37Pāhoa, United States
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My self-summary
If I were to change my username, I would make it "Brian_the_Lion." I have a king-of-the-jungle side, both RAWRing and reclining versions. I also have a certain puppydog nature.

Although sharing birthday wishes has the stigma of ruining it, I feel that sharing this wish can help it to manifest: on a birthday several years ago, I wished to find "home." I've been living in Hawaii for over a year now and MAY have found it.
What I’m doing with my life
Living simply in community. Teaching and doing Non-Violent Communication, shadow work, raw food lifestyle, meditation, qigong (pron. chi kung; a Chinese movement form similar to T'ai Ch'i / taiji). Leading/facilitating groups. Permaculture, especially taking care of our cows (was milking every day for a year but the cow's not in milk at the moment). Investing, programming/running automated financial trading systems.

I don't really make more than $1,000,000/year. YET. Rather than leaving it blank, I felt like subverting that aspect of the profile.
I’m really good at
opening jars, reaching things in high places, taking myself seriously and laughing about it later, laughing in general, sleeping, relaxing, staying in the flow and noticing when I'm not in it, listening, cuddling, delivering brilliant rants (if you're so lucky as to stimulate one).
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably my height and rugged good looks. Usually casual (comfortable? simple? neglectful?) about my clothing. Resonant-voiced and charismatic if I get a bit fired up. Some might say I smile too much, but I guess I don't believe in such a thing as smiling too much. :-)

But I recognize these as only my own hallucinations, so telling me, (if/when we meet) what you first notice about me would make a potential topic of conversation, and I could do the same for you. This topic would also serve as a good test of honesty.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Ishmael by Daniel Quinn and all of his other books. The Way of Chuang Tzu (Zhuangzi) translated by Thomas Merton.
We Want to Live by Aajonus Vonderplanitz (about the Primal Diet, see below). In the last year I read a lot of books about Buddhism and I also do a lot of reading on the internet (blogs, etc.). Not a big reader of novels but I really enjoy them when I do read one.

Pan's Labyrinth! (except for the gratuitous violence, but it plays a part in the story). The Matrix (all). Fight Club. Donnie Darko etc., The Emerald Forest, etc. Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind etc. Black Snake Moan. "All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us." --Gandalf, in The Fellowship of the Ring

It might be a cliche, but I don't own a TV and - living off-grid in Hawaii where the high-speed internet generally has bandwidth limitations - I only watch limited videos on the internet (generally informative ones).

Most of all, I like playing music. I've been playing songs by Iron & Wine and Ray Lamontagne lately. I like spiritual music (such as Hindu/Sanskrit chants, which I've led in groups) inspiring a relaxing of the ego and an opening of the heart rather than further dramatizing things, as much popular music seems to do. However, I'm still a sucker for human emotion. Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeros. The Cure. And tons of other stuff. I'll probably find value in the music that you like.

In restaurants, I'll order one of the following things (when available): SUSHI! (actually, sashimi), beef carpaccio, steak tartare, ceviche, oysters on the half shell, raw vegan fare, or, if nothing else, a salad. You see, I eat - shall we say - unusually: all raw - a hybrid of the Primal Diet and Instinctive Eating, including raw milk, raw eggs, honey, fruit (+ smoothies made of those 4 ingredients), raw meat (all kinds, I LOVE clams), cheese, butter, cream, a few veggies, fresh veggie juice. A bit of nuts/seeds. All and only raw, though I do compromise on that occasionally. All organic / wild whenever possible. Been eating this way for 6 years now and I love its effect on my health. Yum. RAWR

I'll randomly throw in a short poem that I like:
"Loaves and Fishes" by David Whyte

This is not the age of information.
This is not
the age of information.

Forget the news,
and the radio,
and the blurred screen.

This is the time of loaves
and fishes.

People are hungry,
and one good word is bread
for a thousand.
Six things I could never do without
I aspire to the transcendence of all illusory physical and non-physical limitations. But for now:
long hot baths
good food (see above) - this also includes liquids. especially raw milk
warmth, in all meanings of the term, and smiling
shelter from the storm
human touch and company
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How many songs, novels, and treatises I've written in dreams, and whether they'd make any sense in waking consciousness. Financial markets and my trades/investments. The decline of civilization. "What would indigenous people do?" Self-observation and why I'm not doing it in this moment. Which workshops/learning opportunities I want to pursue in the next year; my next adventures.
What can I do that has true meaning and effectiveness? Where does my deepest passion lie? How can I make best use of my time on earth?
On a typical Friday night I am
If in hermit mode: taking a long bath, reading, meditating, doing work on my computer

If not in hermit mode: Ecstatic Dance and other group gatherings, singing/playing music with friends, maybe around a fire and/or over food, conversing with others I live with in my community, other adventures!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
If you're willing to be influenced by an (unexpectedly-to-me) engaging Christian pastor, I recommend checking out these videos (they get better as they go), because they heavily influenced my feelings about relationships.

I'll really go out on a "limb": I submit that if everyone knew what a year or two of eating raw meat would do for them in a certain room of the house (or perhaps many rooms), EVERYONE would eat raw meat. (I'm told this doesn't just apply to guys.)

Also, ladies, your makeup is probably toxifying your body at the same time that it's making you look beautiful in the short-run. Even though I'm as susceptible to it as the next guy, I'll think better of you if you don't wear much or any of it. The same goes for other seemingly-obligatory aesthetic/hygienic practices; ie, I don't care if you don't shave your legs (but great if you do). I appreciate the same level of tolerance from you. I smell really awesome. :-)
You should message me if
Ideally, you consider yourself relatively tall. You care about your health and make choices accordingly. You like the pigmentation of your skin and don't feel the need to permanently alter its color, no matter how artistically (ie. tattoos - also toxic).

You know how to spell - or at the very least, you take the trouble to try to correct misspellings. Most of the tyme.

You have no hesitance in referring to yourself as a "woman."

The term "spiritual relationship" means something to you. Or you're curious what I mean by it.

You think you can make me laugh. But watch out, I might attempt the same with you. ;-)

In your message to me: you comment on or (especially) ask me a unique question about what you see in my profile, relating it authentically to yourself. Preferably more than one sentence. I'll appreciate it if you give me something to work with in my reply back (that's what I try to do).
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