40 San Francisco, United States
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My self-summary
I'm a progressive. I'm a vegetarian. I believe in single-provider health care, the abolishment of the death penalty, and consensus building. I can't stand cars and love bicycles. (Lately I'm mildly obsessed with motorcycles as well.) I compost. I believe that we all have a civic duty to each other and our communities. I volunteer time for and spend money on causes I believe in. I think Libertarians are irresponsible tools.

I work hard to be empathic, and I maintain relationships with people that disagree with me. I'm still trying to understand why a childhood friend voluntarily served two tours in Iraq. (Update: said friend is now an organic farmer on a formerly-Amish farm. War changes people.)

I'm a romantic, but in the Gatsby sort of sense rather than the Danielle Steel one. I think "Wonder Boys" is one of the greatest films ever, but I'm worried that it doesn't pass the Bechdel test.

I'm not religious about anything. I like the gnostic idea that the serpent was the good force. I think gender stereotypes are appropriate only if they're your kink.

I'm an existentialist. This does not mean that I see the world as some sort of horrible, meaningless mechanical progression of physics. Instead, I see it as an amazing, meaningless, and beautiful canvas on which we layer even more beautiful and amazing meaning.

I believe in responsibility. I looked after my amazing dog for 15 wonderful years, and I'm now finding how little that experience prepared me for being a dad. At the same time, I sure hope I never entirely grow up. Peter Pan all the way. I want to hang on to my beginner's mind. I don't want to think I have all the answers. Life is messy and fucked up and imprecise and I love it that way.

I am playful, rebellious, and immature.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
And the first one tore a picture / Of a dead and hanging man / Who was kissing foreign fishes / That flew right out from this hands / And when I put my arms around him / I felt the blushing blood run through my cheeks / And an eeriness surrounded when his tongue began to speak / And he said...Oh boy you are so pretty / Enough to wrap tight in rice-paper string... / And when I finally kissed him the whole world began to ring
I spend a lot of time thinking about
When I'll be able to run again. Why it took me so long to pick up a musical instrument for the first time. What it means to feel entirely queer while presenting as pretty straight, and the unfair privilege that affords me.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I want to have Kimya Dawson's baby.
You should message me if
You help people. You do something you're passionate about. If you've figured out how to do both of these in equal measure at the same time, I'm jealous.

You're queer. You're okay with the fact that I already have a primary partner. (We mostly date separately, but sometimes together.) You already have a primary partner or other support network of your own.

You're opinionated, but open minded.