62Hayward, United States
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My self-summary
A couple of religion salespeople came to my door recently and asked "Do you ever think about the purpose of your life?". Just as I closed the door I thought: Yes. My purpose is to experience as much joy as possible, create as much joy as possible, and give as much joy as possible. And that's it. Well, I can't say exactly what joy is but I know it when I see it and I know what it's not. I also know that there can be no harm in it except to those who put
up resistance to it. What about LovE you say? Love is wonderful but I have found that you can't make yourself or anyone else love. You can create the conditions, joy being one of them but no guarantee. That doesn't make love less important. It still is the most important thing in life but you have to protect it and nurture it. Even then...

I guess I'm a late bloomer and this stuff is obvious to everybody, but that's where I am. I am losing ego and just about all the fear, shame, need that goes with it. I have not 'become Zen'. I have all my feelings for sure, they just don't have me. I'm hoping there are lots of adults like me because it means a lot of new experiences ahead that I hope to enjoy with them.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm living it again and it's good. Feel the need to enjoy doing or discovering each day. I feel kinship with folks who say they are on a journey although I don't have a sense that I have a destiny. I do need to recharge regularly, and that means fun, joy, pleasure, love. All the good stuff. That's where I need the right partner because maybe that's the real stuff.
I’m really good at
Lie detection. Not Judge-Judy-arrogant-"I see right through you"-, though I do have a good b.s. detector too. I just have a knack for picking up 'tells'. It takes a certain amount of time for each person.
The first things people usually notice about me
They I am there?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
The Power of Now..
All kinds of music that has passion.
Comedies, drama that's positive
Working my way through every TEDtalk ever recorded
Six things I could never do without
Same as everyone
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to have more fun
On a typical Friday night I am
Disliking the fact that it's typical
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Right here? OK,ummm....Coastallite is not my real name.
You should message me if
You want to chat. You want to know if I'm better looking than my pictures. You are wondering what the heck is wrong with me. You are trying to return money you owe me.
The two of us