cjholland
62 San Rafael, United States
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My self-summary
July 2016 -
Epiphany number two: As a twenty-one year old, I fell in love as a result of (mostly) the biological imperative of wishing to create a beautiful family. That was a success because that family was created and still exists, I am happy to report. The relationship between myself and the father of my children is still one of love, but that love is that of two people who have known each other well for many, many years and know that we cannot successfully live with each other. (thus the divorce). What I realized after communicating with another OKC person, was that the person I seek know to (hopefully) spend the rest of my life with, is someone who I will love based not only on kissable lips, expressive eyes and strong arms, but someone who offers the world more than he takes. That, to me, is such an important idea. It is what I wish for myself and something that I find as attractive, if not more, than those utterly kissable lips.
March 2016 -
I have had an epiphany - that all elusive spark, the chemistry that seekers of romance are on the lookout for may, just may, be buried in all of the frenzied, cool, buzzed out world of technology we are currently moving around in. Maybe those embers we hope will be nurtured into flame and that oh so special feeling that is shared between two people are actually being smothered by bandwidth, virtual banter and online game playing. So, does that mean we cannot find that special someone on OKCupid? I don't know the answer, but wonder what other people think about the idea.

August 2015 Update:
Feel free to contact me if you wish to meet someone else who is also looking for a wonderful partnership.

I have come to the conclusion that seeking perfection, in myself or others, is not only a thankless task but it is a waste of energy. So, from today on, I am determined to appreciate the incremental joys and observe as much as possible, what works and what doesn't.

I am kind, compassionate, and honest and that pretty much summarizes it!
What I’m doing with my life
Currently working full time as an accountant which has been my career for 30 years. Taking the time to seriously assess where I am and where I would like to go from here.
I’m really good at
Appreciation. I appreciate people for who they are as a whole. I understand, actually KNOW that many of the very qualities that one admires in an individual are often the very qualities that in different circumstances are guaranteed to make you cringe. Those aspects are part and parcel of who that person is and cherry-picking the things you like about someone and attempting to discard the things you dislike is not only not possible, but it is destructive. If you truly like someone, they come as a bundled package and substitutions are not available. That's what I believe, in any case.

Enjoying creativity. I love art, colors, textures. Music: classical guitar, classical period. Rock n' roll - Beatles, Paul McCartney, Sting, Los Lonely Boys, Rolling Stones. Motown in all its glory, Jazz - Dave Brubeck. Swing - Frank Sinatra and currently Michael Buble but open to listening to new sounds, as long as they are created by people as opposed to machines.

Listening and talking in equal measure - in other words, sharing a conversation.
The first things people usually notice about me
I couldn't tell you, because I have never asked.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: The Source - James Michener; The Power of One - Bryce Courtney; Mr. Penumbra's 24 Hour Bookstore - Robin Sloan (That's just a sample, because I love, love, love to read and I really don't have "favorites")

Movies: They Way We Were, Defiance, A Hard Day's Night, Out of Africa, Cool Hand Luke, Robin and Marian, Citizen 4 (again same as above on the favorites thing)

See above in "I am really good at"

Food: As a vegetarian, I enjoy just about any vegetable, fruit or whole grain prepared with a light hand in seasoning and less rather than more cooking.
The six things I could never do without
My children, my animals, music, books, art and my heart.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What I have learned in the past to improve on my future. What I am trying to do is live right now fully, utilising what I have learned so far. How can I contribute so that, at the end of the day, I have given more than I have used up...
On a typical Friday night I am
At home reading, watching a movie on pay per view or taking in some live, local music with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Seriously?
You should message me if
You wish to start a new adventure.
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