cabi1
40 Keller, United States
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My self-summary
I'm a computer programmer, weight lifter, diet enthusiast, and more recently a feminist, trying to convert one bro at a time. I got married long before online dating was a thing.

So why am I here?

I've always wanted to answer the compatibility questions for fun. Also, my single friends sometimes send me profile links, and I need to have my own profile to view them. Now that you can make a "for friends only" profile, I figured I'd sign up. So here I am!

I don't really come here expecting to make new friends, as I recognize this site isn't really designed for that. But it's a fun experiment since the compatibility scores could work for friendship!
What I’m doing with my life
I've been working a lot and continuing my education through online courses in my field (computer programming). Programming has been fun and rewarding. I'm fortunate to enjoy a subject that the world needs right now.

My wife has graduated from vet school and has been a practicing veterinarian since May of 2014. I've enjoyed being introduced as the Mr. part of "Dr. and Mr.", because it reminds me of all the hard work she did.

My recent passion has been coaching friends (and acquaintances that have become friends) with their diets. Two of my friends have lost over 100 lbs. Every single person I have helped has been successful (knock on wood). How cool is that? I'm very lucky to have a profession that supports me, so that I can help others with a skill that doesn't traditionally pay very well.

When it comes to personal development, I've been reading a lot about feminism and mentorship, so that I may better utilize my privileges and the benefits of my hard work to help others.
I’m really good at
Forming meaningful relationships with friends and being a supportive, positive force.

I'm also pretty good in my field, but I think it's important to balance life's grand contributions--in my case, attempting to advance technology--with the smaller interpersonal ones. If we can all be there for our friends, the world will move forward at a much greater place, and we'll all enjoy our lives so much more.

Another thing I'm good at is developing a sensitivity to others' perspectives. When I'm in a friendly argument or discussion, I keep an open mind and make a genuine attempt to consider opposing views before I voice my own. If you expect to change minds, you need to know how to change your own mind, I think.
The first things people usually notice about me
My dorky smile, the salt and pepper scruff I'm not so dedicated to shaving off.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Bill and Ted's Excellent Adventure is my favorite movie of all time because it contains a concise moral code: Party on and be excellent to each other. Seriously, that covers everything. Other movies: Adaptation, Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon, Donnie Darko.

Reading for leisure is a more recent hobby of mine. I was an active kid and liked being outside when I wasn't playing around on the computer. These days I am making more time to read for leisure. I've been enjoying Stephen King's Dark Tower series.

I like all kinds of music. Even bad music. But here's my hypothesis: Being able to appreciate music other people don't like is a talent. It can't be *bad* to get enjoyment out of *more*, right? :).

Food? I've never turned down a cheesecake. Also pie. God, I love pie. Ask me for my high-protein peanut butter chocolate pie recipe.
The six things I could never do without
This could be written so many ways. I'll just say what comes to mind.

Friendship / Love. To me, life is about progress and enjoying that progress. Personal relationships are a critical part of that.

Computer. Hey, I gotta work.

Phone. Because it's basically a portable computer. I need it to stay in touch with work, but I know when to put it down and listen.

Internet. Important for work and general progress.

Squat Rack + Barbells + Bench + Weights, etc. I love to lift weights and this is the basic equipment. Dumbbells are great, too.

That covers the emotional, intellectual, and physical! What'd I miss?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
On a more serious note, I spend a lot of time thinking about the idea of a pure heart. To argue serious issues with respect, a sensitivity for others' opinions, and with a genuine interest in changing minds rather than "winning". To be honest with people and oneself above all. To respect true freedom and let others live however they like, provided they hurt no one. To make a concerted attempt to push human knowledge forward. To act with such selflessness as to be unaffected when others are unappreciative.

Lately I have been thinking about mentorship. Why are so many acts of violence committed by men? When we consider that there are far more women's shelters than men's shelters, do we consider that the root cause is often that misguided men are causing the problems in the first place? How can I be a positive influence to young men, so that the world can become a better place? Can I do more than one-on-one mentorship?
On a typical Friday night I am
If I don't stay in and work, I might have friends over for a mini-party. Have some drinks, play some video games. Have you tried virtual reality? It's super fun.

Lately I've been going to a lot of Fellowship of Freethought events in the DFW area. It's a social group for freethinkers and other non-religious folks.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I just bought deodorant for the first time in 6 years. But it's because I got a really good deal on a 24-pack on amazon 6 years ago and I just now ran out.
You should message me if
You were surprised how I answered a question and you want to talk about it. Or you're just bored and feel like talking to someone who is here only for friends!
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