butidigressagain
31Hanover, United States
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My self-summary
What I’m doing with my life
I adopted a 2 year old Australian Cattle Dog/Golden Retriever mix a year and a half ago. Cuddling the pup, reading sci-fi, fantasy, or fiction brain candy, or maybe bingeing on Netflix or Hulu seems a pretty accurate summary of my after-work-wind-down.

I commute a half hour down to Westminster, MD for work. The job is very new, but I'm excited. The company is family owned, and the warm office culture is something that was decidedly lacking in my previous sales gigs.

Oh, and right now, I'm living at home with my parents. The lack of privacy and the dynamics of being an adult child living at home are strange, but I am thankful my parent's offered me back my bedroom after an emotionally and eventually physically abusive ex derailed my plans.
I’m really good at
Watching Netflix with my pooch.

Reading an entire series and not remembering characters' names.

Cooking. You will never starve while dating me. (I feed people when I like them.)

Game night.

Procrasticleaning.

Using anything as an excuse to hideout with the pup, and a book.

Oversharing.

Overthinking.

Taking the bull by the horns.

Not letting chronic depression kill me.

Making lists.

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Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I think "with good company" is what makes books, movies, shows, music, and food my favorite.

I'm non-religious, but Heinlein and Vonnegut are sort of my patron saints of rational thought. I like how quietly hopeful each of them makes me feel, despite their calling out society, in all its shitty glory.
Six things I could never do without
I've never liked this question, the literal answer is boring, and the "creative" answers tend to be pretty boring, too.

I'm amending this to the six things I could never do without in a relationship:

Mutual respect and care. (Is that two? Whatever.)

Direct, honest, frequent communication. (Passive aggressive men make me bonkers. I don't want to be bonkers. I want to feel like you trust and respect me enough to be honest about how and why you feel the way you feel.) I like hearing from the person I'm dating. If you go radio silent for a few days, unexpectedly, especially after we've met in person, I'm interpreting it as, "he's not that into me."

A lot of touch time. (Sexual and non-sexual.) Cuddles, bro. I'm a hand holder. Not so much into PDA like public makeout sessions, but I love your hand on the small of my back walking through a crowd, or sitting on the same side of the table so my leg touches yours. If you don't like casual, non-sexual touch, I'm not the right girl. Also, I am high drive. If I'm dating you, and we like each other enough to get naked, I want to get naked. Real life makes schedules tough, but absent of outside obligations, I aim for at least daily sex.

A partner who wants to actually be partners. I deeply appreciate it when you show up, and contribute--especially in the domesticity of daily life.

Alone, together time. Sometimes, it's a blast to meet up with friends, play tourist, try a new restaurant, go for a hike, whatever. Realistically, though, I want to actually enjoy the relationship time spent in the downtime between big plans and socializing. I need *a lot* of book/puppy/partner cuddle time that isn't actively entertaining my partner. Play your video game. Read next to me. Dick around on your phone on Reddit. I appreciate "doing our own thing in the same room" time.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to get out of the plans I just made.

What I think I want in a partner vs. how those same attributes could slowly drive me crazy.

Whether or not physical chemistry is as important to me now, as it was in choosing partners in my twenties.

How to avoid filling a role or being a hole, instead of being appreciated as myself in my future relationships.

What changes I can make in my daily life to be happier in a week, month, year...

How to avoid doing this.

Routine. (Slow death? Better
life?)
On a typical Friday night I am
on one end or the other of this charge cycle...

I'm not great at going back out once I've made it home, so weeknight social time is tough to talk me into.

Accurate.

I think most of my homebody tendencies come from not wanting to leave the pup, though. I'm definitely more social if the activity allows for him, too.
You should message me if
You'd like to try this.
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