combray1984
61Brooklyn, United States
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My self-summary
Creative, sensitive, simpatico, affectionate, sensual, gentle, demonstrative, fit, unpretentious intellectual, 5'7" 172 lbs., 60, good company and possessing a sense of humor, seeks warm, intelligent, cultivated, attractive boon companion, 47–57, to share my life and interests, and in whose life and interests I would like to share. I am a writer and editor and not insufferable Francophile (I own a studio apartment minutes from the Mediterranean in the south of France) fond of the visual arts, literature, the cinema, classical and serious contemporary music, jazz, world music, and foreign language/culture. I'm also a newcomer to dance and on the board of a small Brooklyn-based dance company. I’d like my match to be emotionally available and physically affectionate. My politics are to the left of liberal; if there were such a party in the U.S., I’d likely be a Social Democrat. It goes without saying I’d have a hard time with a Republican, let alone a fan of the Orange Julius. . . . "Only connect." . . . "Comme la vie est lente / Et comme l'espérance est violente." (No photo, no response; it's only fair.)
What I’m doing with my life
I'm trying ever so hard not to live it to the fullest. It just wears me out.
I’m really good at
I'm good with words, spoken or written. I also do a wicked imitation of Flipper.
The first things people usually notice about me
are my deformities. ... Geez, I don't know, I've never asked anyone, and I don't think about it all that much. A friend once referred to me as a "decent guy," but I doubt that's apparent at first blush.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Let's talk current—my favorites are legion. Recent reads:

Martha Nussbaum: "Objectification"; Edward Said: introduction to the 50th anniversary edition of Erich Auerbach's "Mimesis"; Ian McEwan: "Amsterdam"; Mark Haddon: "The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time"; George Orwell: "Homage to Catalonia"; Erich Heller: "The Importance of Nietzsche: Ten Essays": Marguerite Yourcenar: "Mémoires d'Hadrien"; Erich Auerbach: "Mimesis: The Representation of Reality in Western Literature"; Claudia Rankine: "Citizen: An American Lyric," "Don't Let Me Be Lonely: An American Lyric"; Margaret MacMillan: "Paris 1919: Six Months that Changed the World" and "The War That Ended Peace: The Road to 1914"; Olivier Roy: "En quête de l'Orient perdu"; Frantz Fanon: "Algeria Unveiled"; Tahar ben Jelloun: "Cette aveuglante absence de lumière" et "La nuit sacrée" (This Blinding Absence of Light and The Sacred Night); C. P. Cavafy: "Collected Poems," trans. Daniel Mendelsohn; Irène Némirovsky: "Suite française"; Stéphane Hessel: "Indignez-Vous"; Edouard Levé: "Suicide"; Alex Ross: "The Rest Is Noise: Listening to the Music of the Twentieth Century," "Listen to This"; Graham Greene: "The Third Man"; Gilles Deleuze: "Negotiations"; Stendhal: "La chartreuse de Parme"; Elaine Pagels: "Revelation: Visions, Prophecy, and Politics in the Book of Revelation"; John Pope-Hennessy: "The Piero Della Francesca Trail"; Sarah Bakewell: "How to Live: or, A Life of Montaigne in One Question and Twenty-One Attempts at an Answer"; Jared Diamond: "Guns, Germs, and Steel: The Fates of Human Societies" and "Collapse: How Societies Choose to Fail or Succeed"; Rebecca Rischin: "For the End of Time: The Story of the Messiaen Quartet"; Metropolitan Museum, "Velazquez Rediscovered"; Seamus Heaney, trans.: "Beowulf"; Metropolitan Museum: Walter Liedtke, " 'The Milkmaid,' by Johannes Vermeer"; Holly Flora: "Cimabue and Early Italian Devotional Painting"; Metropolitan Museum: "Antonella da Messina: Sicily's Renaissance Master"; Reinhard Steiner, "Egon Schiele, 1890–1918: The Midnight Soul of the Artist"; Samuel Beckett: "Worstward Ho!"; James Shapiro: "A Year in the Life of William Shakespeare: 1599"; F. Robert Rodman, M.D.: "Winnicott: Life and Work"; Manuel de Landa: "A Thousand Years of Nonlinear History"; Emile Zola: "L'Argent," "Thérèse Raquin," "L'Assommoir" et "Germinal"; David Harvey: "Paris: Capital of Modernity," "The Condition of Postmodernity," and "A Brief History of Neoliberalism"; Dario Fo: "Accidental Death of an Anarchist"; Marguerite Duras: "Hiroshima mon amour" (screenplay to Alain Resnais's film of same title); Louis-Ferdinand Céline: "Voyage au bout de la nuit"; Mark Rothko: "Writings on Art"; Charles Nicholl: "The Reckoning: The Murder of Christopher Marlowe"; Guy de Maupassant: "Bel-Ami," "Yvette," "La maison Tellier," "Le horla," et "Pierre et Jean"; Georges Simenon: "La chambre bleue"; Beaumarchais: "Le barbier de Seville" and "Le mariage de Figaro"; Edward P. Jones: "All Aunt Hagar's Children," "The Known World"; Maynard Solomon: "Beethoven," "Mozart: A Life"; Patrick Modiano: "Rue des boutiques obscures"; J. M. Coetzee: "Elizabeth Costello"; Ann Patchett: "Bel Canto"; Peter Taylor: "In the Tennessee Country" and "The Old Forest and Other Stories"; Kamel Daoud: "Meursault: Contre-Enquête"; Gérard de Nerval: "Sylvie"; Anne Carson: "Nox";

