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My self-summary
Sometimes I don't check into OKC for a long time (e.g. if I don't respond to a message and there's no signs of recent activity, it could be that I didn't log in for 15 months). This summary last reviewed 10/31/16.

I'm re-acquainting with OKC because I just moved to central Connecticut to join my boyfriend (OKC user justin1667) , and we are interested in experimenting with other people as a couple. Right now we would be looking for girls who might want to potentially come to bed with both of us.

Individually, I'm also interested in having sexual experiences with other women, and I would love to make some local platonic friends in queer/poly/kink communities, since that's the kind of community I always felt very comfortable with back in Portland!

Our "open" relationship at this point is open to either of us, or both of us together, sleeping with other women. We might be open to an ongoing arrangement with a third if the chemistry and friendship were good, but probably aren't in the market for a polyfidelitous commitment in the long term.

As for me personally:

I love science, studied chemistry (organic synth was my fave), took significant electives in psychology, wide variety of interests including medicine generally, pharmacology, neuroscience, eating disorders and addictions. Applied to medical school twice and wasn't successful, but still thinking about MD/PhD maybe later.

Went on an transcontinental road trip last summer and retraced much of the route at triple speed on my coast-to-coast move; did a few other local trips in the west. Probably kindled a lifelong love of travel by doing that. Still haven't seen the South/Appalachia and didn't quite have time to reach New Mexico in the Southwest, but I've now been to 30 states, 2 Canadian provinces

Bernie Sanders fan. Liberal leftist, which is heresy to my leftist friends and out of left field to most American liberals, so foo.
Fire spinner, synaesthete who paints songs, down with PLUR and one-with-the-universe vibes. Want to do more yoga and running, it's good for my mental health.

Love babies and trying to afford having one in the next 5 years but y'know, being a Millennial is a bit of an impediment to such goals.
What I’m doing with my life
Getting a new life started in Connecticut, hopefully looking for a job in chemistry or scientific writing. Expanding my mind by jetting off for the East Coast, because when you're a Portland kid and neo-hippie anti-conventional ideology is normal, that's the new horizon you've got to explore.Trying to keep learning and staying intellectually flexible regardless of whether I'm in school, but I really might need to go to grad school after all. Trying to stay in shape and body-aware through these transitions.
I’m really good at
* School
* Scientific writing
* Cooking
* Remembering dates
* Losing my train of thought
* Trusting
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm gonna go with "intelligent and beautiful," even though that sounds super arrogant to me, because that's the answer I keep getting when I ask other people *smiles and averts eyes awkwardly*.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
BOOKS: Brave New World, PiKHAL, Slaughterhouse Five, Jane Eyre, Ender's Game. How's that for a smorgasbord?

MOVIES: I don't watch a lot of movies but Immortal Beloved is the main one that stands up to time.

TV: House, Buffy, Firefly, Bill Nye, Star Trek (all of them except Enterprise), Breaking Bad, Mr. Robot

NEWS: The Atlantic (print), The Young Turks (stream video)

MUSIC: We'll get along if you are in love with Beethoven and Conor Oberst. The Beatles, the entire 1991 grunge scene typified by Nirvana, Bjork, and Greydon Square also a plus.

FOOD: pasta, cheese, ice cream, Thai, Indian/Nepalese, all variants of Mediterranean
BEVERAGES: bittersweet coffee, green tea, red wine
Six things I could never do without
Something to learn
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How it's really disappointing that the left wing has developed just as much of an obnoxious, dogmatic, paranoid fringe as the right wing.
On a typical Friday night I am
Watching good TV shows or political news videos, or having intense conversation, with my partner.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Well lets just get right on the table right away that I have oral herpes (cold sores), but I take antivirals that make me have essentially no outbreaks and so far my partner (confirmed seronegative) hasn't gotten it in a year of antiviral treatment and two years of symptom-based contact avoidance prior.
You should message me if
You're a girl who would be interested in joining me and my (male) partner in some kind of three-way sexual play (with the possibility of an ongoing arrangement), or even just corrupt us with kinky ideas.

You're a girl who wants to do some bi-curious exploration, or you're experienced but don't mind being the first for a baby-bisexual.

You're a person of any gender who lives around Hartford County and finds me interesting as a potential friend, but without any expectations of later romantic or sexual involvement.

Your message will be more in depth than "hey" or "how's it going" and will comment at least as much on activities and interests as on my appearance.
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