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My self-summary
I'm an INTP in the MBTI; I have limited faith in the usefulness of such tests and the psychological essentialism they imply (not to mention their lack of scientific rigor) but the INTP description really does describe me to a tee.

I tend to approach the world analytically, but I am also very much the romantic. I can be absolutely swept away by the sort of fantasy that Stephanie Meyer's Twilight sells even as I 'm able to point to all the ways that it's anti-feminist and selling a heteronormative, reproductive futurist anti-choice agenda. That said, as much as I might dream about Princess Charming coming along on her white horse, what I'm really looking for is a real three-dimensional human being!

I'm a dedicated social liberal but tend to live my own personal life fairly conservatively. My goal is to be a feminist and a gentleman at the same time. My politics are largely left-liberal and my theology is post-liberal. (I'm one of those progressive Episcopalians who unequivocally supports same-sex marriage.)

I'm fannish, interested in the critical and often subversive responses one can make to media texts through creative transformative works. Indeed, I served as a Symposium co-editor for Transformative Works and Cultures, the online academic journal published by the Organization for Transformative Works.

You can find me under the same username on Twitter, Dreamwidth, LibraryThing, Facebook, Tumblr, and a half-dozen other places.

I strongly prefer serif fonts to sans serif fonts as a general rule.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm an IT specialist for the New Jersey Department of Human Services, focusing mainly on systems development, software engineering, and database management. I have a B.A. in Philosophy & Religion from Colgate University and an A.A.S. in Computer Information Systems from Camden County College, in that order.
I’m really good at
My analytic mind means that wrestling with abstract ideas and philosophies come naturally to me, while my romantic soul inspires me to express myself creatively. I love writing essays and short stories, whether to post on the internet or just to exist in my notebook; the imaginative exercise is freeing and cathartic.

I have a theology blog where I try to work out the specifics of my Anglo-Catholic mystic post-liberalism. Think Leonardo Boff meets Marcus Borg, if that means anything to you.

I absolutely love dissecting popular culture--especially science fiction and fantasy--and being able to respond critically. (My grad school essay taking a queer theoretic lens to the NeverEnding Story film trilogy can be found at my blog.)
The first things people usually notice about me
You wouldn't guess it if your main communication with me is via text, but in person I'm usually fairly quiet. Until I have something to say, that is, at which point I can deliver a lecture (but usually won't unless I'm utterly convinced it's actually welcome; see previous about me being usually pretty quiet). My speech patterns are actually fairly similar to the way I write, deliberate and unafraid of complication, and my diction can be semi-elevated.

But my sense is that most people who know me in physical space think of me as a quiet, quasi-shy guy who is very nice to everybody and very smart (or at least book-smart), but mostly just quiet. Get to know me a little bit better than that and you might discover a somewhat sarcastic sense of humor hidden beneath.

Of course, the fact that I'm so quiet and nice has had most of my co-workers at pretty much every job I've ever had convinced that one day I would just lose it and shoot the place up or something. I promise that that's not actually ever going to happen. I really am just this nice.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I like my television id-vortexy, mostly science fiction or fantasy with a postmodern twist and which will reward fannish investment. Favorite shows include Jessica Jones, Arrow, Flash, In Plain Sight, The Guild, Veronica Mars, Skins (UK), Firefly, The Lizzzie Bennet Diaries, Carmilla, The 4400, and Doctor Who and its spinoffs, but nothing beats Buffy the Vampire Slayer (although Terminator: The Sarah Connor Chronicles comes close). With the exception of Doctor Who I usually wait until a season shows up on Netflix instead of trying to fight with TiVo.

My taste in movies similarly balances the id-tastic and the cerebral in equal amounts; my favorite movies are Andrew Niccol's The Truman Show, Charlie Kaufman's Adaptation, and Angela Robinson's D.E.B.S. My favorite film adaptation of Alice in Wonderland is Jan Švankmajer's Něco z Alenky.

Musically, I listen to classic rock (Queen, The Who, Fleetwood Mac, Jefferson Airplane), folk rock (Arlo Guthrie, Dar Williams, Harry Chapin), all-girl rock (The Runaways, The Donnas), some pop (Lisa Loeb, Regina Spektor), musicals and showtunes (Sondheim, Weber, Kristen Chenoweth, Bernadette Peters), and whatever else Pandora seems to think I'll like.

Favorite novels include Nineteen Eighty-Four by George Orwell, If on a winter's night a traveler by Italo Calvino, Special Topics in Calamity Physics by Marisha Pessl, Time Enough for Love by Robert A, Heinlein (yeah, I know), and The Time Traveler's Wife by Audrey Niffenegger. Like with movies, I like books that catch just the right balance between the high-brow and the whimsical.

Favorite plays include Arcadia by Tom Stoppard and Man and Superman by George Bernard Shaw.

I like lots of different foods, although I'm not super adventurous usually, and my favorites are usually Italian. My delight in cheese is sorta legendary; just ask any of my former roommates, or my best friend's parents.
Six things I could never do without
--the internet
--a paper notebook and pen(s) (preferably rollerball, not ballpoint)
--a laptop, desktop, tablet, and/or smart phone
--a pair of headphones and a good audiobook or podfic
--fandom, especially Dreamwidth Studios, Yulechat, the Organization for Transformative Works, and the Archive of Our Own
--the Body and Blood of Jesus Christ
I spend a lot of time thinking about
...the soteriological implications of post-Kantian rational psychology. No, really.

What the difference between "short-term" and "long-term" dating is supposed to be. I don't get it. Do people enter into relationships with the intention of ending them after a certain period no matter what, or something?
On a typical Friday night I am
...probably working overtime, doing homework, sleeping, reading, or writing. Or some combination of the above, such as listening to an audiobook while I lay in bed with my eyes closed.
You should message me if
...you're looking for someone to spend time with, to engage in conversation with, to challenge and be challenged by: you are someone with whom I could do a number of different things and have a lot of fun, but also could just spend fulfilling quiet time together, too. And someone I can invest myself in; I'm certainly not clingy or dependent, but when I put myself into a relationship I put myself in whole hog.
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