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My self-summary
I'm pleasant, funny, easy to get along with and well read (along with very modest!) and I'd like to find a primary but non-traditional relationship. I want to build trust and share the jokes and experiences that only develop over time. At the same time I consider myself monogamish and believe that any healthy relationship has a certain amount of openness attached. Honesty is something I prize considering that lying & sneakiness leaves everybody involved feeling bad and I want you to feel that you can tell me anything without being judged.

I enjoy drinks with friends at least weekly and I'm fortunate to have so many longtime friends and family still in the area. Politically I'm very liberal and would be a poor match for a conservative. I play on a softball team once a week and while I wouldn't consider myself a star athlete I am somewhat athletic. Love long walks around town and at the same time have zero interest in hiking.
What I’m doing with my life
I worked in the non-profit field for the past 11 years for an organization that often rewarded me spiritually and sometimes frustrated me to no end (many of you who have worked for non-profits can surely empathize).

I've been involved with real estate for the last several years and while it's quite the contrast I've enjoyed the switch.
I’m really good at
Instantly producing snarky one liners.
The first things people usually notice about me
My halo.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Richard Russo has recently taken over the title of my favorite author. Loved 'Straight Man', 'Empire Falls', 'Bridge of Sighs', 'Nobody's Fool' and 'The Risk Pool'.

Some of my other favorite authors would include Wally Lamb, Michael Chabon, Larry McMurtrey, Anne Rice, Murakami, Dumas, Twain, Fitzgerald, Nick Hornby, Dennis Lehane, Michael Connelly, John Irving, Leon Uris, Walter Mosley. 'I Know This Much Is True' by Wally Lamb is probably my favorite book ever, or at least the one that touched me the most. Loved 'The Master and Margarita'.

Movies would include The Sting, Say Anything, Fletch, Bull Durham, L.A. Confidential, A Fish Called Wanda, Casablanca, Heathers, Field of Dreams, Secretary, Stand By Me, About a Boy, Office Space and High Fidelity.

In 2015 really enjoyed Brooklyn, Grandma and The Martian.

TV would be Mad Men, Dexter, Breaking Bad, Justified, Lost, Parks and Recreation, The Walking Dead, The West Wing, Arrested Development, The League, Community, Treme and The Wire.
Six things I could never do without
Corrective lenses, affection, books, good friends, family & an internet connection. I know the last choice is lame and while I certainly could live without the internet I'd rather not.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How intolerant the current Republican party has become and reminding myself to show tolerance myself towards these people that I increasingly regard as alien life forms.
On a typical Friday night I am
I don't get all that jazzed about Friday night either way so I'm probably reading a book or watching a movie or grabbing drinks with friends or perhaps even a combination of those activities.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don't have a car, which is very rare in the Bay Area. I'm very kink and sex positive and I hope you are as well.

I've also had discussions with friends about sweeping, very stirring soundtracks on movies and TV (Lost comes to mind). I'm all in favor of media that provokes a strong reaction and have zero objection to being shamelessly manipulated by a skilled director.

I strongly dislike reality TV, just about hate it, but I really enjoy 'Comic Book Men' on AMC.

Occasionally, very occasionally, when I see a clever and insightful comment on okcupid I look for the "Like" button, just proving how much Facebook has imprinted itself on us (or at least me).
You should message me if
I seem like somebody you might like & stuff.

"The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars and in the middle you see blue center like pop and everybody goes "Awww!"
-Jack Kerouac
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