34 Redwood City, United States
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My self-summary
I'm feeling pretty great about my life, except for the singleness. I'm healthy. I love my job. I've got time to relax and work on side projects. I enjoy my freedom as an adult. I've got great friends and coworkers. I have good relationships with my family. I appreciate simple joys in my life. I know I have enough in general. I've felt stable and mostly content like this for a long time.

I know I'm not perfect. I think I'm so smart when I figure something out, and then I totally overlook another thing that's just as important. It'd be nice if I didn't make mistakes. But I'll own up to them, and address them as soon as I can. I don't want my mistakes to define me.

A wiser teacher once told me: "Don't go looking for the woman you want, become the man you want to become." I'll admit I'm not quite there yet. But I'm working on it.

I can't help but want to find my partner. I want to hang out with her, casually and comfortably. I want to share thoughts, and share space, and try things we can laugh about later. I want my days to feel long in anticipation of her. I want to live a better life with her.

INTP/ENTP. Ravenclaw.
What I’m doing with my life
I do what I like, and I like what I do. Working to see real change happen in the world. Teaching kids and writing software. Very brainy work.

My goal is wisdom. I don't mind being an outsider in pursuit of learning. Even though I'm playfully energized by people, I often withdraw to be serious and contemplative.

I'm seeking a partner with this computer-assisted-writing-exercise.
I’m really good at
Computers. Arts & crafts. Learning languages. Fixing broken things. Getting over how silly it feels to do something new.
The first things people usually notice about me
I look like my photos. Seriously. Tall, skinny, curly hair. People tell me I look 5 to 10 years younger than I actually am.

I act like my profile. Thoughtful, sometimes verbose, pretty confident, eager to learn. Consistent, but a little unconventional.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Thinking Fast and Slow, Siddhartha. Audio shows: most of NPR, CGP Grey, Hamilton the Musical (free to listen on Spotify, highly recommended). Music: yes. Movies: Shawshank Redemption, Fight Club, comic-book-fantasy. TV (mostly via internet): Lie To Me, Sherlock, Rick and Morty. Food: avocados, heirloom tomatoes, salmon, burritos, sushi, Indian food. I can't stand overly-refined-sugary-anything.

I'd love to trade what-music-we've-been-listening-to-recently, and watch a-movie/show-that-you-would-see-again.

I'd love to learn to cook something new, though not as much as I will love eating it! Especially if there is Love in it, that's my favorite ingredient.
The six things I could never do without
Health. Computers. Science. Teaching. Creative thinking. Learning, especially from failure (which brings Wisdom and Humility).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Problems to solve, especially with tech side projects. How nice it is outside. Awareness of reality's richness, and my very small place in it. Macro-economic future trends. My students. The Fermi Paradox. Bees. To-have-kids or not-to-have-kids. How long I will stay healthy in the future. Deciding on the right thing to do right now. Finding value in every experience, even the ones distracting me from what I should be doing. Building up will power to get more work done.

I think about online dating. There's bias toward "compatibility", which I know is more an-achievement-of-love rather than a-precondition-to-it. And we can't recreate childhood-imprinted feelings-of-love, because technology has changed so much of reality. And the weight of choices, provided by tools like OKC, pull us away from commitment. And to even meet, we need synchronize windows of singleness, in busy lives. It's a tricky puzzle to solve, and I really want to solve it.
On a typical Friday night I am
Hanging out with friends or colleagues, possibly with some drinks or games. Still working. Playing in some extra-curricular activity. Making progress on plots and schemes. Being spontaneous with people. Being comfortably alone.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have an old, honest, nuanced, very long OKCupid profile handy. Some joke that it's my 'novella'. I can share it if you are interested, after we exchange names.

I try to be very open+honest with myself, and with others. I'm filtering myself for brevity more than fear-of-rejection, because your time is valuable to me. Please ask about my story, I'd like to ask about yours too!
You should message me if
... your life is meaningful to you, because of the things you do, and people you sacrifice for.
... you recognize your own powerful role in your own happiness and success, and try to make good decisions for your future's sake.
... you have an opinion about my profile picture being tilted 90 degrees.
... you also over-intellectualize things (often thinking instead of doing), and want to practice being more impulsive/communicative/present-with-people, possibly with someone like me.
... you want a candid discussion with a serious monogamous partner.
... you accept that computers and the internet could help you find a romantic partner, and you're willing to test a match out, starting with a message.
... you are also hoping to delightfully-distract someone.