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My self-summary
I love openness, community, mass participation, and consensus building. I dearly miss living in large houses packed with people, and my partner and I hope to have more roommates some day. Ideally this will occur up in the redwoods around La Honda, Merry-Pranksters-style.

I work hard to be empathic, and I maintain relationships with people that disagree with me. I'm still trying to understand why a childhood friend voluntarily served two tours in Iraq. (Update: said friend is now an organic farmer on a formerly-Amish farm. War changes people.)

I rarely feel as free elsewhere as I do on a bicycle. I enjoy motorcycles as well, and the antagonism between those two communities makes me sad.

I believe in responsibility. I looked after my amazing dog for 15 wonderful years, and I'm now finding how little that experience prepared me for being a dad. At the same time, I sure hope I never entirely grow up. I want to hang on to my beginner's mind. I don't want to think I have all the answers. Life is messy and fucked up and imprecise, and I love it that way.

If you find me at a costume party, odds are that my costume will involve at least a little gender fluidity.

I'm gradually becoming more and more excited about vipassana meditation.
What I’m doing with my life
Working hard to support my people. Brainstorming how to expand that set to include more people less like myself. Trying to leave the world at least a little better than I found it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
And the first one tore a picture / Of a dead and hanging man / Who was kissing foreign fishes / That flew right out from this hands / And when I put my arms around him / I felt the blushing blood run through my cheeks / And an eeriness surrounded when his tongue began to speak / And he said...Oh boy you are so pretty / Enough to wrap tight in rice-paper string... / And when I finally kissed him the whole world began to ring

“Humanity has advanced, when it has advanced, not because it has been sober, responsible, and cautious, but because it has been playful, rebellious, and immature.”
I spend a lot of time thinking about
When I'll be able to run again. Why it took me so long to pick up a musical instrument for the first time.

The pale blue dot. The singularity. The Fermi paradox.

What it means to feel entirely queer and non-binary while--out of long habit--unintentionally presenting as pretty straight and male, and the unfair privilege that affords me.

Where to find a dress that fits my long collar bones and narrow hips.

Camping. Orr hot springs.
You should message me if
You help people. You do something you're passionate about. If you've figured out how to do both of these in equal measure at the same time, I'm jealous.

You're queer. You're okay with the fact that I already have a primary partner. (We mostly date separately.) You already have a primary partner or other support network of your own.

You're opinionated, but open minded.
The two of us