66Santa Rosa, United States
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My self-summary
I am 5 feet, 8 1/2 inches tall; 145 lbs; and in good health. Am in the personal growth business, and have spent the past 40 years working on my own healing and growth. So, I'd love to find a mate similarly interested in personal transformation--and who wants to share the journey.

Have identified as a "Bu-Jew" (born Jewish, practicing Buddhism) for the past 7 years. I've recently found resonance with a local Zen community and am pleasantly surprised how much I am enjoying koan practice. Meditation is a key part of my life, and it would be a blessing to share with a partner.

I play electric & acoustic guitar (well); sing (passably); dance (swing, Contra, rock & roll); and enjoy listening to jazz. Am refreshed by being in Nature and like to walk--whether at Howarth Park or just around town. I enjoy cooking & my charcoal grill (mainly organic); good conversation; and laughter. I like a good video (have a cool home theater set-up), especially if cuddling is included. I work out regularly and like to stay physically active (tennis anyone?).

Looking to meet someone who enjoys the practice of being present...who can share her inner life and appreciate mine...and who can embrace conflict as an opportunity to grow. Hoping she finds humor in life and human gentle with herself and others...appreciates beauty and the passionate and affectionate...and will go with me to places where neither of us have gone before!
What I’m doing with my life
At present, I am adjusting to a new job: working 3 - 4 days a week at a residential treatment program for substance abusers. So, I am immersed in learning Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, and all the politics of my organization and the wider community. Am also enjoying learning how to play jazz guitar and improving my ballroom dancing.
I’m really good at
Public Speaking (have won 16 speech contests); writing (handful of published articles); playing music; and cooking (e.g, high protein, no-flour banana-pineapple-blueberry pancakes).
The first things people usually notice about me
Penetrating, deep-set eyes; active mind; enthusiasm.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Siddhartha, Wishcraft, Gestalt Therapy; Citizen Kane, Good Will Hunting, As Good as It Gets; Billions; Jazz, blues & rock; Thai, French, Indian, Vietnamese.
Six things I could never do without
Good friends; interesting work; something to learn; healthy food; coffee & chai (make my own); physical activity & rest.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My career; almost anything related to personal growth and spirituality; friendships & intimacy; how to have more fun in my life!
On a typical Friday night I am
No such thing as a "typical Friday night."
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm not as "self-contained" as I appear to be.
You should message me if
If you feel a resonance with what I've written and are drawn to connect.
The two of us