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My self-summary
Preternaturally handsome, super-successful movie star philanthropist with a villa on Lake Como. Wait, that's George Clooney. I confuse us sometimes. Like George, I truly like and respect women because, at least in part, I was raised by them. Also like George, I'm looking for a special woman to spend my life with. And if he can find one, how hard can it be, right?

Okay, more seriously, me: I'm a successful TV writer with most of my hair and all of my sense of humor. I'm a hopeless romantic (or make that a "hopeful" romantic), endlessly inventive, adventurous and ambitious, young at heart and in body, and I possess other good qualities as well, some of which come naturally, others that I have to work at. Also, a healthy degree of humility despite this hard sell. Hence my OKCupid handle "Bodhisattva" doesn't mean I have the chutzpah to consider myself a truly "enlightened" being. What bits of life-wisdom I've managed to accumulate have been hard won, and are still being won; it's an ongoing process. "Bodhisattava," or "Bodhi" for short, was actually the nickname of Patrick Swayze's surfer-bankrobber character in "Point Break," one of my favorite surfing-bankrobbing movies. As another character says of Bodhi, "he'll take you to the edge. Past it." Me, I'll take you to dinner. Or surfing or a movie or concert. But maybe you could take me to the edge or past it. I'm always up for something new.
What I’m doing with my life
I've been working as a writer in television for a bunch of years, mostly in sci-fi but more recently I took a turn into historical drama. I've been enjoying the hell out of it, and when I've found the extra energy and time, I've also tried to play a bit more music on the side. Had a band back when I was in New York, and more recently a cover band with some fellow writers out here. We've had some fun gigs and hope to have a few more.
I’m really good at
Making people laugh and occasionally making an ass out of myself.
The first things people usually notice about me
Eyes, sense of humor, full-body Yakuza tattoo (jk).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Too many to count or even remember, so I'll mention a few recent favorites from recent months, or years:
Books: "The Golem and the Jinni," in which two supernatural beings mix it up with humans in New York's teeming Lower East Side at the turn of the last century. "A Delicate Truth," by John LeCarre, who updates the spy novel for the 21st century. I'm also sucker for well-written novels and memoirs involving surfing, a weekend passion. The latest was "Barbarian Days," by New Yorker writer William Finnegan. More? Okay. Still dip into sci-fi on occasion. "Hyperion," by Dan Simmons, was a brilliant sci-fi update of the Canterbury Tales. Keith Richards' "A Life." Walter Isaacson's biography of Steve Jobs. Patti Smith's memoir, "Just Kids," about coming of age as artist and her friendship with Robert Mapplethorpe. I'm not usually a big nonfiction guy, but these books, all about artists (and yes, I'd include Steve Jobs in that category) who followed their hearts and obsessions, resonated powerfully for me. I'm always reading new books -- or, more accurately, listening to them on my iPhone as I drive or work out. There's something great about being read to that takes me back to being a kid... or even further, to the way stories were probably told around campfires.

Movies: I'm cinematic omnivore, my tastes running the gamut from genre to art house. And though yes, we can now indulge our movie and TV fix or on our iPads, for me nothing beats a much bigger communal screen -- like the Cinerama Dome, where I was recently bombarded my eyeballs with the 3D Star Wars, or Quentin's "Hateful 8" in 70 mm.
I'm also pretty much a sucker for everything Wes Anderson has done, including his last, "The Grand Budapest Hotel." I dig his unique voice and style, but mostly the warmth and affection with which he invests his characters...

And in this new "Golden Age" of TV I similarly tend to gravitate toward shows where character trumps spectacle (which fortunately includes Game of Thrones). The Breaking Bad spinoff, Better Call Saul, and Transparent are two recent faves in that regard. Add to that "Mr. Robot," "Mozart in the Jungle," and Asiz Ansari's super funny and heartfelt "Master of None."

Music: When I'm not listening to books, my iPhone is on permanent shuffle, or Spotify is blowing up the bluetooth connection in my car. The usual suspects who keep showing up lately: Lucinda Williams, John Hiatt, The Avett Brothers, Trouble Dolls, Trainwreck (OK, the last two are my last two bands but I LIKE them), Springsteen, X, Ramones, Cheap Trick, New Pornographers, Edith Frost, Arcade Fire, Aimee Mann, T-Model Ford, Johnny Cash, The Weakerthans, David Byrne, Ennio Morricone, Lana Del Ray, Dave and Phil Alvin (of Blasters fame, recently teaming up for an album of rootsy originals).

And of course Bowie's last album is a heartbreaker. The refrain from the title song, "at the center of it all" is just one line that sums up his life.

Food: You name it, I like it. Mostly I like going out to dinner with someone special and asking the waiter to help us narrow down the choices. Love eating, hate menus. Some of my favorite restaurants are the ones where the entire menu fits on a blackboard on the wall. Regarding which, Hollywood carnivores should check out "Salt's Cure," a little place on Santa Monica Blvd. See? You even get restaurant tips with my profile!
Six things I could never do without
Damn, let's see... laptop, surfboard, guitar... and I'm already running out of "things" I couldn't do without. So maybe I'll add three more things that aren't really things but are probably more essential: good friends, some creative labor of love, and, yeah, some time to exhale.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Work, and women. Sometimes in that order, but much more often these days in the opposite order. I've always been ambitious and have had my share of success in my chosen field, but what that's brought home to me lately is that work, a career, etc., can never be more than half the story, and sometimes less. I've been working at bringing my life into balance, and that means finding the right person to share it with.
On a typical Friday night I am
Twisting my own arm to make sure I get out and do something fun or interesting or both. The end of a long work-week can make you want to veg in front of the TV, but if you do it feels like you've already blown off half your weekend. So, dinner with a friend or friends, a movie, play, concert or a party. Or even better, a date with you.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Not here, but later just try and shut me up.
You should message me if
You're smart and curious. Creativity is important to you and finds some expression in your life - and it doesn't have to be on a page or a canvas, just in some personal way that makes you feel more alive and connected. The child in you is still alive but you're an adult, with all the cool complexity that comes with...

And, um, because you might want to date me, right? I mean what the hell else are we doing here?
The two of us