Now working on: London Review of Books; E. M. Forster: "Howards End"; Patrick Modiano: "La ronde de nuit"; Søren Kierkegaard: "Fear and Trembling"

Next up: Maupassant: "Une Vie"; Emmanuel Levinas: "Alterity and Transcendence"; Martha Nussbaum: "Love's Knowledge"; Friedrich Nietzsche: "The Birth of Tragedy," "The Case of Wagner," "Also sprach Zarathustra," and "Ecce Homo"; Walter Kaufmann: "Nietzsche: Philosopher, Psychologist, Antichrist"; Le Roy Ladurie: "Montaillou" and "The Peasants of Languedoc"; Eric Auerbach: "Dante: Poet of the Secular World"; Marguerite Duras: "L'Amant" et "L'Amant de Chine"; Patrick Modiano: "Dans le café de la jeunesse perdue" et "Les boulevards de ceinture"; Tahar ben Jelloun: "La nuit de l'erreur"; Guy de Maupassant: "Boules de Suif" et "Contes du jour et de la nuit"; "Walter Friedlander: "David to Delacroix"; Roland Barthes: "Mythologies"; Emile Zola: "Au bonheur des dames"; Charles Baudelaire: "Salon de 1846"; Honoré de Balzac: "Illusions Perdues" et "La Duchesse de Langeais"; Jameson: "Postmodernism, or, The Cultural Logic of Late Capitalism," "The Political Unconscious: Narrative as a Socially Symbolic Act"; José Saramago: "The Double" and "Blindness"; Susan Sontag: "Regarding the Pain of Others" and "Against Interpretation and Other Essays"; Italo Svevo: "Zeno's Conscience"; ALberto Moravia: "The Conformist"; Di Lampedusa: "The Leopard"; Lawrence Rainey, ed.: "The Annotated Waste Land, with Eliot's Contemporary Prose"; Robert Alter, trans.: Genesis; Jean-Pierre Dupuy: "The Mark of the Sacred"; Suzanne R. Hudson: "Robert Ryman: "Used Paint"; Roberto Bolaño: "The Savage Detectives" and "2666: A Novel"; Gilles Deleuze and Felix Guattari: "Anti-Oedipus: Capitalism and Schizophrenia"; E. M. Forster: "A Room with a View," "A Passage to India"; Ralph Waldo Emerson: "Essays: First and Second Series";

Now on my iPod/stereo:

Pärt: "Passio," "Te Deum," "Litany"; Masses by Ockeghem, Byrd, DuFay, Palestrina, Victoria; motets and chansons by Josquin Desprez

Cinema:

