chehaw
45New Brunswick, United States
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My self-summary
The rituals and conventions of dating are frustrating; they get in the way of building deep connections–physical, spiritual, emotional and intellectual. Dating, relationships, friendships shouldn’t be games, or ideas boiled down to mere checklists. They sprawl, they breathe, and they can be messy.

I’m seeking those connections, something more humane and human. Something that pushes a boundary or two. I want depth, connection and the kind of passion that isn't branded, lazy nonsense. That's a lot, and I can move a tad slowly, but I'm not playing small here.

Running and cycling are important to me, and will continue to be. They are avenues to personal growth, along with music and writing and solitude. My photos show I’m fairly active, and that’s been the best way I’ve found right now to connect to myself.

Having a running/cycling partner would be great. Or having someone who understands the need to run/bike at the crack of dawn. (I think I’m going to run a couple of half marathons before the year’s out.) An understanding sherpa on race day wouldn't be bad, either.

A couple of things...if I don’t respond, I’m not interested. (And if you’re interested and don’t respond, that’s fair.) I’m not responding to only a hi or a hello. And a warning–I hate talking on the phone. I can do it, but it’ll be choppy, especially at the beginning. And, if you hit like, I likely will not see it–just drop me a note.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a committed runner. A slow runner, but a runner nonetheless. It's strange/crazy/awesome how my life has changed through lacing up shoes and chugging up hills or slogging on a treadmill early in the morning. In 2016 I ran a lot of miles, and running became more lifestyle than just exercise. There's a different, bracing sort of magic to running that I would love to channel into a relationship. I cycle, too, but I won’t drag you on any 30 milers—unless you want to
I’m really good at
really listening; persevering; introverting; learning to run smarter
The first things people usually notice about me
The eyes, and the shaved head...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Running and Being: The Total Experience; Quirkyalone: A Guide for Uncompromising Romantics; Comfortable With Uncertainty; Mating in Captivity; The War of Art

Music: Lots of jazz, lots of electronica/ambient/chillout; (Soma FM’s Deep Space One and Ambient Sleeping Pill are favorites. Bet you didn’t see those coming, did you) learning that progressive trance is good running music for the treadmill

Food: Keeping it most healthy these days (kale with olive oil FTW), but will never turn down a good burger and a good beer
Six things I could never do without
Music, a hat, a book, running shoes, my bicycle, good friends, solitude
I spend a lot of time thinking about
On a typical Friday night I am
Quietly enjoying a meal out. Or driving around and decompressing... Or getting ready for a long run Saturday morning (see above--the fun's left for Saturday night).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Yes, I'm mildly obsessed with running. But, there are a lot of life lessons to be had on the run--and even on the treadmill. They make me a better human being.
You should message me if
I feel like I'm entering a really good place in my life where I'm growing and evolving, and I want to share that with someone special. If you run, great--just wait for me at the corner while I catch up. If you don't run, great--I'll buy you coffee after I'm done.

If you hit like, there's a really good chance I won't see it for months, if at all. Yep, repeating it...A couple of things...if I don’t respond, I’m not interested. (And if I'm interested and you don’t respond, that’s fair.) I’m not responding to only a hi or a hello. And a warning–I hate talking on the phone. I can do it, but it’ll be choppy, especially at the beginning.
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