house of cards
food: burgers and beer, seafood, steak, italian
movies: not much of a movie watcher..point break, rise of the planet of the apes, dawn of the planet of the apes
Six things I could never do without
music, books, humor, air, food, physical affection
I spend a lot of time thinking about
- how to be a better human
- continuing to educate myself
On a typical Friday night I am
relaxing after work with an ice cold beer
hanging out with friends at karaoke
cuddled on couch watching on demand
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
kinda still scared of the dark........
You should message me if
- you find me intriguing
- you truly enjoy the company of cool women :)
The two of us