Sometimes, I'm the loudest voice in the room. Sometimes, I'm the one bombarding you with questions and trivia all evening. Sometimes, I'm the guy at the karaoke mic. Sometimes, I'm the guy at the bottom of the drunken cuddle pile in your bedroom.
Usually I do none of these things. Usually I'm not even at your boring little party. More often than not, I rather prefer my own excellent company. I'm hacking away at my latest project or curled up in some cozy corner, wrapped around a cherished book, cradling a cup of hot tea or mate. Or I'm on a Wikipedia binge read about seaplanes, weather systems and archipelagos.
I walk the line between intro and extrovert. ISTP, that's pretty much me.
Still, not a single person has ever accused me of being a boring guy to my face.
I firmly believe that a relationship is best built upon a solid friendship in combination with mutual physical attraction. This is what consonanta and I are currently enjoying. Moreover, I don't think that monogamy has to be the only way for people to achieve fulfillment. (I might be biased however, since I rarely experience jealousy.)
I am on okcupid to make your life more interesting, in return for you enriching my view of the world. And the other way around.
I recently found my way back into science and academia in form of a PhD position at TU Berlin.
I do enjoy my own company (and the company of books) a lot, but I also have an active social life, attending various technical and philosophical meetups. I recently picked up sailing as my current outdoor activity of choice but I still enjoy the odd bouldering session from time to time and I somehow always end up pushing my limits when riding a bike.
According to consonanta I have a certain glint in my eyes which was the first thing she remembered noticing about me.
I have also been told that I am way more cuddly than I appear on first sight but I don't exactly go around and hug everyone who notices me. (Still have to try the "free hugs"-sign thing though...)
Herman Hesse - Der Steppenwolf, Siddharta
Neal Stephenson - Anathem, Snow Crash, Diamond Age
Terry Pratchett - The Long Earth (with Stephen Baxter), Thief of Time, Night Watch, Thud, Hogfather, Going Postal, Making Money, ...
Simon Funk - After Life
Vernor Vinge - A Fire Upon The Deep, A Deepness In The Sky
Haruki Murakami - 1Q84 (all 3 books)
Neil Gaiman - American Gods, The Graveyard Book, Coraline, Sandman
Jane Austen - Pride and Prejudice
Friedrich Nietzsche - (Also sprach) Zarathustra
Greg Egan - Permutation City
George Martin - A Game of Thrones, A Storm of Swords
Peter Watts - Blindsight, Echopraxia
EYudkowsky - Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality (HPMOR), The Sword of Good, Three Worlds Collide, The Finale of the Ultimate Meta Mega Crossover
Frank Schätzing - Der Schwarm
Orson Scott Card - Ender's Game
Tolkien - The Hobbit, The Return of the King
Stanislaw Lem - The Futurological Congress
Charles Stross - Accelerando, Halting State
Goethe - Faust
Cory Doctorow - Little Brother
Douglas Adams - Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy
Lewis Carroll - Alice in Wonderland
Alastair Reynolds - Revelation Space
Robert Anton Wilson - Schrödinger's Cat Trilogy
Daniel Suarez - Daemon, Freedom
Frederick Forsyth - The Negotiator, The Devil's Alternative
J.K. Rowling - Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban, Harry Potter and the Halfblood Prince
Frank Herbert - Dune
Ted Chiang - Stories of Your Life and Others
Kafka - Die Verwandlung
Arthur C. Clarke - 2001: A Space Odyssey
Patrick Süßkind - Das Parfum
Isaac Asimov - Nightfall, I, Robot, Foundation
Mark Twain - The Adventures of Tom Sawyer
Jules Verne - Twenty Thousand Leagues Under the Sea
Astrid Lindgren - Kalle Blomquist (i.e., Bill Bergson)
Bill Watterson - Calvin and Hobbes
Ray Bradbury - Fahrenheit 451
Walter Moers - Die Stadt der Träumenden Bücher
unknown - Beowulf
Sun Tzu - The Art of War
Philip Pullman - His Dark Materials
Bill Bryson - A Short History of Nearly Everything
Timur Vermes - Er ist wieder da
Ross Anderson - Security Engineering
plomlompom - Post-Privacy
Jostein Gaarder - Sophie's World
Douglas Hofstadter - Gödel, Escher, Bach
Robert Cialdini - Influence
AlexandraErin - Tales of MU
Patrick Rothfuss - The Name of the Wind
Carl Sagan - Contact
Dan Simmons - Hyperion
