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My self-summary
I you watch me from a distance, I imagine I appear a sometimes confused, sometimes insightful self-declared geek, with some sore spots, a good measure of quirks, a fondness for elaborate puns, and a sprawling sense of curiosity. If you move a bit closer, you'll find someone puzzled by the world and its endless detail. Like the type of person who can get caught up staring at a table fan because I enjoy the regularity of its rotations.

The people I'm most attracted to are those who show their passion gladly. Particularly their aestethic, intellectual, or political passions (though I don't have a good grasp of politics myself). Sometimes when they're sharing an experience, it sounds as if they're talking about their crush: This gorgeous book they've read, this really hot piece of music, this cutest little bird who just ate from their hand. Doesn't have to be a rare bird or anything.

I'm beginning to suspect that monogamy is not what I look for, but apart from that I'm open for what comes along... my fantasy, though, is to meet someone I connect with, maybe in a way that will raise the pulse a little, start a buzz in the back of the head and have us both just a little restless.
What I’m doing with my life
Since the beginning of 2016 I've been enrolled in a government work program, where I try to figure out my talents and limitations; it's been clear for a while that I have a certain amount of both. My long term plan is to spend part of my time writing, part of my time working with projects that revolve around Asperger's syndrome, autism and mental health.
I’m really good at
Putting things into words, though I sometimes find myself speechless. Imagining how an item of food should taste. Controlling semi-conscious reflexes, like hiccups. Sneezing very loudly when I choose to, which I normally do because controlling that particular reflex is painful, and also it van be pleasurable to sneeze, but now I'm drifting away from the question, which is also a thing I can be really good at.
The first things people usually notice about me
My long hair and beard, I suppose, or my fascination with things, or maybe the way I put things into words, but most likely my overfondness for puns.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: SF, fantasy, non-fiction, and whatever catches my interest. Some favorite authors are Catherynne M. Valente, Bing & Bringsværd, China Miéville, Neal Stephenson, Ursula K. Le Guin.

Movies and TV-series: Blade Runner, Buffy, Babylon 5, Battlestar Galactica... apparently things that begin with a B. But add Gilmore Girls, American Beauty, West Wing and A Few Good Men to things that have made an impression, and Back to the Future, the 1987 Transformers movie, The Matrix, and Star Wars to things I've watched so many times my attention now drifts away if i try.

Food: Generally curious about food, and like the idea of foods I have never heard of before, or never really thought of as food before. Liking the idea doesn't always lead to action, though, I rarely take the initiative to seek it out. Of things I've actually tried, I like British foods, particularly those with boiled meat and thick gravy, Mexican foods (though I try go easy on the heat because it burns my guts as well), and most things with sausage in it. Occasionally I'll try to make the sausage myself.

Music: Winterreise (presently). The Rite of Spring and Pictures at an exhibition (always). Dvořák (generally). Besides that, both classical and modern music that has a little bite, takes some effort to digest. I'm generally interested in broadening my musical horizons, and maybe just a little scared of talking about music at all... maybe you're the one who'll challenge me on that fear?
The six things I could never do without
Some control over my sensory environment.
A certain amount of solitude.
At least a cup or two of coffee a day
Somewhere to take down notes.
An e-book reader and a selection of paper books, so I can vary.
The twirping, twittering, chattering and schreeching of city birds when I go to the park.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Personal and interpersonal ethics. Emotional and relational skills. How to shape and reshape my life as my goals and preferences develops. How to take my limitations seriously, and how to make my talents matter.

Oh, and also things like what I should have said in that argument three years ago, what new points to bring up in some ongoing discussion with a friend, and things that could happen in whatever book I'd like to write someday.
On a typical Friday night I am
If I'm at home I'll probably read, try to fall behind on my Twitter feed, work on my marathon cross-stitch project, play a game on my computer or tablet, listen to podcasts, or some combination of these. If I'm out, it'll most likely be at some cultural event like a book reading, lecture, or panel discussion – somewhere where I can sit down and listen. Or I may be having a coffee or beer on a one-on-one basis.

I'm looking to expand my typical-evening-repertoire though, and might do experiments like going to a concert, or having coffee with two or maybe three people at once.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'll never rise above mediocrity as an amateur cuckoo clock imitator. Sometimes whole days will go by where I don't remember to say "cuckoo" even once.
You should message me if
... you think it would be fun to explore one anothers' interests, going for walks around the city, pointing out beautiful or interesting things for one another, or getting caught up in challenging and exciting conversations.

... you want to suggest an addition to my typical-evening-repertoire.

... you have visited my profile and hope that I am going to message you, but decide not to wait while I gather up the courage.

... or if you find yourself in need of a not-too-reliable cuckoo-clock.