Up front you should know that I'm not looking for marriage and/or kids. I AM looking for good soulful connection, either short or long term. I am mostly non-monogamous, but I do really focus on people that I am feeling a connection with. So I can be monogamish if that's what develops!
I also generally identify as straight, but only because up to now I have only really slept with women. I would rather identify as queer with hetero tendencies since I often find men extremely attractive, I just don't quite wanna sleep with them. And I hate to limit myself. In anything. I really love to hug tall, somewhat broad men. Just a thing, I don't know if it's relevant to anything.
I love games. Not the emotional kind, but the kind you willingly play with friends. Celebrities, Mao, Poker, Apples to Apples, Cards Against Humanity, Pit, Cranium, Trivia...Pool, Shuffleboard, Darts, Ping Pong... This leads to my love of Improv, both Short and Long Form. I perform with a couple of different Improv troupes in SF Bay Area and I think I'm pretty damn good at it. I am an actor, and have the fortune to be able to eke out a living as such in a very slim market. I work on stage almost exclusively but would love to get more into screen work.
BRAG WARNING: SUBJECT WILL NOW SAY NICE THINGS ABOUT HIMSELF
I am generally liked by almost everyone who knows me. At this point I don't actually know of anyone who dislikes me. I'll let you know if this changes. I am funny, honest, genuine, and loyal. I am not a douchebag. (Ask me about the differences between asshole, douchebag, SOB, and truly mean people) People believe me to be hard-working and generous, though I think I am sometimes lazy and stingy.
I am very outgoing and extroverted when it comes to social situations and even flirting, but desperately shy when it comes to actually “hooking up”. I am always afraid of coming off as an aggressive lecherous asshole who has misread the cues. Women have to lead me by the hand into romantic situations. Once I am given the green light I can be very bold and forward, and I think I am really good at respecting boundaries.
I am very close with my family. That matters a lot to me.
I know this sounds very serious and unfunny. I am actually a fuckin' riot to hang out with, except when I'm not. I have an obsession with being clear and not wanting to confuse the truth with clever repartee. But get me going on a riff and I will rant with the best of them.
I really enjoy being drunk sometimes, but have never been puke drunk or pass-out drunk, or "I didn't know what I was doing"-drunk. I like that fact about me.
I've never been to Burning Man. I mean, I'd really love to go, but I keep being in shows that run during that time. And I can't turn down a good gig. That's my job, you know?
When I'm not being paid to act, I improvise on a few Bay Area stages. email me to find out when...
I am trying to jump-start my writing muscle. So far not very successfully.
I am learning to play the ukulele. Don't hate.
Laughing until it hurts.
Not too bad at ping pong. Pretty rockin' at Crossword Puzzles. Pretty mean Scrabble player (Cassidy Brown on facebook, challenge me!)
Here are the awards I received when OKC had awards:
digitalutopia gave me: Makes Me Laugh
Awarded Aug 3, 2009
“This is one of the funniest, sweetest, easy going people I know. He's been an amazing friend and will make you laugh when you think you just can't. :)”
againstjealousy gave me: The Great Date
Awarded Jan 18, 2010
“I have dragged this man on too many ill-planned excursions to count, but somehow they all ended up being amazing hangouts. He's magic like that. Also, dude knows people and theater and food. He'll hook you up. And make you feel good too.”
Mollena gave me: Friends In Real Life
Awarded Jan 31, 2010
“This dood is the bomb. I will vouch for everything in his profile, add that he and his wife are among the most upstanding and responsible and caring people I've seen do an open relationship thang. Nothin' but love!” (this one was from a time when I was still in a primary relationship!)
GreatKate73 gave me: Makes Me Laugh
Awarded Feb 9, 2010
“I know cjbrown13 IRL and he always makes me giggle. He's a super great person and an above average friend. :)”
indrigirl2 gave me: Friends In Real Life
Awarded Apr 21, 2011
“He's all that and a side of fries; charming, smart, funny, compassionate, and a most excellent actor. Go ahead, message him!”
I love Chabon and Eggers too.
I have read a few Murakamis and liked them a lot. He's the japanese Jonathan Carroll. Or Carroll is the American Murakami.
I love Heist Movies in general. I love all movies in general. Love them. Love to watch them. Discuss them. Oddly, I don't usually like to watch movies more than once, with many exceptions.
I've never seen Gone With the Wind.
Like much of modern society, I am now watching series after the fact on DVD and Netflix. Carnivale, Deadwood, BSG, Alias. Loved Arrested Development, plus the bonus season. Guilty pleasure is/are FBI procedurals like Numbers and Criminal Minds and The Blacklist.
Jon Stewart and Stephen Colbert. Those two guys might just save our country.
Musically I am all over the place from Bob Wills to Outkast to Melissa Etheridge to Neutral Milk Hotel to the Gluey Brothers to Mountain Goats to Prophets of Rage to Squeeze to Digital Underground to Belle and Sebastian to Erik Satie to Elvis Costello to old REM to Dar Williams to Ozomatli to Big Band Jazz to funky 70's shit to whatever...Lately enjoying recommendations of local conscious hip-hop.
I love NPR, especially This American Life and Snap Judgement. I love The Moth Podcast. Fresh Air often. Wait Wait Don't Tell Me most of the time. Risk Podcast. Any storytelling podcast.
Food, wow, don't get me started. I love food of all kinds, types, and origins. Cooking it and eating it. Though I sadly can't eat Indian food or Jalapenos. Green Chile Enchiladas from New Mexico are my obsession, being a New Mexican expat. I was a vegetarian for 15 years but I returned to omnivorism about 8 years ago. I try to eat organic and local as much as possible.
White, straight (seeming), middle class, male privilege. How to wield it for good. BTW, if you respond to Black Lives Matter with "but ALL lives matter!" we're probably going to have some issues. Read a little.
How to get more creative passion flowing in myself.
If they still like me.
Consent. I'm kinda obsessed with this conversation.
Whether I am doing something the "right way"
How to get a regular game night together with friends or strangers.
I have a weakness for cute pale redheads. They can pretty much order me around. I am powerless. But I am definitely not exclusive in my attraction, that's just one of my weaknesses.
I originally left this out of my profile but it has become a more consistent conversation in my daily life I am addressing it here as well. My blood tests positive for HSV2 (herpes.) I know the signs of an impending outbreak, I know how to take the most precautions, and I have not passed it on to any of my partners. I am on suppressive anti-virals and haven't had any kind of outbreak in about two years. I love condoms. Prefer them in fact! One in four people are believed to have this. The main difference between me and a significant portion of the population is that I know I have it and take precautions. Because of this I always disclose it to potential partners and now to you as well. Please feel free to ask me any questions. I have yet to figure it all out, but as I am quickly becoming an educator on the subject, I welcome all inquiries, they help me learn more myself.
I recently read this fascinating article on the subject...http://projectaccept.org/straight-dope-herpes-statistics/
AND THIS! So good.
(note: you do not have to fit all of the criteria, they are just suggestions!)
You work odd hours and would like to have a playmate to fill your other odd hours...like me.
You like to play. (Take this as innocently or as naughtily as you want to)
You want to invite me to your already existing game night.
You think we might hit it off.
You want to have an online or offline flirtation.
You are looking for amazing connection (varying degrees of commitment are welcome) but not for marriage and babies.
You want a ping-pong or racquetball partner and have access to either of those games.