chehaw
45New Brunswick, United States
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My self-summary
This is what I'm looking for--someone sweeter and more refreshing than solitude. I want to be in a relationship, to give, to share, to be close to someone. To paraphrase the philosopher Jean Vanier, the goal should be to love someone as they are--without pretense, with imperfections, warts and all. I'm looking for a friend, an ally, a lover and a confidant, and I want to be the same for someone else. It should go without saying that I'm an introvert--INTJ to be exact (with a side of INTP).

I'm looking for a deep diver and a button-pusher. I want depth, connection and the kind of passion that isn't branded, lazy nonsense. That's a lot, and I can move a tad slowly, but I'm not playing small here.

I run and I bike--I just ran two 5Ks in one day for the first time in December. Call me crazy, but it's fun. Having a running/cycling partner would be great. Or having someone who understands the need to run/bike at the crack of dawn. An understanding sherpa on race day wouldn't be bad, either.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a committed runner. A slow runner, but a runner nonetheless. It's strange/crazy/awesome how my life has changed through lacing up shoes and chugging up hills or slogging on a treadmill early in the morning. In 2016 I ran a lot of miles, and running became more lifestyle than just exercise. There's a different, bracing sort of magic to running that I would love to channel into a relationship. A burgeoning Canadaphile (and it has nothing to do with the current state of politics). And oh yeah, I work for a newspaper in Manhattan--yes, they are still around.
I’m really good at
really listening; persevering; introverting; learning to run smarter
The first things people usually notice about me
The eyes, and the shaved head...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Ultramarathon Man; Running and Being: The Total Experience; Quirkyalone: A Guide for Uncompromising Romantics; Comfortable With Uncertainty; Mating in Captivity

Music: Lots of jazz, lots of electronica; learning that progressive trance is good running music for the treadmill

Food: Keeping it most healthy these days (kale with olive oil FTW), but will never turn down a good burger and a good beer
Six things I could never do without
Music, a hat, a book, running shoes, my bicycle, good friends...
On a typical Friday night I am
Quietly enjoying a meal out. Or driving around and decompressing... Or getting ready for a long run Saturday morning (see above--the fun's left for Saturday night).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Yes, I'm mildly obsessed with running (I'm signed up for four races in 2017). But, there are a lot of life lessons to be had on the run--and even on the treadmill. They make me a better human being.
You should message me if
I feel like I'm entering a really good place in my life where I'm growing and evolving, and I want to share that with someone special. If you run, great--just wait for me at the corner while I catch up. If you don't run, great--I'll buy you coffee after I'm done.

Two bills of particulars: If you like me, there's a really good chance I won't see it for months, if at all. And, if you just write hi or hello, there's a really, really good chance I'll just keep on going about my day.
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