"El abrazo de la serpiente" (Embrace of the Serpent); "Francofonia"; "Vita Activa: The Spirit of Hannah Arendt"; "Eva Hesse"; "Under the Sun"; "Hieronymous Bosch: Touched by the Devil"; "Toni Erdmann"; "Paterson"; "L'Avenir" (Things to Come); "I Am Not Your Negro"; "Son of Saul"; "Carol"; "Frantz""Tampopo": "A Room with a View"; "Howards End"; "The Leopard"; "Tree of Wooden Clogs"; "Padre, Padrone"; "Water"; "I've Loved You So Long"; "The Discreet Charm of the Bourgeoisie"; "Belle du Jour"; "Belle Toujours"; "The Wages of Fear"; "The Return of Martin Guerre"; "Mr. Hulot's Holiday"; "Gabrielle"; "Aguirre, Wrath of God"; "Some Like It Hot"; "A Walk on the Moon": "The Marriage of Maria Braun"; "Ali: Fear Eats the Soul"; "Downfall"; "Run Lola Run"; "The White Ribbon"; "Hidden"; "Into Great Silence"; "Mouchette"; "Diary of a Country Priest"; "The 400 Blows"; "Stolen Kisses";"Mississippi Mermaid"; "Day for Night"; "The Woman Next Door"; "The Lives of Others"; "Three Colors: Red, White, and Blue"; "Dekalog"; "Être et avoir"; "Tous les matins du monde"; "House of Sand and Fog"; "The Music Room"; "The Apu Trilogy"; "The Promise"; "The Child"; "The Son"; "A Boy with a Bike"; "Jean de Florette"; "Manon of the Spring"; "Army of Shadows"; "Autumn Sonata"; "Scenes from a Marriage"; "The Magic Flute"; "Saraband"; "The Tall Blond Man with One Black Shoe"; "Amarcord"; "Mafioso"; "Gomorra"; "The Conformist"; "Red Desert"; "L'Avventura"; "La Notte"; "The Passenger"; "Illustrious Corpses"; "On the Waterfront"; "The Battle of Algiers"; "The Mill and the Cross"; "The Dead"; "Bringing Up Baby"; "His Girl Friday"; "Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf?"; "Gloria" (with Gena Rowlands); "Woman under the Influence"; "Streetcar Named Desire"; "On the Waterfront"; "Children of Men"; "Pan's Labyrinth"; "Nights of Cabiria"; "The Garden of the Finzi-Continis"; "Old Joy"; "Away from Her"; "The Sweet Hereafter"; "You Can Count on Me"; "Trainspotting": "Naked"; "Topsy-Turvy"; "Secrets and Lies"; "Happy-Go-Lucky"; "The WInd that Shakes the Barley"; "I, Daniel Blake"; "The Thin Blue Line"; "The Fog of War"; "The Quiet American"; "My Architect"; "Gerhard Richter Painting"; "Mysteries of Lisbon"; "In the Mood for Love"; "Nine Queens"; "Maria Full of Grace"; "Alamar"; "Talk to Her"; "All About My Mother"; "A Separation"; "The Artist Is Present"; "Amour"; "Populaire"; "Tu seras mon fils"; "Gloria" (Chile, 2014); "The Invisible Woman"; "Maborosi"; "Seven Samurai"; "Rashomon": "Dreams"; "Ran"; "Kagemusha"; "Tokyo Story"; "Floating Weeds"; Early Summer"; "Late Spring"; "Leviathan"; "Bamako"; "Timbuktu"; "Ida"; "Far from the Madding Crowd"; "Rocco and His Brothers"

Food:

Italian, Japanese, French, Chinese, Thai, and other ethnic cuisines. I have learned quite a lot about wine over the years, and though I can't say I qualify as a connoisseur, I know what I like.

TV:

I turned in my cable box a while back.
Six things I could never do without
There are very few "things" I could live without, but my life would be much diminished by the absence of art, books, inner life, ardor, imagination, and music. And I would be loath to give up my ideals and integrity.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
art and aesthetics, income inequality, social justice, politics, ideas, our planet, the nightmare of psoriasis (I don't have it)
On a typical Friday night I am
a great date.
You should message me if
you think there's a good chance of connecting.

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