"it was a pleasure talking to you - u seem like a really nice guy that has been shit on one too many times" -my friend's wife
"You're one of the last decent men" -a girl I used to date
I am the best boyfriend you've never had.
***I have given up on dating as it's merely a torture mechanism if you're a straight man who's introverted, feminist, doesn't drink, and autistic. I'll answer your email (like women ever approach men first--HAHAHAHAHA!!), but I don't check this site anymore. I've had my fill of rejections, lead ons, being ignored, and serving as the butt of unhinged abuse. If the government finally steps in and matches us up with potential partners, I'll throw my hat back in the ring.***
I love to laugh and share laughs with others--a few people have said I should write for The Onion, and I've penned some articles that were mistaken for Onion stories. I'm a great writer; I did an essay in college that's in an undergraduate textbook now. (and that I got paid for!)
I've always played by my own rules, and the world I want to live in differs radically from the one we have. For example, I strongly support a guaranteed basic income for all, an economy based on happiness rather than money and GDP, and a political system based on inclusion, social justice, and minimizing human suffering (instead of our current insistence on maximizing both the number of people suffering and the depths of that suffering). I'm a political junkie and have been involved with politics and activism most of my life. I spent 6 years in Washington, DC working for two senators and two non-profits. I went to McGill for a master's in urban planning but dropped out. After living in 7 places, I came back to Seattle, for good.
I'm an introvert (INTJ) and an Aspie. Ethnically, I'm Jewish, but as the great (and still alive!) Tom Lehrer said, my Judaism has more to do with the delicatessen than the synagogue. I've been an atheist since 16.
I think silliness and playfulness are underrated, and "maturity" is usually mis-defined. If you think "work hard, play hard" is a good non-trite philosophy, I'm not your guy. I'm closer to "play fun, sleep hard."
Honesty is important to me, and I have little tolerance for hypocrisy. I tend to be a rational/analytical thinker--I have a need for things to make sense. So I ask a lot of questions, and I *love* good, long conversations.
No one can ever remember where I'm from. Apparently my looks are generically ethnic; everyone thinks I'm from a country I'm not. I'm random and quirky, and have an endless memory for useless trivia.
What's important to me in the long run is to do something where I make positive moral contributions to the world. But that can take many forms, and I think Helen Caldecott is right when she says there are lifetimes within lifetimes. Whatever my work is, I enjoy just getting out to do fun things and meet new people. I'm exploring various interests; I took glassblowing and ASL classes, and I want to do more (Spanish, comedy, cooking, pottery, filmmaking, music lessons--I really miss making music and wish I could play jazz flute). Can't do everything at once though.
According to the newsletter of a non-profit I volunteered for, my unassuming manner. :)
And...according to a Metro bus driver, I look exactly like a telephone pole on Westlake Ave. :/
Movies: Monty Python, UHF, Blazing Saddles, Young Frankenstein, Crumb, Ghost World, Annie Hall, The Candidate, My Dinner with Andre, Harold and Maude, The Conversation, White, Red, The Graduate, Michael Moores', Bulworth, The Corporation, The Edukators, Lenny, Tootsie, Clerks II, Lars and the Real Girl, Speed 3: Intermittent Wipers
Music: I grew up with 50s and 60s oldies in the 80s, and since high school my home genre has been classic rock, largely from the 70s. Now I'm more into jazz. I don't really like much popular music from the last 25 years; I probably won't know your favorite songs or groups. My last concert was Weird Al Yankovic--and it rocked! I think rock and roll is lamentably dead, killed in part by music videos and the bastardization of radio. I like folk, some classical, comedy/parody, art/progressive rock, jazz-rock fusion, ambient/experimental stuff, world, electronica, and "space music" like you hear on Hearts of Space and Echoes. Not into rap, hippity-hoppity, punk, or metal. Louder does not mean better. I don't believe people who claim to like everything.
Food: pretty much all kinds, except I've never liked many vegetables. I love onions--aren't they quintessentially Jewish? I rarely eat red meat. France has the food groups right: bread, wine, cheese, and chocolate.
TV: I watch little TV, but I'm a big fan of Family Guy, Last Week Tonight, and Craig Ferguson. Archer and Downton Abbey are great. If I had cable I'd never miss the Daily Show or Last Week Tonight. I got to see The Daily Show live in NYC! PBS also has some great programming that proves television has great potential for good and isn't inherently bad; US laws and policies just lead it to be so. Yay Frontline and American Experience! CBC Doc Zone and The National too.
cold water, Trident gum, internet & laptop, parentheses and semicolons, mass transit
I've never had a girlfriend and barely had sex. I've given up on ever finding a girlfriend or experiencing love or sex. There are millions of great people in the same position, but we are marginalized and stigmatized into silence. I stay here mainly out of fascination, curiosity, and entertainment. Did you know 2/3 of the people on this site are men?
Or you are willing to woman up and make the first move with a man. I prefer women who practice sexual equality (a key reason why I'm single).