If you're looking for someone who is smart, kind and funny, at least most of the time, you may have come to the right place. If you give bonus points for being offbeat--or at least it isn't a dealbreaker--then read on. I can be a very good listener, and I can also appear to be a very good listener! I'm complicated, unabashedly contradictory, and like to laugh at and with myself and others.
I'm not one who thinks conflict should always be avoided. I don't seek or relish it, but I do think differing opinions are just dandy, and have been known to speak my mind. (I blame my New York upbringing.) If you're from the East Coast too you probably know what I'm talking about! Sometimes you just have to tell it like it is!
Although I can be very serious, I try not to take myself too seriously. It's a delicate balance, and one I appreciate in others as well. If you are intelligent--and don't need to hide it--we are much more likely to get along. I like different perspectives and culture, and I love to travel.
I'm very much a city person, but really, really love the beauty in and around Seattle. I've gotten very used to trees, mountains (and personal space), and enjoy having them as part of my life. I like exploring different neighborhoods on foot and by bike. Or by car.
Humor and laughter is a must! As is an appreciation for irony, contradictions and the absurdities to be found in the world. I love most anything relating to food, and am an excellent eater as well as cook. And words and ideas are important to me! I pay a lot of attention to politics and current events. I'm a big believer in social justice, but also find a lot of nuance in situations and am not a big fan of dogmatism or overly-simple perspectives. Just because you're progressive doesn't mean you shouldn't be smart about it! I also don't pretend that I always live up to my own ideals. Remember, I'm not too serious, and I also like movies, books, music, long walks on the beach and all that good stuff! I'm a big fan of hedonistic enjoyment, pleasure and sensuality.
I'm not a big believer in strict gender roles, and think they're bad for all involved. I consider myself a feminist, even if it's not always apparent from my attitudes and actions!
So why am I here? I would very much like to find a lifelong partner, but I'm not counting on that happening tomorrow, and open to all kinds of adventures along the way.
Oh and I hate being pigeonholed, or filling out dating profiles. Answering some of these okcupid questions can be very frustrating! (Which is more important--air or water???) I'm great--trust me! Better yet, don't trust me, but find out for yourself!
The last few years have involved a lot of professional and personal transition, and maybe even turmoil. At times a good lesson in humility. But they say whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger, and I am still standing...
I'm happy to share the detail, but I'll save it for now, so we can swap cool stories and good conversation.
I enjoy playing the keyboard and guitar, but I'd have to know you really well before playing in front of you!
I also play a mean game of Facebook Scrabble!
Books, movies, music. I had this section filled out, but I'm deleting it. When I read other people's profiles, I tend to think "who cares?" It's not important to me that we have the same tastes. And if that's a key factor for you, well maybe you should just move on to the next profile!
Oxygen & Water
(That's six, right? Or close enough!)
But if you insist, here goes: although I can be very logical and rational, deep down I'm a romantic at heart.
Bonus revelation: I've played more Candy Crush than I care to admit. :)
Or if we're a good match. Or not. Speaking of which, I'm not entirely sure what to make of this site. Is a high match always better? What about the idea that opposites can attract? Can't be too much of a slave to the okcupid algorithms--it is based on those silly questions with the excruciatingly stupid choices! No offense to Cupid, but we gotta think for ourselves!
You should message me if... you're still even reading at this point. Or if you want to. Just do it!
AND, if I've sent you a message, and you haven't quite gotten around to responding yet, then you should definitely message me!