butidigressagain
30 Herndon, United States
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My self-summary
Bookworm. Hedonist. Sass-mouth. Instigator.

Vehement atheist. Social introvert. Hustler.

E2 on the Purple/Red
What I’m doing with my life
I adopted a 2 year old Australian Cattle Dog, Golden Retriever, Chow mix in November of last year. Cuddling the pup, reading sci-fi, fantasy, or fiction brain candy, or maybe bingeing on Netflix or Hulu seems a pretty accurate summary of my after-work-wind-down.

I don't have a classic work week and my schedule is all over the place. The unpredictable end time at work, and the need to be "on" while I'm there has a habit of draining my social battery before I actually make it out of the house to socialize. I'm a flake. It's really hard to convince me that anything is going to be more fun than puppy cuddles and a new book after a long day.

Sales, man.

I'm still figuring out what I want to do when I grow up, but in the interim, I'm paying off my hefty shitty-ex-bad-relationship-debt by hustling cars.
I’m really good at
Watching netflix with my pooch.

Reading an entire series and not remembering the main character's name.

Cooking.

Game night.

Procrasticleaning.

Using anything as an excuse to hideout with the pup, and a book.

Oversharing.

Taking the bull by the horns.

Not letting chronic depression kill me.

Making lists.

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Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I think "with good company" is what makes books, movies, shows, music, and food my favorite.

You will never starve while dating me (I feed people when I like them.)

I'm non-religious, but Heinlein and Vonnegut are sort of my patron saints of rational thought. I like how quietly hopeful each of them makes me feel, despite their calling out society, in all its shitty glory.
The six things I could never do without
I've never liked this question, the literal answer is boring, and the "creative" answers tend to be pretty boring, too.

I'm amending this to the six things I could never do without in a relationship:

Mutual respect and care. (Is that two? Whatever.)

Direct, honest, frequent communication. (Passive aggressive men make me bonkers. I don't want to be bonkers. I want to feel like you trust and respect me enough to be honest about how and why you feel the way you feel. I like hearing from the person I'm dating. If you go radio silent for a few days, unexpectedly, especially after we've met in person, I'm interpreting it as, "he's not that into me.")

A lot of touch time. (Sexual and non-sexual.) Cuddles, bro. I'm a hand holder. Not so much into PDA like public makeout sessions, but I love your hand on the small of my back walking through a crowd, or sitting on the same side of the table so my leg touches yours. If you don't like casual, non-sexual touch, I'm not the right girl. Also, I am high drive. I'm ready when you are; I never get a "headache" and neither should you. If I'm dating you, and we like each other enough to get naked, I want to get naked. Real life makes schedules tough, but absent of outside obligations, I aim for at least daily sex.

Follow through. This ties back to direct and honest communication, but deserves its own point. False promises kill me. I have a hard time letting someone else "help," ever. So if I trust in your help, and you bail and don't deliver, it crushes me.

A partner who isn't looking for a maid or his mom. I deeply appreciate it when you show up, and contribute. Want to rev me up in a hurry? Surprise me with dinner ready when I get home from work. I'll help with the dishes, and you won't have to worry about dessert!

Alone, together time. Sometimes, it's a blast to meet up with different friends, explore the city, try new restaurants, hike, whatever. Realistically, though, a lot of relationship time is spent in the downtime between big plans and socializing. I need a lot of book/puppy/partner cuddle time. Play a video game. Read next to me. Dick around on Reddit. But I really appreciate that "doing our own thing in the same room" time.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Personal space and boundaries.

Sex, love, and relationship dynamics.

How to avoid filling a role or being a hole, instead of being appreciated as myself in my future relationships.

What my ideal routine looks like and how to implement it in my daily life.

BDSM.

Power exchange.

Entropy.

Singing.
On a typical Friday night I am
OKCupid Guy: Need to let me know when you feel like grabbing a drink or some food...

Me: I am buried under two blankets, wearing sweatpants and an exercise top, no makeup, and glasses. Hibernation mode in full effect. Instead of "human"-ing, today, I have accomplished "cat." I would love to have my hair petted while I read my book, but I'm equally likely to resent any company beyond the pup, and might also bite the hand that pets me.

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It's not you, it's me deciding I prefer my dog's company to yours. Promise.
You should message me if
You know who you are and what you want.

I know that there isn't a lot of reward for the men of OKC to craft a decent or thoughtful message, but I don't respond to "hi" or a lewd physical compliment.

It's not my thing, you see.

I like a man with a bit of wit.

Clever gets a conversation.
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