What poly means to me... I feel as if I was born poly, much like any other culturally defined orientation. What that means in a practical sense is I do not have the capacity to be monogamous. I do not feel limited to loving one person and sharing an intimate relationship with only one person. I do not believe that my lovers should be limited either. Goose/Gander, right? I find that I am rarely jealous though I do feel envy from time to time (Hey! I wanted to do that thing with that lover at that time!). I'm working on it but I am an American male and I grew up in this culture and it is easy to fall back into those cultural patterns.
Now something not related to Poly.. I volunteer for a couple of Burning Man related project. Youtopia (The San Diego Regional event) and Lamplighters... Who are hard to describe other than in person. The explanation requires a bit of pantomime and interpretive dance. (bonus points if you are chuckling right now). I find that I have the most fun when I am part of the process.
I really enjoy live theater and am a volunteer usher for The Old Globe and several other local theaters. This way I get to see many more shows that I would normally. Making my Grandma Hartmann proud..
Physically I am 6 feet tall and stocky. I shave my head (well the last half anyway) mostly because I have a fabulous skull. I have well kept facial hair and no I will never shave it. I was attacked by a St. Bernard as a child and have scars on my chin. Since I'm vain I grew a beard as soon as I was able. I wear glasses and have a weakness for wild shirts. I could very easily be described as a bear..
What I'm looking for in you.. First and foremost, is intelligence. I know this makes me a freaky, atypical male but your brain is the sexiest part of you. What this means is the shape/size of your breasts, thighs, butt, upper arms, what you shave or don't shave, etc. are non-issues with me. I also want you to be mature emotionally. I have had my fill of drama, truly I have.
Being the only guy in the room laughing. Or conversely, the only guy not laughing.
Rubbing cat bellies.
My deep voice
My shaven head.Especially kids for some reason..
Movies...My tastes are really varied here. Science Fiction again, action/adventure and drama too along with historical movies.
Music...Generally if I can hear it I can find something I like about it. I'm a Burner so electronica/techno is almost required, also some industrial, rock, classical, folk, Klezmer and the list goes on. Feel free to make suggestions!
Food...Mmmmm food...I like spicy food and adventurous food. My current favorites are North African/Moroccan and south Asian..
Something to read
Happy, passionate lovers
You will score big points if you recognize where that comes from..
If you are a Burner.
If you are emotionally mature (your physical age is a non-issue).
If you are comfortable with yourself.
If you would like a loyal friend and possible lover (Just so you know, I am Master class).