chehaw
44 New Brunswick, United States
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My self-summary
This is what I'm looking for--someone sweeter and more refreshing than solitude. I want to be in a relationship, to give, to share, to be close to someone. To paraphrase the philosopher Jean Vanier, the goal should be to love someone as they are--without pretense, with imperfections, warts and all. I'm looking for a friend, an ally, a lover and a confidant, and I want to be the same for someone else. It should go without saying that I'm an introvert--INTJ to be exact (with bouts of INTP).

I'm looking for a deep diver and a button-pusher. I want depth, connection and the kind of passion that isn't branded, lazy nonsense. That's a lot, and I can move a tad slowly, but I'm not playing small here.

I run and I bike--I'm training for two half marathons in November, and I've got one marathon under my belt. Call me crazy, but it's fun. Having a running/cycling partner would be great. Or having someone who understands the need to run/bike at the crack of dawn. An understanding sherpa on race day wouldn't be bad, either.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a committed runner. A slow runner, but a runner nonetheless. It's strange/crazy/awesome how my life has changed through lacing up shoes and chugging up hills or slogging on a treadmill early in the morning. A burgeoning Canadaphile (and it has nothing to do with the current state of politics). And oh yeah, I work for a newspaper in Manhattan--yes, they are still around. Generally, keeping my shit together the best way I can, and trying to live the questions....
I’m really good at
really listening; persevering; introverting
The first things people usually notice about me
The eyes, and the shaved head...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Ultramarathon Man; Running and Being: The Total Experience; Quirkyalone: A Guide for Uncompromising Romantics; Comfortable With Uncertainty; Mating in Captivity

Music: Lots of jazz, lots of electronica

Food: trying to keep it healthy, but will never turn down a good burger and a good beer
The six things I could never do without
Music, a hat, a book, running shoes, my bicycle, good friends...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
On a typical Friday night I am
Quietly enjoying a meal out. Or driving around and decompressing... Or getting ready for a long run Saturday morning (see above--the fun's left for Saturday night).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Yes, I'm mildly obsessed with running (It's eclipsed jazz as my number one thing--and that's saying a lot). But, there are a lot of life lessons to be had on the run--and even on the treadmill. They make me a better human being.
You should message me if
I feel like I'm entering a really good place in my life where I'm growing and evolving, and I want to share that with someone special. If you run, great--just wait for me at the corner while I catch up. If you don't run, great--I'll buy you coffee after I'm done.

Also, if you can write more than hi or hello, bonus points.
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