I am a passionate and introspective guy. I dive into the things that interest me at the moment, and I like to study things and gain expertise. I think I've spent too much of my life indulging the interests of others, though. I want to meet someone who really enjoys the same things I do.
What do I enjoy? I do a lot of triathlons, but you don't have to. I do it to stay healthy, not to beat rivals---my only rivals are my own previous best performances. I like to swim because it is social, to ride bikes because it feels great to cover such beautiful territory outdoors, and to run because it's meditative. Any amount of overlap there would be great.
I love music, and I really, really like it when I am emotionally immersed in a song with another person together. There is some real, powerful bond that happens then, and I really miss having that in my life. I like rock...classic, but I am open and eager to latch on to new stuff.
I like going to movies to escape, so I like dramas that allow to imagine being in another place and feeling deep emotion, or comedies to relieve the stress of life. I don't like horror or non-stop action movies. Movies are couples activity for me; I like having that someone that I see everything with.
And who am I? I'm agnostic, but that doesn't mean non-spiritual. I think a lot about ethics, and I believe in karma. I just don't believe in the existence of supernatural beings in human form. But I have know a lot of serious Christians that I respect and have learned much from.
I'm liberal. Really liberal. It's mostly out of feeling lucky for my fortunes and a sense of responsibility to all those around me that I know who were less lucky. I try to behave as I would wish I would behave were the shoe on the other foot. I know I need a conscience in these matters, and I want a partner that is dedicated to these same ideals, one that can help me stay strong and hold to what I know I believe in, even when the going gets tough.
I am looking for a relationship that has strong Philos, Agape and Eros components. I want someone who sees the world as I do to help see it with me. Of course, we all want physical chemistry, but I want the chemistry to be strong. I want a partner that is the most gorgeous woman in the room to me, but there is so much more than the physical that is needed for it. As an agnostic, it is hard for me to see how I would have a satisfying relationship with a very religious person. My spiritual connection needs to be with another human being, not a church or unseen force of faith. I've known and admired some very introspective religious people, so I don't see it as impossible, just less likely.
I've been thrown into a situation of having to help a sister-in-law plan an early retirement, and so I am suddenly very interested in retirement issues, and am researching these.
But I want to really "live" the rest of my life. I know I enjoy travelling, but I hate to travel alone. I want to see Machu Piccu and bicycle New Zealand and see a solar eclipse, but not alone with no one to savor the memories later. I want to laugh and share joy and build shared memories of life well lived.
After spending so much of my life acquiring, I've turned now to divesting. I want to live a simple life surrounded only by the things that I really need, and not weighed down by excess possessions. It sounds simple, but it is an extraordinary effort, really.
Learning probably captures it. I've taught myself a lot of skills. I can learn, and appreciate, and develop. Expertise and a feeling of mastery usually causes my interest to wane though, and I tend to want a new challenge.
I like learning languages. And mathematics.
(Hey, I thought that was funny!) I am understated, though. And I have a dry wit. I can be quiet, but I'm friendly, and I am enthusiastic about the things I love.
I also like to read history and well written editorials.
Movies: Religulous, Galaxy Quest, Mystery Men,Snow Falling On Cedars, What Dreams May Come, Star Wars, Juno, Braveheart, The Shawshank Redemption, Lord of the Rings, Pan's Labyrinth, Silver Linings Playbook. Watched "Rock of Ages" a couple times recently.
TV Shows: The Daily Show, the Rachel Maddow Show, The Amazing Race, The Good Wife, and Big Bang Theory, but I don't make a point to watch any of them.
Music: Classic Rock, The Beatles, The Who, Led Zeppelin, Natalie Imbruglia, Sinead O'Connor, Sara Hickman, Bette Midler, Jackson Browne, Greatful Dead, Queen, The Rolling Stones, 10000 Maniacs, Fleetwood Mac, Shawn Colvin, Meatloaf, Jimmy Buffet, Elvis Costello,
Kid Rock, Pink, Dala
My current jones is for Irish drinking songs after a buddy introduced me to the band "Gaelic Storm". It'll pass, I'm sure, but I'm a bit obsessed with them now :)
6. Racing. Or cheesecake. It's really a tie.
And retirement planning.
Ultimately--not on a first date :)