48 Manhattan, United States
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My self-summary
I have a great life. My life is unencumbered, as in 'drama-free', and I'd like to keep it that way. I may be complex, but quite uncomplicated.

I'd like to meet intelligent, adventurous people. I need someone who is intellectually curious and flexible and savors the give and take of protracted conversation. HOWEVER, I am in an open relationship, I have no plans of changing that. It works beautifully for me.

I am a programmer and work for a large NGO although my background is in emerging markets and economics.

I often with my teenager which I enjoy immensely, In the Summer, I garden on my roof deck and I am a great gardener but a horrible planner so , mid-August I am harvesting 50+ tomatoes a day. I buy a lot of people off with tomatoes. (Side note, one of my favorite smells is tomato plants.)

During the Winter (when I should be planning my garden), I restore old cameras and develop film. I have (and use) a digital SLR but I love the mechanics of old cameras. My favorite is a 1962 TLR with bellows that takes amazing pictures.
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to be present and open and brave.
I’m really good at
Balancing kid and friends and work and... whatever else I forgot to do this week.

My elevator is currently out... for a total of 10 weeks. I am now amazing at getting up 6 flights of stairs with bags of groceries/laundry/etc/
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I read a lot of books related to somewhere I have been or someone I met. Without outside influence, I usually choose books that have something to do with history. I tend to read about places that have a hard time describing their history. Currently reading a book about Congo and the cold war and a book on the DR and Trujillo.

I regularly read the Economist (particularly the obit section which never fails to entertain me), Atlantic and New Yorker (ok, I always intend to read the NYer), London Review of Books. There is something about the three year discussions they print - review, letter about the review, letter about that letter...

I read a lot about languages but mostly online (language hat and language log).
The six things I could never do without
A great group of friends whose demons play well with mine, humor (friends that make me laugh are treasured), trust (ideas and people - I can't emphasize this enough. If I trust a situation, I am fun, on guard I am a pain), reading material, whatever excites the person I am with, great pillow talk
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Taking another Finnish class. Totally useless but I have never met an agglutinative I didn't love.
On a typical Friday night I am
In with my daughter, out with friends. I like both equally.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am a sucker for a great story. While I mostly read history and non-fiction, I really appreciate the "story". Why do we talk about the past in a certain manner, why do we gloss over some items and focus on others, how does that make us what we are?
You should message me if
You are smart enough to know that you can learn from anyone and often jump at the opportunity to do so.

I'm open to whatever connections I may make. Needless to say, I'm straightforward, and there isn't much, if anything, that I'm not willing to answer or discuss. GGG and I am one of the least judgmental people you will meet and I expect the same.

Finally, I am in an open relationship. People (ok, mostly men) seem to think this just means I will do anything with anyone. To clarify, I am not looking for one-night stands or hook-ups. My open status is defined, and there are boundaries that have been discussed and agreed upon with my partner. It is not a free-for-all nor would I want that.

We have a committed relationship, and our open status helps us both fill needs that we can't always provide for each other. Someone else to lean on, have fun with, to have real conversation with, friendship, and appreciation.

Please be respectful of this situation (or at least trying to understand)