Do you notice a pattern here? Primer, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Little Miss Sunshine, Matrix, District 9, Die totale Therapie, Fight Club, Blade Runner, Odyssey 2001, Coraline, Erbsen auf Halb Sechs, How to Train Your Dragon, Usual Suspects, The Borne Identity, Pulp Fiction, Children of Men, Harold and Maude, 12 Angry Men, Memento, Waking Life, Spirited Away, Amélie, Life of Brian, The Big Lebowski, Donnie Darko, Lola Rennt, Iron Sky, The Abyss, Léon: The Professional, A Scanner Darkly, Ex Machina
With varying degrees of faithfulness: Game of Thrones, Futurama, Dr. House, Pioneer One, Monty Python's flying Circus and Southpark. Also, Daria, Sense8 and Mr Robot
In no particular order, Bach, Käpt'n Peng, Burzum, SoaD, Type O Negative, Rob Zombie, WIZO, Phonoelit, Alle Farben, KoRn, Rammstein, paniq, STS... in general, just show me something that you probably won't encounter on your average radio station but which has more than 100.000 likes on youtube and I'll probably find something to like about it as well. Once in a while I can have hours of fun dancing to drum&bass while at other times I like to headbang to a variety of metal styles. I am also of the opinion that dubstep doesn't necessarily suck, regardless of what southpark tries to tell people.
My current personal bubble: xkcd, smbc, reddit, lesswrong, soup, reddit, twitter, TED, fetlife, fefe, wikipedia, faz, zeit, spon, threema, irc, xmpp, ssh, email.
I love Sushi and Indian food. Chinese occasionally, Italian only sometimes, Norwegian dishes (or Scandinavian in general) can be awesome as well. I like to cook stews, mostly based on cabbage or lentils. And the existence of butter and (curd) cheese will probably forever prevent me from living a vegan lifestyle. (I don't have a total lack of egoism.) Finally, I have an above-average affection for uncooked vegetables.
Are the ideas of transhumanists brilliant or bogus? Is there a philosophical school of thought that would ring more true to me than utilitarian humanism?
What would be the safest place on earth in the event of a global thermonuclear conflict?
How would I go about getting to the Amundsen-Scott research station on short notice?
What if Nirvana (in the nihilistic interpretation) actually makes sense as a goal state to a perfect consciousness? Would this impact attempts of creating a genuinely useful GAI?
What if (as somewhat of a corollary), the explanation of the Fermi paradox is that the philosophical "state of the art" of any (collection of) intelligent being(s) will inevitably reach a (global?) optimum of existential nihilism (or alternatively, "terminal hedonism") that eradicates any expansive momentum (or just the will to procreate), dooming the universe to remain a barren place with some rare and short-lived pockets of independently evolved life that never reaches beyond their home planet(s)?
Will mentioning Roko's basilisk openly on the Internet doom me to eternal torture by a future unfriendly artificial super intelligence and have I doomed you as well when you clicked the link?
How can taxonomists call my species "homo sapiens sapiens" with a straight face?
How do I convince you that, despite all this, I am actually a pretty cheerful and non-gloomy person?
If you'd join me in randomly interrogating people with headphones about what kind of music they are listening to on the subway.
If you don't have a profile picture.
If you would be up for walking around, wearing our left shoes on the right and our right shoes on the left foot and congratulating everyone who notices.
If you avoid treading on the cracks in the sidewalk.
If you have an absolute favorite book that you think every sentient being should have read but you can't find it on my list above.
If you'd like to break into public swimming pools, botanic gardens or locked parks at night and stay there till sunrise.
If you are operating by Crocker's Rules.
If improvising alcoholic cocktails, while discussing aspects of philosophy and getting steadily less sober doesn't sound scary to you.
If "living it" is not your only answer when I ask you "what are you doing with your life?"
If lying around together, each reading their current favourite book and quoting meaningful passages to each other, while outside the rain rages against the window panes sounds as romantic to you as it does to me.
If you can come up with more ideas like this.