62 Oakland, United States
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My self-summary
I’m a tall, slender fellow with many interests, possibly too many... I love music and am a classical music singer very active in a chamber chorus. But I also love soul, funk, rock and many other genres, and am in a mostly a cappella Americana trio. I’m always up for a trip to a museum, play, movie, performance...and the odd roadside attraction: went to the Serpentarium in Lodi, a sort of a store/museum for reptiles and tarantulas, highly recommended.

Bookswise, I've just finished Don DeLillo's Zero K, a great read and very odd. Amy Bloom's latest, Lucky Us, is terrific. I've also been enjoying the poetry of Ted Kooser.

I try to make time to read the New York Times daily; fave sections are Science on Tuesday, Food on Wednesday and Arts on Friday. I also get The New Yorker and The Nation and wish I had more time for them. I'm slowly transitioning to reading everything on a tablet but resistant to giving up the shareability of physical newspapers.

Other interests? Gardening - I have a big yard out front full of drought-tolerant plants and a reasonable-sized vegetable garden out back. What should I do with rhubarb? I tried canning it but it came out like pickled toothpicks.

Food: good coffee, beer, wine, and cuisines of every stripe, dining in or out. I enjoy cooking but I’m not a natural - I have to stick to the recipe. I love occasionally throwing a big party and spending the day in the kitchen.

The American Southwest is a favorite travel spot and this summer I camped in the Lost Coast of Nor Cal with its lush forests and black sand beach. I’d be happy to go back to Italy or Spain. Pets: I have a little dog who is a total lover and likes to lick toes. The Dale Carnegie of dogs.

What am I like? That’s a bit harder…I like being quiet and thoughtful at times but I can also rise to life-of-the-party. My humor can be wry, sometimes off-the-wall but not generally offensive. Silly for sure – it just bubbles out. I’m a good listener, sometimes wise, sometimes too trusting – the price of not having your guard up all the time. I have a big laugh that’s pretty recognizable so I don’t need to be microchipped. I like a hike in the hills or the City but am very happy cozied up in front of the fire or TV.

I like to eat well and stay fit with vigorous dog walks in the hills and workouts in my home gym. It helps in keeping up with the young’uns on the dance floor.

I feel uncomfortable saying ‘I’ so much. Aye.
What I’m doing with my life
Working at a great university job in IT. It’s a mite nerdy at times but I work with a great crew of fun-loving people who are also serious about the mission of education.

Changing lives through music. Imparting ecstasy, grief, joy.

Learning to love, a lifelong project.
I’m really good at
Baritone arias. Doing the chicken dance. Cocking an ear. Reading a recipe and getting myself into a pickle. Revisiting the hardware store. Wondering if that's a weed.
The first things people usually notice about me
My curly mop. Or my laugh; it travels.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
In addition to all the above, I like a good epic from time to time. A fave novel is Don Delillo’s Underworld. Britten's War Requiem, performed by the SF Symphony in 2013, was glorious and a high point of the decade so far. Brahms, Poulenc, Betty Carter, Thelonious Monk, George Clinton, the Isleys, Temptations, Ry Cooder, Gillian Welch are all heroes, and of course Prince and Bowie. A favorite old movie is Children of Paradise and every ten years or so I watch Harold and Maude.

My tastes can be high- or low-brow but in books and shows I tend to be more particular. For books it may be because I'm a slow reader and hate to waste my time on fluff. I prefer plays to Broadway shows although this summer I saw the The Wiz for the first time and loved it.
The six things I could never do without
Noise and silence.
Clear winter days; hot summers.
Thought, and its absence.
Whatever part of my body that can still tap its foot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Friends and family.
The fate of this old earth.
My dog. I’m besotted.
On a typical Friday night I am
Walking, singing, dancing, gazing, thinking, drinking.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Every Xmas I read A Child’s Christmas in Wales by Dylan Thomas and Dinah the Christmas Whore by David Sedaris. And I’m still in love with Emma Peel.
You should message me if
You like what you see and your dance card is free. Or your weed-pulling skills are going fallow and you really need to donate some time to keep your hand in.