35 Oakland, United States
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My self-summary
I like to go to bed early. I've worked third shift and loved it but now I like seeing the early morning light peek through my window as I awaken.

I spend my time selling rice and almonds at the farmers' market, hanging out with my 4 year old god-daughter a couple days each week, working for a short list of preferred clients and their friends doing odd jobs (mowing, house cleaning, moving, construction, organization of space, carpentry, installing tile, replacing fixtures [both plumbed and electric]), working on home-based projects (most recently a built-in bed and wooden shelves), cooking rice and kale, making/drinking homebrew and kombucha, canning and preserving soups and stews (made 12 gallons of chili in August [8 gals veggie, 4 gals meaty], canned 200 lbs of strawberries, 300 lbs of blueberries, and something close to 500 lbs of apricots), dehydrating fruit (this season, hundreds of pounds of apricots and 30 pounds of strawberries), hanging out with friends, culturing milk into yogurt, baking granola, fermenting cabbage into kraut, pickling cucumbers, and waxing cheese. In February and March, I clarified 110 lbs of butter into ghee. I buy my food/trade from the local farmers' market and local farmers, canning and dehydrating in season to enjoy out-of-season, living within the constraints of local and in season. I love ball (made in the USA) mason jars; I use them for everything. I take a plate to taco trucks, refill kegs with beer made on site, bring a jar with me for leftovers, and carry a re-usable water bottle.

I'd like to meet good people and make new friends. I'm interested in a deep, loving, affectionate partnership/relationship/friendship. I'd prefer to have a solid friendship foundation before trying to build a romantic/sexual relationship on top. I am a monogamist; I don't engage in sexual activities with people who are in active sexual relationships with another person. Call me old fashioned; the health risks are high and I believe outweigh the potential benefits. I do want you to have other close friendships/relationships that include emotional intimacy. No one person can meet all the needs of another nor be responsible for those needs to be met. We can share our observations, express our feelings and needs and make requests of each other to meet our own needs.

I tend to feel uncomfortable being in large groups of people unless I'm with someone I feel comfortable with or I can find a spot against a wall to stand or a place to fall asleep.
I’m really good at
listening, biking, laughing at myself, hugging, making beer and mead, building things from wood, making popcorn, organizing space, respecting boundaries
The first things people usually notice about me
my red beard, surplus store clothing, I give good hugs, the chip in my front tooth
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
michael c Ruppurt, chuck Palahniuk, big lebowski, dreamscape, Cohen bros, radiohead, errol Morris, michael moore, john Waters, requiem of a dream, six feet under, kids in the hall, mission hill, lie to me, star trek tng and ds9, battlestar galactica, cops, it's garry shandlings show, noam Chomsky, joanna newsome, they might be giants, veggie burritos (I could live on this and nothing else), home-cooked stir fry, the wire, csi, breaking bad, beat beat whisper, andrew bird, beirut, james taylor, red hot chili peppers...
The six things I could never do without
a bike, closeness with others, brassicas, farmers' markets, good company, true love and affection for other human beings
"All I really need is a song in my heart, food in my belly, and love in my family"
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The widespread localization of everything and the decline of western civilization caused by the end of the age of petroleum. What I need to do/have/be before that happens.

I want to reduce my dependency on corporations, both as the provider of my income and the provider of my goods and services. And in action that looks like: trading and buying goods and services from local businesses and farmers' markets and doing without unnecessary "conveniences" especially those which are resource or energy intensive. Making fewer american dollars and incidentally paying fewer dollars to taxes, creating many of my own end-products from renewable resources from the local area and region, establishing trades (including work trades) with others also making their own products or working for small businesses.
On a typical Friday night I am
Going to bed early, hanging out at my house maybe with a friend or two. Or maybe going to see my friends' band play somewhere nearby.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Body hair, good. Make-up and perfume, not so good.
You should message me if
you are independent and a free thinker, you have love for yourself and are into self-care, you like to cuddle, you want intimacy that doesn't need to lead to sex, you want a new friendship that might lead to something serious.

you'd like a home-cooked meal or a homebrew...