About me: I'm a professional and personally successful gay man who has a great job that provides meaning in my life, and feeds my passion for excellence in public higher education. I have loving friends and a loving family. I live/work in SF/east bay but also have a home in Palm Springs and travel their most every-other weekend. I tend to recharge my batteries naked hiking in the desert, or hanging out by the pool. I have a strong connection to Spirit through my connections with nature, though I am not religious. I am ultimately looking for long-term partnership with another man who like me seeks self learning, companionship, intimacy, freedom and fun through a loving and caring relationship. Up to this point, I've not been focused on a partnership, but my goals and desires in life are changing and I'm open and wanting to have deeper and more-meaningful connection with another man. I'm emotionally monogamous, but not necessarily sexually monogamous, though I am open to discussion about what limits and expectations we each might have of the other as we moved toward a relationship. This is something that would need to be communicated and built over time..... It all must start with a first date! I'm a self-confessed horn-dog and love rutting around SOMA and Silver Lake, but equally comfortable in my or your mom and dad's living room.
I am a professional with blue-collar roots. I love men who work with their hands and build things and/or who are artists, designers, creators. Though not exclusively, I am often initially attracted to African American, Middle Eastern, Brazilian, southern European, Pacific Island men and/or scruffy masculine white guys. Whoever they are, they must be smart, preferably educated, (though I've known a lot of people who did not go on to college but were very smart... and very hot!), having rhythm and loving to dance (especially country-western), self-made entrepreneurial type, practical blue collar sensibility, and able to challenge me in thought and heart-motivated deed are all attractive qualities. Basically, a man who has connection to his heart and has passions and interests in life that provide life-meaning for him, is someone I'm likely attracted too.
I love being held and holding another man, spooning, holding hands as we walk down the street, and deep kissing, as much as nipply-play, massage, rimming / oral, mutual penetration and/or hot and raw full-on sex play. I am no prude and when it comes to sex, I've probably already tried it a few times and continue to enjoy the things I want to.... Sex is needed every few days to keep me happy and interested. I prefer to bottom for a dominant but nurturing top man, but am far from passive in bed, and can turn the tables on a whim, and dominate and top my top man for as long as he wants me too.
I am tired of NSA hook-ups, sex with men who are in relationships with other men where I'm the third fourth or higher number on the interest list, or the casual encounters with out-of-town visitors. It's time to focus on developing deeper meaning and intimacy with another man in my life. It's likely there's nothing you could tell me about yourself that would shock me unless you're a rage-a-holic, a child-molester or have a history of controlling or abusing others. I have traveled to 6 continents, lived in many different places and cultures, and have a unique perspective on life and a live-and-let-live attitude.
I also enjoy the occasional sci-fi epic.
I have two historical novels circulating in my head that I intend to put to paper and self-publish before I die! Ask me about them over dinner!!
Love listening to and playing new-age piano music, African drumming, classical, and jazz. Some greats like Duke Ellington, John Coltrane, Dizzy Gillespe, Louis Armstrong, Ella Fitzgerald, to name a few.
Child of the 60's, love 'the Who', 'the Stones', Led Zeppelin, Elton John, and the Beatles, and play a lot of their music on the piano. Also enjoy 80's / 90's rock, and 'classic country' / country cross-over. Really enjoy CW dancing and do it regularly both in SF and PS. Nothing like a man in cowboy drag to drive me wild!! Lady GaGa rocks, both for her music and her politics!!
Love sushi and most Japanese foods. Generally like Asian foods from many different countries. Not a picky eater, but hate Lima beans and beets.
The arts in all their forms - both witnessing it and making it;
Intimate connected playful great sex with another man, or even myself!;
Loving connections with my friends and my family;
Passion and meaning in my work;
Alone time outdoors in nature (or sharing it with someone!);
Humor, spontaneous joy, life's surprises and unexpected wonders;
Great Japanese food, especially sushi! (And seafood in general, especially shell-fish)
Pushing limits (Mostly my own, but also those arbitrarily imposed upon me by others, and especially limiting questions....ONLY SIX.... WTF?).
I also think about human relationships. How they function, and don't function. What makes them work. How to communicate with effectiveness and heartfelt intent.
I'm always amazed when I see two people in love, and am generally in awe and amazed by love in all its forms.