controversyatx
34 Oslo, Norway
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My self-summary
***Note: I'll be in Europe (primarily Scandinavia) for much of the summer, so to those Europeans who receive messages from me, I'm simply hoping to make friends to meet up with along my travels***

First and foremost, I'm a curious person. I want to know more about everything. Isn't life complicated and strange? I'd love to have several lifetimes. I want to go everywhere, try everything, see everything, taste everything, smell everything, feel everything; even the bad. I don't know what I want until I know that I have it. If you're looking to get serious with someone, that's really cool. Maybe I'll be that guy, but I'm not looking for anything in particular. I want to keep learning and discovering and the things that stick will hopefully be things that are best for me. I have faith in you and in me because I have faith in all of us.

I'm a silly, curious, confident, weird, passionate, feministic, Buddhistic, empathetic, non-judgmental, slightly-extroverted person.

ENFP and 2w3 SO/SX, yo.

"Then she sat as if paralysed, thinking. She had never in her life felt such a longing. She wanted Mikael Blomkvist to ring the doorbell and ... what then? Lift her off the ground, hold her in his arms? Passionately take her into the bedroom and tear off her clothes? No, she really just wanted his company. She wanted to hear him say that he liked her for who she was. That she was someone special in his world and in his life. She wanted him to give her some gesture of love, not just of friendship and companionship. I'm flipping out, she thought." - from Stieg Larsson's "The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo"

Look — (yeah, that's an em dash; who's pretentious? Me? Haha, well...) it's not that I think that Larsson's a poet or something, but this is a conception of love that I can get behind; it's not far from how I might think of it. I feel you jackasses judging me, okay? I'm very intuitive.

If you want someone else's very biased perspective on me, my best friend is ChristiComplex, and we hang out everyday. She's really great.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm finishing up my undergrad at UNC. I'm currently pursuing a bachelor's degree in economics, and after that, the plan is to pursue a PhD. Maybe I'll be a professor of public policy or a journalist or run a non-profit.

Also, I write, and I make music (mostly, this is just instrumental stuff I've made; but there exist things with [mine and/or others'] vocals, too). I'm working on a novel.
I’m really good at
...empathizing, reasoning, writing, math, singing, dancing, listening, understanding ideas and feelings, asking questions, making people feel comfortable, making people feel uncomfortable.

At times, I have a snarky sense of humor and/or feign outrage. People love it!
The first things people usually notice about me
I dress in old man shirts and wear nerdy glasses.

I'm not a judgmental person, and maybe that helps people feel that they can open up to me. I like when people feel this way.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Five of each (not necessarily my favorites; just what quickly came to mind):

Fiction: Siddhartha, Lolita, The Pearl, A Catcher in the Rye, 1984.

Non-fiction: The Status Syndrome; Twilight of the Elites; Independence, Propertylessness, and Basic Income; Development as Freedom; Freakonomics.

Also, I'm into poetry, but listing poetry books seems unnecessary. Just know that I like poetry (I even write some).

Film: Flirting, La Dolce Vita, The Holy Mountain, The Seven Samurai, It's a Wonderful Life.

TV Shows: House of Cards, Parenthood, Mad Men, Real Time with Bill Maher, Eastbound and Down.

Music: James Blake, Stevie Wonder, Radiohead, James Taylor, Mac DeMarco.

Food: Arabic, Mexican, Korean, Italian, Japanese.

I also want to use this space to say that I have a special affinity for Slavoj Zizek. I don't agree with everything he says, but I find him entertaining and he gives me ideas. I like that. Marx, Hegel, Nietzsche, Mills, Sartre, Camus, and Chomsky are cool. I'm also a fan of Marshall Rosenberg. Also, I'm a fan of Hannibal Buress, Louis C. K., Lewis Black, George Carlin, and Chris Rock.
The six things I could never do without
This is the worst section in the profile, and I feel like any profile can be significantly better if this section isn't properly filled. I read some profiles and think to myself, "this is a great profile!" Then, I get to the "six things" section, and I'm like, "ugh, this is boring/stupid/blehhhhhhh, and this person is the worst person; I would never date them because this section of their profile makes me goddamn angry." So I feel that I gain advantage by not filling out this shitty part. Why do they insist on keeping this section? Does anyone even like this section? It's weird that they still want us to do this!

lolsorrybutnotreallysorry
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Minds, emotions, my daughter and how cute and sweet she is (but to be clear, you'll likely never meet her; I'm picky about who meets her; I wouldn't want my miscreant friends corrupting the lovely little lady), what the pertinent thing is in the moment, how to solve poverty, bills.

Social justice is important to me, and I'm interested in finding ways to make the world better for the most vulnerable among us. I'm interested in creative things. I'm interested in what the best ways of interacting are and what the most-effective ways of pursuing productive, happy lives are. I sometimes meditate and I'm interested in soaking up Eastern and Western philosophical thought. I like to read. I like to play outside.

Also, things like, "I think that 'vegetables' should really be spelled and pronounced, 'vegedibles,'" and, "'snot rocket' rhymes with 'hot pocket.'"
On a typical Friday night I am
writing, reading, drinking, dancing, sexing, sleeping, TV-ing, movie-ing, music-ing, creating, destroying, meandering, marauding, pooping, eating, paying bills, and/or other thing(s).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Although I'm not interested in rushing into a committed relationship, I'm unenthusiastic about having emotionless sex; I'd mostly rather avoid it, really. I think that I can have great sex can with someone I like each and care about. Otherwise, ehh...
You should message me if
...you think that there's a pretty good chance that it might be fucking awesome if we meet, if something in my profile resonates with you, or if you just feel very inclined to. I usually don't bite until you feel safe with me. Muahahahaha

Also, I'm getting into Myers-Briggs and Enneagram, as my profile, toward the beginning, alludes to. If you're into these, I'd like to hear from you, especially if you're familiar with the Instinctual Variants.
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