61 London, United Kingdom
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My self-summary
I'm looking to meet people to spend time with, to see what might develop between us. I like exploring what London has to offer - films (independent rather than mainstream) and plays (usually not the West End variety) and concerts (mainly classical, but willing to experiment); galleries, exhibitions and museums; restaurants and wine bars and the quieter kind of pub. Currently emerging from a period of relative isolation, so I'm looking to relaunch my social life.

We're unlikely to get on unless you're a bit unconventional; intellectually and emotionally honest; open and trustworthy. A shared outlook on life is more important to me than a list of shared hobbies.

Socially, I tend to get lost in crowds and so avoid parties, preferring to spend time with one or two others, in conversation about arts and sciences and people and politics and ideas and the ridiculous, and this, that and the other; but not sport, reality TV, celebrity culture or shopping.
What I’m doing with my life
Figuring out how to spend the next part of my life, now that I've taken early retirement after very many years in the public sector. Plans include more of the things I already enjoy, and thinking about that list of things I've wanted to do at some point, but never quite got round to. I've already taken up bridge, been on a sea-kayaking trip, tried country dancing, started some studying, and taken on some voluntary work, and of course I want to leave time to respond to whatever opportunities come my way.

I like to seek out moments of stillness - which I find in yoga, in swimming, in sitting quietly, in my garden, by the sea, in wild places, in the bath, in bed and in the most unexpected of places, alone or in the company of someone special.

I've a particular love for the north west of Scotland, having been many times. Further afield, in the last few years I've been to Washington state, to California and from there to New York by train, and to Paris, Florence and Lyon. Future travel plans include more trips to Scotland, perhaps revisiting Shetland and exploring more of the Inner and Outer Hebrides, and Europe, especially Scandinavia, by train.

My radio is usually tuned to Radio 3 - ask me and I'll explain why I don't much care for Radio 4. I like pottering in my garden and my kitchen; I also swim, cycle and walk - not very far or very fast or very stylishly.

Oh, and I'm discovering my inner geek, developing an interest in board games (Dominion, Scrabble, Backgammon, …..... but not chess). And did I mention bridge, been playing for about 2 years, still learning, finding it thoroughly engrossing?
I’m really good at
making connections, analysis, sorting things out, planning and organising, all of which were important in my work, and I'm now looking for new ways to put them to good use.
The first things people usually notice about me
a quiet person who gradually makes her presence felt
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Films - I tend to prefer independent/foreign language rather than Hollywood.

Books - I average a book a week; usually books written in the last 50 years or so, but not always in English. My reading pile currently includes Will Self, Henry James, James Joyce, and I will get round to reading Proust some time soon; I've recently enjoyed Kim Stanley Robinson, David Mitchell, Ian McEwan, Javier Marias, Tim Winton, Aritha van Herk, Maupassant, ..... I adopt a fairly random approach, picking whatever catches my attention on the shelves of the charity shop, supplemented by recommendations from friends. .

Music - classical, particularly chamber music; folk/traditional, but always open to something new, as long as it's not too loud and features real instruments.

Television - recently acquired one after a long gap, but don't find much of interest

Food - I eat most things except meat; particularly fond of Indian and Italian food
The six things I could never do without
intelligent conversation
hugs and cuddles
time spent by myself
decent food and wine
I spend a lot of time thinking about
stuff, usually at the serious end of the spectrum
On a typical Friday night I am
trying to remember what day of the week it is
You should message me if
You like what you've read, and would like to get to know me - why else? Maybe you're based reasonably close to London, and are looking for a concert buddy, or a theatre buddy, or a bridge partner, or just someone new in your life.

If you contact me, I will reply if, but only if, your message contains more than 5 words and suggests that you have read my profile and found something of mutual interest.

Don't be surprised if I contact you first - it is the 21st century, after all, and I'm not sure of the online equivalent of discreetly dropping my glove.

You need to know that I define myself as polyamorous, and so I'm not looking for a monogamous commitment; if that's what you're after, we're really not suited. If, like me, you have one or more other partners, that's fine, provided that I won't be a secret from them.