58 Nashville, United States
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My self-summary
Professional, single, spiritually grounded guy with the ultimate desire for a committed monogamous relationship. I'm healthy, HIV-, in shape. Intellectual pursuits, desire to make the world a better place, and a commitment to personal responsibility rank high on my desirability scale, as does the ability to observe one's own action, make course corrections, and do so with compassion and sensitivity to others. Usually attracted to guys 30-40, but can sometimes be surprised by older guys. And just so you know, its going to start with coffee and a conversation, an old fashion get to know you date.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm wearing two hats right now and they both fit well. I serve part time as the Minister of Pastoral Care at a Lutheran parish (I've been ordained for many years). I also have a private practice as a state licensed psychotherapist working with individuals and couples, gay and straight. One of my interests is hypnotherapy which I use as a modality in my work. I practice from a depth psychology/spiritual perspective and love being able to effectively serve those who see me. My holistic approach also considers diet, rest, mindfulness, and exercise -- all crucial spheres in healing and wellbeing.
I’m really good at
Public speaking at the drop of a hat, staying calm in a crisis, making a cozy dinner for 4-6, helping people feel comfortable and calm, building consensus in a group, singing -- Broadway to chant, celebrating the gifts of others.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm often told that I have a very calming effect on people.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Movie - Dead Poets' Society
Book - Hmmm...come visit my library, climb the ladder, I'll tell you about a host that I've enjoyed for different reasons, mostly non-fiction works.
Shows -- Wicked; I've seen it 3 times
Food -- BBQ Ribs (though I don't eat it often), Salmon, Lamb
The six things I could never do without
Dark Chocolate
My closest friends/confidants/confessors
God beyond all defining, even while I believe in the Trinity (yah, ask me about that one!)
Exercise -- 5x a week
Visualization (We believe, behave, become)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Building my practice
Growing in knowledge
Metaphysical/theological/science issues
OK...and maybe just a bit more recently about meeting Mr. Right
On a typical Friday night I am
Too often at home, though I enjoy my company and that of my dog. But, I'm looking forward to someone special to be with -- in or out.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm really quite open, but usually one on one. Got a question? Ask person! ;>)
You should message me if
You've read my profile and think we might truly be a match. I'll admit, if it looks good on paper, but there is no physical attraction, I'll politely decline, just as I would expect you would. And please, don't say you are interested (which I do not take as a marriage proposal, but as a desire to communicate and find out if we might be a match) and then just disappear before a conversation; that's really annoying ;>)