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My self-summary
Twenty-two years growing up in Portland, then thirty-eight years in LA & SF & the East Bay as a Californian, & now back in Portland to resume life. One marriage, three grown children. Many jobs, now retired, writing creative nonfiction as a vocation.

I'm in a relationship with a wonderful woman with whom I'm incredibly happy. So I'm only interested in meeting people who can add to and partake in our happiness. Not sure how that would work--never having been in this essentially polyamorous situation before--but contact me if after reading my profile you have any good ideas.
What I’m doing with my life
Writing books (as yet unpublished), reading, listening to music, appreciating all forms of art, communicating with & continuing to parent my children. Taking pleasure in life that offers such a range of them.
I’m really good at
Communicating in words, listening, paying attention, digesting, comprehending, trying to understand, occasionally failing, trying again from a slightly different angle.
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably that I'm bald, then perhaps the slightly wry smile of expectation & the ear cocked to listen.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
WRITERS: Henry James, Marcel Proust, James Joyce, Franz Kafka, William Faulkner, Giacomo Casanova, Ford Madox Ford. I especially love memoirs & autobiographies, old & new, & have a large collection of them at home.

MOVIES: One-Eyed Jacks, The American Friend, Mean Streets, McCabe & Mrs Miller, Shampoo, The Conversation, The Private Life of Sherlock Holmes, Jackie Brown, Punch-Drunk Love, Twilight Samurai. Directors: Scorsese, Coppola, Polanski, Hawkes, Ford, Welles, Sturges, the Coen bros, Terrence Malick, Errol Morris, Paul Thomas Anderson, Wes Anderson.

TV SHOWS: Saturday Night Live (1970s incarnation especially), The Wire, Breaking Bad (I do however hate TV commercials, & so only watch shows on disk or Netflix), The Daily Show, The Colbert Report, The Chappelle Show (especially the Charlie Murphy segments).

MUSIC: Elvis Costello, Richard Thompson, Joni Mitchell, Springsteen, early electric Bob Dylan, Stevie Wonder's first five independent albums, Aretha Franklin, Bonnie Raitt, blues, gospel, country (Hank Williams is king), The National, Okkervil River, Iron & Wine, James Blake & other contemporary bands my kids turn me on to, Kanye West being the latest & fondest such acquisition.

FOOD: omelets (because you can put many interesting things in them), most things involving bacon, most ethnic foods, lots of spices & flavors, low carb (I don't do snack foods, soda pop, or high carb pigouts, though popcorn slathered with butter is a must while watching movies).
Six things I could never do without
My girlfriend the sex goddess
My three children
My dearest friends
Literature & all forms of human expression
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Art (the only thing human cultures invariably produce that has no apparent survival value).

Sex: I'm fascinated by its curious hold on the imagination beyond its obvious value in propagating the species (Savage Love is my favorite newspaper column on my favorite subject). Living with my girlfriend I've finally discovered what the sex life of a bonobo must be like, and I totally dig it.

Love: How is it that in spite of being wired for random sex like bonobos we have a penchant for falling in love with each other & pairing off? It makes no sense, & yet we know it happens, we've felt it, we've fallen in & out of love, but do we understand it? Can we say what it really amounts to? Yet we devoutly wish for it to happen again. Now I'm in love again & finding it more wonderful than ever & it feels more sturdy & lasting & profound than ever before, so I don't lack for love.
On a typical Friday night I am
I'm retired, so there's no typical Friday night routine, though I like to watch movies on Netflix with friends & family on weekends because those who're working are generally free then.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I like women with hair under their arms ... there, I said it.
You should message me if
you can add something to my already full life & you think I may be able to add something to yours.
The two of us