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My self-summary
I'm an attorney trying to do some good in the world, spending my free time enjoying living in San Francisco since 2008. I love going on eating adventures or finding new, fun places to grab a drink-and the Bay Area is perfect for it. Hopefully I don’t come off too much like a lawyer. Grew up on a little family farm in the Midwest, though most people seem to be surprised someone like me grew up on a little family farm in the Midwest. If you’re looking for a mellow guy with an active social life, passion for his work, and who leans pretty liberal and feminist, here I am. I don’t date too much as helping take care of over a hundred foster kids through my job can get the best of me, but I’m trying to get better about putting myself out there.
What I’m doing with my life
Hopefully actually helping foster youth get seen for the beautiful, unique individuals they are, and treated with the love & compassion they deserve. I work for a non-profit in San Jose (yay, carpooling!) where I get appointed by the court to represent teenagers who’ve been removed from their parents due to abuse and neglect. Mainly that means I help my clients have a say in what's happening to them, and try to make sure their well-being and personal rights don't slip through the cracks of government bureaucracy and family drama. It can be pretty heavy, but meaningful and fascinating at the same time. They’re all amazing kids who deserve better. I’m in San Jose most days, home to SF at night. I live just barely in Noe, so I mostly hang out in or near the Mission with disparate friends. Dolores Park is kind of my backyard.

Also, at least once a week, I go play uncle to my best friend's twins over in the East Bay (I spent six years in the east bay and still love it and have my 510 area code). They are wonderful.
I’m really good at
Resetting my own nose (doesn’t it look straight??).

Eating (and often enjoying) food that most people seem to be afraid of. I like adventure-the bizarre, the famous, the out-of-the-way. Ask me about my trip to Southeast Asia sometime.

Empathy (that one can be a curse as much as a blessing I find, but at least it makes me a good listener!).

Noticing white privilege (ethnic studies minor, what?).
The first things people usually notice about me
Hard to know. I’ve probably most heard my dry sense of humor (if people understand I’m joking, ha), but I’d be interested what you notice.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My pop cultural awareness is dwindling...but I used to be pretty on this stuff:

Music: Kendrick Lamar, Kamasi Washington, Thundercat, Chvrches, Tame Impala, TV On The Radio, tUnE-yArDs, Washed Out, Joanna Newsom, Lykke Li, Sleater-Kinney, Ty Segall, St. Vincent, Bon Iver, Outkast, The Kinks, The Mountain Goats, Sufjan Stevens, Radiohead, Neutral Milk Hotel, Al Green, Johnny Cash, Yo La Tengo (that’s a pretty small sample, but think indie rock with some hip hop & jazz for good measure)

Books: Between the World and Me, Daytripper, Habibi, Scott Pilgrim (I like comics, and head to Mission Comics & Art a lot; the owner’s a really nice guy), You Shall Know Our Velocity, The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao, Invisible Man, Franny and Zooey, Cannery Row (I used to want to be Doc Ricketts when I grew up), Kurt Vonnegut, Swamplandia!, Raymond Chandler, Michael Chabon, A Visit from the Goon Squad, The Brothers Karamazov

Movies: In the Mood for Love, Wes Anderson films, Paul Thomas Anderson films, the Coen Brothers, the Muppets, American Splendor, Hayao Miyazaki films, Goodbye, Dragon Inn, High Fidelity, Something the Lord Made. P.s. I used to manage a movie theater.

Shows: All time favorites have probably been Homicide, Deadwood & Buffy. Bojack Horseman was the last thing to really make me laugh. I also listen to a lot of NPR (Fresh Air, Radiolab, etc.) given I have to drive a lot for work.

Food: I’m not afraid of anything that's supposed to be good. Except maybe bananas. I love researching food blogs and chasing after unique cheap eat finds. My present favorite place to eat is probably Bar Tartine.
Six things I could never do without
The best things in life aren't things. My friends & family are the only “things” I’d never really want to lose. I do appreciate diversity. And plumbing.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Emotionally processing my job, my friends, and where to eat.
On a typical Friday night I am
at a Mission bar with a crew.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have been a bridesmaid. But really, I'm honest about most everything (to a fault).
You should message me if
You’d like to go grab some tacos or a drink in the Mission. If exploring the city with me sounds like fun. If you like straight talk and practicality, but don’t forget to be thoughtful and enjoy the moment.
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