34 Palo Alto, United States
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My self-summary
I'm one of those folks who cares deeply about what they do, someone who wants be change in the world. For the last few years I've done this working as a chaplain. Now I'm pursuing another dream by getting a doctorate in clinical psych, bridging the worlds of psyche and spirit a little more. I moved out to California for the program, and I’m still learning my way around. If you’ve got any suggestions for adventures I should have please send 'em my way.

Personality-wise I’m down to earth, warm and caring. I do my best to live with simple integrity while retaining a healthy dose of mirth and humor. That includes a big deep laugh I’m proud of, even if it causes me some embarrassment from time to time.

I believe spirituality is integral to human wholeness. Spending time outdoors (getting muddy & dirty as hell every once in a while), listening to live music, dancing, and all of that kinda good stuff are also integral to my wholeness. And sometimes expressions of my spirituality.

Random tidbits about me: my passions for coffee and microbrew beer border on snobbery. Once upon a time I got a black belt in taekwondo. Now I’m learning aikido. In college I studied philosophy and balanced the headiness of that pursuit by learning to blacksmith …I figure everyone needs a post-apocalyptic skill to two. I meditate daily, but haven’t quite perfected the Jedi mind trick.
What I’m doing with my life
I’m a kilt wearing do-gooder. I do my best to let my heart lead me. I love my work as a chaplain & a counselor, and I also make plenty of room for relaxing, community, and play.

I do my best to workout (gym, martial arts, yoga) 2 or 3 times a week, and these days I actually seem to get there more often than not. Sometimes it feels a little vacuous, but the commitment to the discipline & being in my body is a great thing ...I also love the endorphin rush at the end.

My friends are really important to me, typical evenings together could include karaoke or pool at a dive bar or playing board games with wine and great conversation. In any given evening we can move from highbrow "deep" conversations to really lowbrow/raunchy humor and back without skipping a beat.
I’m really good at
1. I make some damn fine brownies. From scratch mind you, just like Grandma made 'em.

2. Looking good in a kilt. Granted any man with cojones and confidence to rock a kilt is generally considered to be hot. But some men do it better than others (you gotta have good legs), and I do. And anyway, isn't bragging what this little text box is all about?

Also: Hugging, cuddling, laughing and being teased. Oh yeah, and blushing. Much as a hate to admit it, and much to my friends pleasure, I blush pretty easily.

3. Mirth.
The first things people usually notice about me
My big booming laugh, the twinkle in my eye. One of my badass tattoos. Or, when my head's shaved, the shine coming off my noggin.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'm an NPR nerd, and that shapes a lot of my tastes for all of these things. Recently I've been really getting down on the indie folk/bluegrass: Iron & Wine, Fleet Foxes, Bon Iver, the Avett Brothers, O'Death, etc. Classic Rock is also a staple of my sonic diet - Led Zeppelin, Pink Floyd, Fleetwood Mac, the Beatles, etc.

I also love podcasts: This American Life, Radiolab, and on Being are three that I listen to almost every week.

As for books: I read a lot. As a doctorate student books on psychology, religion, spirituality, community, sexuality, and counseling are always close at hand. When I'm reading for myself I like to mix it up: The Healing Wisdom of Africa, Blink, A Thousand Splendid Suns, Speaking of Silence, Here: Bullet, Songs of Ice and Fire, The Dresden Files, The Wheel of Time. I also love creative non-fiction of all stripes from the New Yorker to David Sedaris.

Food: I'm game to try most things at least once. Especially if it's Indian or Nepali. I'm digging living in the Bay and trying all sorts of new things. In my own cooking (which I'm pretty good at) I tend toward the spicier side of things.
The six things I could never do without
Friends and family (awww), but really too. I can't imagine not having them in my life. Asking questions and searching for meaning (the process more than the answers), along with connection with the living, growing planet - which also means going out and getting gloriously dirty every once in a while. What else? The dharma and mischief, which are intimately connected in many ways.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Life's inner-hidden-deeper-secret-meanings: the connections between language and perception, where to go out dancing & what bands to see, how we distill complex ideas into simple symbols, sex, what to write my next paper about, the nature of mind know, the usual stuff.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm just beginning to learn how to play the banjo. I figure it's a great study-break, and then there's always the off chance that I'll make it big as a part of the next wave of rock'n'roll/punk jug bands.
You should message me if
January_roses has stolen my heart, but I'm still new to the area and am down to make more friends.